When I started this industry I could never understand the providers that only did things based on the gent (YMMV) I thought on the surface it meant "oh this bitch is one of those, she goes by looks, thats terrible" now that I've been in this for a while (still a lot to learn and I hope to learn more before retirement) I see why they say that. On my profile I took out a lot of services not that I don't provide them but yes it YMMV. Is it based on a person's appearance? No,  it's based on my terrible experiences.  

Anyone might be the lover of DATY/DATO/(Add Acronym Flavor Here) but if he/she resembles Baghdad down there, you'd turn around.
Different strokes for different folks...not every sauce is the same.
I've learned don't knock it til you try it. Go with the flow/chemistry is what seems the norm.
Can't read off a play by play script.

She said "Jack, you do these three things and you will get the most out of your hobbying experience:"

Rough way of saying it, but true.

I feel you on all the above.  Let me say this, to the gentlemen that don't have common courtesy and don't understand the gentle approach, you guys are idiots.  Shower, brushing your teeth, simple hygiene for that matter should not be something a woman should have to tell you.  It's common sense.  Biting a woman's clit? Well thats just dumb, trying to fist someone without their approval, stupid, there are fools born everyday and apparently some of them like to hobby.  

In my admittedly limited experience, I've seen a couple of providers who had "finger in vagina" indicated on their profiles, yet they asked me not to. I'm very gentle with my hands, and work somewhat slowly from rubbing the outside to inserting finger a little bit. I just assumed that they may have been tender at those times, or that they thought I might be too rough. I figure it's their call to make.

I try to do everything right but in this most personal of interactions...  a coupling of 2 unique individuals...  I expect YMMV.  I try to give as good as I get but always let her guide me.  I am the motor but she is the driver.

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Asian SPs in my area do this and people don't notice it at all.  

You can't make him use it.

I don't think she was talking about doing rimming, but having it done to her. I'm glad TER has the give v.s. receive distinction on profiles. I could be wrong, but the DATY part makes me think otherwise.

No one should mistreat or disrespect or break boundaries......Funny when you hear escorts say it's not about money thats why working in business.Without money escorts wouldn't surive in life.Make a date without payment see what happen gents.

In my agency days, a friend of mine "famous" for rimming used to use a bent, lubed-up finger instead of a tongue.  

Good Hygiene goes both ways.  I am extremely clean but I know that everyone have different standards.  It is possible for someone to have a bad day but I will not go back for second helpings if I have seen the provider more than once and the hygiene doesn't meet my standards.  

I don't review providers who have done YMMV things with me because I'm not going to be that asshole who says she did CIM or Greek even though it's NOT on her menu. She only did it because I'm such an "awesome"guy. We have all read those reviews and I don't want a provider PMing me in anger because the next client demands that she do a YMMV item because "Durham Drew reviewed about it." We all know that guys don't read, or comprehend, stuff on here. I recently got into some trouble because I mentioned that a provider had posted a "scat" video (it was one of those European, Religious-Themed ones.) Anyway, some TER member bone head PMed her asking about "her"scat videos (he thought she starred in one) Yup, she was pissed and told me so. She's not someone who takes shit from anyone (no pun)  She's also my regulars best friend who thinks the world of her. I even sent a Xmas gift to her to say, "sorry". I couldn't resist writing "love Drew" on the tag tho. She may not forgive me. There goes that double ... Forever.  

Yes, I've heard major rants about guys not getting DFK. It's as tho they take it as an insult that they can't get kissed by someone who is fucking them.

That's because people think their breath doesn't stink. Smoking, coffee, garlic, onions all linger long after you brushed your teeth. How many brush their tongue and floss? Not many is my guess. I broke up with a girl because her morning breath smell like she had a midnight snack out of the cat's littler box. It wasn't"dragon breath". It was "cat shit breath" fucking Horrid. The reason, she didn't brush her teeth before she went to bed ... ever.

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use it, and they still won't.  I buy bulk in mini bars of soaps because I do not like the idea of my guests having to share a bar, so I know if they just unwrapped and didn't use it.  

Are these you norms when you did your research or are these the funny exceptions?
 I have posted many of my experiences over the years. I am still here

Rancid ass? Is that an oxymoron?

Everyone knows how awesome you are. You need not remind us!

I am a gfe provider and I love providing. I absolutely adore most of my clients however I have noticed about 1 time a month I will get one guy who thinks its totally ok to stick his finger in my ass and then stick it in my vagina. It's happened 4 times in the past year and each time I try to go with the flow and just pee as fast as I can without disturbing our session. EACH TIME now I have been admitted to the emergency room with terrible urinary tract infections , pissing blood, on antibiotics fo 7 days, losing work, in terrible pain and weakening  
My system since I am on antibiotics. Im so nice that I never say anything but at this point im wondering how retarded are some of you? Do you not understand female anatomy and that you cannot go inside someone's ass and then inside their vagina? Also, I do not advertise ANY anal services. Im straigt up Gfe. Now Im starting to get angry because I feel disrespected and I wonder how im going to react the next time someone tries doing it. I thought anal play was not necessarily Gfe, so why do some people do this to me without even asking??Next time  someone does this Im putting my foot down and saying NO! Thoughts on this FIA to FIV issue guys and girls??

Do you have a web site? one statement then. NO ASS PLAY. FIA equals two in the eyes. You are correct, some guys are just that stupid. Porn is real life, right?

You're totally right. I just am such a people pleaser I just go with the Gfe flow and want my dates happy but the pain agony and suffering Iv been through has been too much. I will add no ass play to my site I just wonder if there's a nicer term you suggest? I just don't want to seem mean on my site. Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it

Fucking hell. Sorry! That sounds frustrating and awful.

You can stop them you know. You, and you alone, are responsible for what happens and what dies NOT happen. Like each of us is responsible for our protection.

Sometimes subtlety is the wrong approach. Using a 2x4 (metaphorically) works very well.

No visiting the Greek Islands.

it would be quicker to just list the things you WILL do...LOL   (jk of course).

some people need to be introduced to the real thing.....

Why should i retire because someone doesn't want to take a shower. I just won't see them. It's crazy I will not tolerate anyone being smelly for mONEY!!!! nope. I guess i will be a low volume provider no problem with me.

gentle lover and clean

No visiting the Greek isles via dingy or cruise ship...should take care of a dick and the finger.

You might not get the report that you inadvertently caused an infection. Not a good practice to go from ass to vagina with anything.

Stop them and say ... go wash that finger with soap and water! Then say, "NO FIV after FIA"
PORN has made people stupid with ATM and vag sex right after anal without a break/wash.
Hey,I'm all for anal play, but it has to be clean and safe.
You can't have one without the other.
Put your foot down!

You'll have to find your own double ... Nice try tho  

I don't openly offer rimming (sorry guys im still new idk all the escort lingo) becasue some guys arent 100 percent great with their hygiene. I give full front to back yum yum as I call it lol but only to those who