So ever since i started in this industry ive been having several clients every week stop all contact with me once I ask for screening info like date check id or info for Rs2k etc. Question for providers and hobbyist...
 Is this a common occurrence for other providers?and is there a certain way to ask? And as a hobbyist don't you assume that any provider you see will have some sort of verification processand are you generally okay with that? And using Rs 2k and date check info make it easier for both parties and a lot of personal information is not given to me directly so not really understanding the hesitation.  
       Just curious if this is common and why? I thought maybe from paranoia since I am a new provider but you would think that asking for screening info will put more trust in a potential client then if you didn't screen at all maybe they will be paranoid about le....thoughts?

I do have potential clients stop contact after my request for info for verification.  It doesn't happen often and I think they were either not serious or unsafe dudes hoping I'm one of those ladies who don't screen!

Not sure of a nice way but ASK!
You should get what ever intel from client that makes sense and most importantly comfortable. If he does not wish ty k provide,  move on.

Many have not proceeded with me because I do not give last name or employer

It's more the hobbiest, at least in my personal experience. I was hesitant especially after the Ashley Madison security breach. I only joined TER recently after 5 years hobbying. I didn't want to join any hobbying sites due to privacy. I am careful and relies on TER on provider reviews from hobbiests. I do have 2 providers that I see regularly and they are my tickets to see others if I want to see someone new. I suspect that many hobbiest (maybe new to the game) still want to stay under the radar until they get more comfortable. I don't plan to join others rating or whitelist websites that may require a fee (providing financial data) as it adds to the complicated live of the hobbiest. Just want to keep it simple and stay on the sidelines. Having said that there are those hobbiest in every site and you can have your pickins. All the best and enjoy this wonderful industry and the oldest profession.

Not too often, I think most guys are on the up and up and not out to waste time...but I have a couple that have been emailing me almost monthly or every other month for about 6 months now and every time I ask for for references they disappear again.  I can't quite figure out the reasoning, especially the ones that keep coming back or the ones that have multiple identities...

Thanks yes I would also assume that they would have something to hide as well... Or I've also thought maybe they just want serious... But it's literally 50% of all inquiries for me...smh..

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It could be any number of reasons, honestly.  They could have been cops, attempting to entrap you. Those inexperienced in mongering oftentimes think that YOU are the cop because you require screening information (I can't tell you how many times i've heard that one).  

Most of the time though, they just don't want to screen/give up personal information, and decide to just cut communication instead of give you a reason.  

Tis the life.  There's no certain way to ask for it.  I have what I require on my contact page.  Also, be aware that advertising on a certain site that happens to have the same initials as British Petroleum, hell, even Er*s, you encounter lots of people who are not hobbyists and have no idea what date-check, p411, and rs2k are.  

You also have to keep in mind that there are those that exist in hobbyland who are adamantly against screening with any sort of identifiable information, and you'll never be able to convince them otherwise.  To each their own; simply move on and forget about those that won't supply you with the information you need to feel safe.

This is happening so frequently these past few weeks. I just ask for two references,not name and number, and guys act offended and halt all contact. It's weird but I just assume they are time wasters or LE.

...hobbyists would give you the info you require (if it's stated on your website) in their first email to you.  That way you know you're more likely dealing with trustworthy guys.

But I won't fill out a contact form!

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Happens to me quite frequently: they'll tell me they're RS2K but then when I ask for the info, they'll disappear.  That most often means they're not really members, but were just trying to pull a fast one.

Some new RS2K guys (even a few who joined long ago but only used it once) honestly don't know what they're supposed to give us and become alarmed when I ask for name, phone #, City & State; they somehow thought that it was like others services where they just have a membership number.  

Then they're guys who claim to be P411 and will even give me a valid client ID but when I request that they send me a PM through that system, they disappear.  Or give me a TER handle but the email he's using doesn't match up with any member.  Same deal: trying to hoodwink me into seeing them.

So yeah, my verdict is most of these are guys who either do not have the screening info to give, or try to avoid giving it out if they can find another lady who doesn't require it.  

 
Now, I have had a few guys over this past year who really are RS2K members but hemmed and hawed about giving me the verification info.  Even emailed with me back and forth multiple times, hoping to find a way around giving me that info.  They just don't want to put their real names out there unless there's no other alternative to meet the lady.  But I had a good feeling about those men as they were very upfront from the get-go, and all turned out well in the end.  (One of them did not realize he'd inadvertently given me his RS2K info and probably still thinks I let him slide on it lol!)

 
Paranoia can often keep you safe, so stay vigilant!  

 

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I have to make a choice to take the risk based on convos with the person over time or insist on the info.  I fluctuate...I totally enjoy the man who approaches me with all info desired in the very first contact email or text.   It just does not always happen that way and often feels like I am pulling teeth to get the info needed.  I feel that hobbiests should have some idea what it feels like for any woman to open her door and etc to a total stranger.  I am sexier and more open when I feel safe...go figure!  

Hat being said I completely understand the need for privacy related to work, personal, etc.  Tough place

I usually don't think much of it, but it is frustrating when they go thru most of, or all of the screening process and then just disappear. Sometimes just when u start asking questions they stop replying. I think that atleast saves me some time

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deems necessary to feel safe with a potential client. Some guys just do not read details on a lady's website so they might get flustered when they don't have the specific info (DC, RS2K, etc.) you request and then they don't want to give employer information or other personal information either. They just disappear.

This is odd because I include my info in my "hello, I want to meet" email. My guess is they are not serious about meeting, but the thought of being a bad boy is enough to keep them in masturbation material until the next time v

I don't have anything to hide but I have been the victim of identity theft and it is really difficult to go down that road again.  Don't assume that we all want to do harm to you because we are reluctant to give up personal info.  I am a newbie and I really don't understand the screening process.  I think a lot of guys are afraid that their providers will hang onto their personal info and somehow that will come back to haunt them.  It does not help that every provider has her own way of screening.  I think it would be easier if there was a standard.  On the other hand, I do understand why providers want to screen potential client.  I would actually like to hear from any guys that have had a bad experience with giving out personal info to providers.  I keep hearing that it is a bad idea but no one has actually given a real life experience so far.

Of course this depends on where you are advertising.

Even though my ads all say :
verification is required NO EXCEPTIONS
if you don't know what this means you won't get past screening

But still they text me and the first thing I ask is:
Verification details please?

and 99% of replies are:  
what does that mean?
or
I dont have any Im just in Vegas for my birthday PLEEEEEEEEEEEASE see me! (oooohhhh if only I had $1 for every time i heard THAT old line)
or
NO RESPONSE (usually no response)

Sometimes I think they try just because they think its something we escorts write to avid LE
But its not ...I write it to avoid assholes