I've had a recent string of diehard keyboard "hobbyists" threaten me to go to the board to warn hobbyists about me when things didn't go their way. Like a child crying to mommy when they didn't get their way. Life happens. Shit happens and not at the moment anyone least expects it or wants it. The past few years men were understanding and nice but this year I have had a handful of clients turn into giant assholes on me. I am always happy to discount the date or give ample extra time for free to potential clients as a complete apology if I was running late or needed to reschedule. I had one guy this year threaten with "I'm gonna go to TER if you don't do _______ for me.." People biting the hand that feeds once again. Is this a new common theme? Why all the hate? Been reading around about guys posting threads on flakes on the board lately and can't help but feel frustrated. As most know we are dealing with 18-29 year olds and a bunch of old guys expecting the world from them in return as they sort through their life before they move on to a different field. Feels like the industry is just getting weirder and weirder with "hobbyists"...Any comment on how the hobby has changed as of late? I feel super lost and done with the hate/ fake niceness from hobbyists. Seems like the genuine nice guys are rare these days

But keep searching--the nice guys are still out there.

I assume all ladies have a life, "I" just don't care about it, as "your" life is irrelevant to me because we don't have a "real" relationship. Your life is your life, and it should have no impact on my life.

People from both sides come here (or on regional boards) complaining.  Sometimes the discourse reveals who's telling the truth, sometimes not.  You are no doubt right that some guys use the threat of bad publicity on TER to get things they have no right to.  But it's also true that providers mis-use TER to slam guys who simply gave them an 8 instead of the 10 they wanted.
It's endemic to this site.  Complaining about it may make you feel better.  But it will change nothing.

One bad review even if approved shouldn't be end all be all. If what the guy ask you to do is not human like don't do it. You could screen better get to know the guy first on phone. Only a few provider have reviews and only a few of those have meny reviews. This is why many provider try to get regulars. If she a ripoff it takes a while to stop her and she just get a new number. There ripoff on both sides safety should be number one.

then one asshole isn't going to cause problems for you as people will see that you are well regarded.

...this is actually a good response...good for you...

Old fools like you give out  tens like candy with  hope she'll see you again .    
       One of these days you'll realize, no matter the score, most  women aren't attracted to frumpy old men attempting to act manly while wearing diapers.

As for you, when I clicked on the Inbox of your mind I got the message "this folder is empty."

...just like a provider can (and do) do the same. Our local boards are the perfect place to do that. We hobbyists gotta have each other's backs.

came across to me like a DNS b@tch.

I hate this term, but a friend of mine reminds me that it is a business transaction.  What is good for business? A doctor who cancels on their patients (often) a plumber who never comes out after agreeing to an appointment?  A customer who does the same thing to their hair stylist or a doctor too? Life happens which means shit happens and their should be some understanding that sometimes appointments don't work out. If a provider or a client develop a reputation as one who frequently cancels then it's normal to hear about such people.  

If you are having this many issues with this many guys is it possible the issue is YOU and not them? You are the one common denominator in all of these problems, are you not?

If you truely make up for inconviences to your clients then you'll have nothing to worry about from a post or bad review.  About all experienced TER hobbiests know that reviews of a unique coupling of 2 unique individuals will be unique & should be expected to vary within a normal range...  and an outlier occasionally is no big concern.  It's big swings that concern ME, especially a PATTERN of big swings in the ratings.  Even the 'numbered' scores are of less interest as the details of a review as often an incompatability is revealed...  and often not her fault.  (She wasn't my type, I booked her anyway & she wasn't my type but she tried hard to please me.)  

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I'm a person who is chronically late.  It's just in my genes I guess.   (Although they say that messy tardy (not retardy, assholes) people are exceptionally creative ...)

People that are chronically late are self-centered narcissists that believe no one else's time is as valuables as their own. It's bad enough encountering this in the civvie world, but when you are paying provider rates for someone's time it is especially disrespectful to be late. "Shit happens" is a lame excuse.

I never knew that

I totally get it, though it has yet to happen to me. I usually take care of this by browsing the forums and keeping up with the posts of hobbyists. Any hobbyists who are grade A buttholes get ignored/ blocked, I also keep an eye out for those who have certain attitudes about the hobby, and post too often. I also read the reviews they left for fellow providers.  

Yeah, we all get that sometimes plans don't work out and something unexpected occurs. That should be a very rare occurrence. Personally I've never had any appointment cancelled or been told it needed to start late -- though I have had to reschedule one (absolutely no parking available within walking distance and I kept looking for 15 minutes while on the phone with the booker).  

Not necessarily.
There are plenty of keyboard cowboys out there that are 180 degrees in real life from their online persona.  
But if you want to use that criteria to screen, more power to you. We ladies and gents hobbyists are sometimes not what we seem, and that isn't always a bad thing.

anyway.

I understand using an alias to vent this thread, but really if you are getting several threats like this, you should probably look at yourself and see if you are on point.  We providers can get tired...ok to take a healthy respite break and get refreshed.

It's part of the Opera. The Soap Opera.

This applies to both providers and clients. If I don't like the way a provider does business I have a very simple solution, I don't see her anymore. I don't care about discounts or apologies, I care about good TCB and a good session. If I wanted a lower price I'd see a lower priced provider.

Ever since I started, while I obviously needed to find my "niche", in the beginning when I was having some trouble figuring out how all this works, there were guys who did what is happening to her to me.

Well, my only comment would be to make your screening process more thorough including ( if you don't already) talking to them on the phone.

How's this for a nightmare date? A guy wearing khakis buys you snails. lmao

An interesting observation ... from a guy who buys sex.  I suppose you do it, not for your own pleasure, but for the good of humanity.  Take a bow.

Even when not wearing khakis.

No, he wore a suit because I like men in suits. But I also like men in anything clean cut that fits to the T.  

My dearest Jake.

I also disagree about you're not being good enough.  I'd say you're far too good for him.

She likes corn on the cob.  But off the cob?  If any gets on her plate she won't anything else there.  So compared to her you're relatively sane.  I did say relatively.

Oh, no. I'm good enough. I am just being silly lol.

That whole snail and shrimp bit isn't uncommon? I tried scallops for the first time, and I ate them. I enjoyed them, followed by a nice shot of tequila.

At least I admit it.

Do whatever you feel to do. That board is for for old farts who make appointments once a month or two or for just virtuals  who never booked the girl at all. With your experience do whatever suits you the most. And only you. Xo

you. While that is not happening, you have zero credibility on this boards. The one who gather info only from this boards is a fool and he is misleading the others. (though I don't care about every idiot who took your words seriously)

A lot of hobby trends tend to be regional or start out that way. If there has been a recent spate for you, have you reached out to other providers in your area to see if they are experiencing the same thing lately?

potential clients--NOT.

Them. There's a walk that men do in them. A discreet skippy cat step that is an Allen Edmund wonder. A New York step.  

a new P.C. softer, gentler attack?  Your point is not very clear.  I made this observation long before I ever paid for sex.  It's not unique to the provider world.  If you've never been the guy on time waiting for someone else, then you must be one of the disrespectful the ones who is chronically late, and I hit a nerve with my post. Your attempt at sarcasm is just lame.

reviews are nothing like my posts.  I've been told it seems like two different people.  Maybe I am.

I was addressing the OP as the placement of my response shows.  But after reading yours, I can see why my post got your nose out of joint, prompting the nasty reply, but as they say, if the shoe fits . . .

attract new customers would NOT say the things you say about various groups of hobbyists, so we KNOW you're NOT trying to attract.

Why would someone roast you if your fair?    A lot of young girls are always late and I just expect it.
Murphy's law is very much in play in the hobby.    I have had 2 reschedules , 4 no shows, 7 lates, and one mad out of 24 dates.     The reschedules were done ahead of time so no problem.    The no-shows were due too good reasons and the agency sent a good replacements.    They were honest and right up front with what happened ( wrecks, children broken arms, bad weather, etc. .  Not first date choice but I was satisfied.     The late arrivals were due too anything from traffic , party ( over slept), unloading a birthday cake for me, poor planning, client ahead not on time.   Had a couple of girls come up behind me at the in call.    Knock knock no one there.   Lol.  The mad was due to me ( newbie ) not understanding reviews and worked out problem.   Had one transgender whitelist me and don't know why.   Never had a dealing with him.   Thought I was someone else I guess.    All purchased time was received and accounted for through all this.     I have never been late or not shown up.     I wonder how understanding providers will be with me if I'm late or no-show?    I drive 3 hours one way for a date.     If a provider puts all kinds of penalty's for delays in her web site I avoid them.    I have never had so much fun and such good sex in my life so what a great hobby it is.    It's a shame I was 70 yrs. before I found out abut the hobby.    Thank you girls.

I do the same

You and Jake need to get a room.  This romance is way too public.

Anyone on this forum (including myself) who points fingers at others and says "narcissist" is going to elicit guffaws from me.  

that is why you have not had any new reviews in the last 10 days. Is your mail box full so hobbyists can't even leave you a message?

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stand up to someone . .  . . oh wait, you're an alias.  In that case, that's the way to stand up to someone while you're hiding under a rock.  Lol

she doesn't have a clue about the concept of marketing.

And your presence here is somewhat marketing technique?

we could have been a little dirtier. Then again, he's Jake from State Farm and is wearing Khaki's

If I hear something really bad about a provider I have ALREADY seen, I naturally measure it against my own experience and usually it makes no difference.

Is because I'm not Hispanic, so I never got to appreciate as s child how much fun a piñata can be.

On the phone late at night talking to husbands.