Does she owe you an explanation why?

Discuss.

that they could take them back, but yes, if she can and did, I think an explanation is not too much to expect.

explanations to any referals in process based on the WL.

I can understand how this can happen in some cases.  No grudges hopefully.  People often part ways and want to make the separation more complete.  A provider may just not want to be a referal for the person anymore.  

But it does take some explaining if you were in the process of being screened when it happens.  It will raise eyebrows if a provider actually uses them for screening.

I personally think it would be best that they stay unless something significant happens during a session or some type of unacceptable hobbying behavior - but at the same time ladies should not over use a WL too much if it is old, unless it is the only starting point.

that opinions of folks change.  for the most part if it 'just happened" and you had not seen her between when she giveth and when she tooketh... then... I would say she has the issue - and leave it alone.  

If you've seen her between the giving and the taking, then something changed.... and perhaps, it was something about you that changed.... but again, leave it alone.

only place where you've an issue is where a lady backlists you for some transgression you did not commit.  This would include:

1)shorting her.
2) getting rough with her without her permission.
3) failing to follow her published rules and immediate requests such as get your fricking finger otta there (no matter where there is)
4) being really dirty and refusing to clean up.
5) being drunk and disorderly
6) causing her embarassment in a public place and that includes acknowledging you know her in a public place after you've met her in the hobby.
7) stalking her.
8) disclosing her line of work to ANYONE.
9) disregarding her safety
10) being an uncouth jerk....   while I may be a jerk online, up close and in person.... I am green.

I got the explanation first, and then it was pulled.  In her case, it had nothing to do with me.  To my understanding, she had a change of heart about the process itself.

In that instance, I thought that the explanation was a good idea.  I'd have wondered if she was concerned about my "gooditude"

Personally I only give whitelisting to clients who:
1.  I have seen a number of times
2.  who I have seen again within the last year
(and after a year I will remove it as people DOo change and I can no longer honestly put my approval on someone I haven't seen recently.)
3.  Only my A+ clients get it - just like in school as I consider it the honor roll

Now as far as an explanation, if she wants to give one yes that would be nice but she is not obligated to you do so.  I say this because with whitelisting it is the girl's reputation that goes along with that giving of a WL.  So if the guy is a jerk to Lady B and Lady A gave him a WL, it is NOT only him but her that now gets a bad reputation.

The behavior of the guy may have changed and another gal let her know that he was "bad" and she decided to take it away - but remember it is HER right to give and HER right to take away because it is HER reputation too.

So ask nicely for an explanation.  If you get one then great, if not move on.

A lady who gives us a white listing is *vouching* for us..it's pretty much the same as a reference.

Most providers I know are not going to be comfortable giving a reference for someone they have not had contact with in many months....

just one of several reasons I can think of

I know that when everything went down in MN, I pulled all of my whitelists without contacting any of the gentleman about it.  I wasn't going to be vouching for anyone without doing it personally for a while.

Also if it's been a long time since your last visit, someone might pull the whitelist.  It's a way of vouching for you and most women won't vouch for someone they haven't seen in the past 6 months/1year/etc.

But if it concerns you, shoot her an email!

~Jen

I would say no. I have only taken away one Whitelisting, and trust me, he knows exactly why he should never ever EVER bother asking me for a reference again

Very well-written response.

Now, Misty, how can I make your honor roll?  I know, I need to find my way to Arizona to see you.

Thank you so very much Kid.  Hmmmm, let's see, first we have to get you to class and then we can see how "good" of a boy you are.  Perhaps I should consider you for "home schooling" and come to you??

Bloody Mary if you deleted a review. No explanation needed there either.

I myself understand what it feels like pondering if you should take a white list down. While a reveiw is for the service a gentlemen receives for his time with a provider a whitelist says to all other providers that this gentleman is trust worthy.

I have given a whitelist to a man who didn't have any but did have two favorite ladies he saw besides me. I only saw him twice but both times a gentleman. He needed a reference and I gladly gave it to him and the whitelist as well.

He has booked me a few times way in advance and then cancelled the day we were to meet. Some are saying what's the problem he cancelled.The problem is he kept me stringing along just in case a new lady wouldn't see him.

Here's the catch...He booked two hours a week ahead. 2 days before our date another provider called and said I know you gave .... a whitelist but I just wanted to check anyway. I said he was a very nice gentleman with me always and please say hi. Well that morning he called to say something came up and he couldn't make it. She had said he was booking for that exact day we had made plans for but hadn't answered his request yet. I didn't say a word and never would.

Now i'm colder to his advances to meet as I know he sees all the ladies and I don't want to be booked and him cancel. I would have no way of knowing if he is just stringing me along if whoever he sees just takes my white list as a reference and does a work check again. I just miss anyone who tries to see me during that time slot and he's holding it like it's worthless.

I'm glad I got that off my chest folks...I feel a hell of a lot better and this is why these forums are so good.

Kisses Haley