Like Prince, for example.  

Do they seem less threatening, and because of that make you feel safer?

I couldn't say, that a feminine man would be less threatening or
make me feel any safer than a masculine one. It all depends on the person.

My guess, would be that some feminine men are more understanding of women and their feelings and women may bond faster to these
types.

 

Kelly~

they don't present a challenge and will submit to our every desire on time without much threat of us not getting what we want. the last thing we need is some dominant bastard rejecting us when we have our panties down around our ankles. rejection is a bitch.

I DISAGREE WITH YOU ON THAT POINT.
I think prince may show whats called ..wait I'm trying to think of that word....I think its androgenous
I have been to private prince parties in the past he use to go to lesbian clubs like peanuts on santa monica.  He like  pretty women who seem to have no flaws.HE LIKES MIXED RACE WOMEN OR WOMEN WHO HAVE THAT APEARANCE.

I HAD THAT SAME QUESTION I hear women say they want the man to get in touch with his feminine side. so these guys try to get sensitive & some even try dressing like a women to so called  " get in touch with there femine side".

I know that in my commuity you get beat up for being a femine male  or having femine intonations of your voice.
when I was over in saudi arabia there was no femine males or gay people who would make it known.

I use to run around with porn stars ,  models ect so I have seen & been around alot of different people and the women seem to find those men amusing, some can not stand a man that puts on make up or more make up then them. I know a guy who does make up & wears it that gets more women then anybody I know and he gets all the best looking ones the top 8,9 and 10's while other women can not stand him cause just using any makeup is considered femine or being a punk.even if its to do a music video or film ectits not accetable to some guys or women.
I know women who are just entertained by these guys I think the girls & pretty sure that some of these girls do what we call blackball the guys (use a strap on on them). some women just do not like the man thats a jock or the testorene man who is thinking about sex all the time & can not wait to get in your pants if your a female.I know model material  women who will not dress up  so that they do not attract these masculene  testosorone men. some women jsut want role reversal. I see these role reversal women tend to be the ones who dress like a dominatrix. seems like that feminist lawyer gloria ???? is like that. I think also some of these girls just like to manipulate guys.

First, it's a great question.  Like so many other guys, I've noticed the phenomenon for years and it's always bothered me that these fem-men seem to get so much female attention.

Anyway, the study I referenced found that a woman's preference to the type/shape of men's faces changed throughout her monthly menstral cycle.  When she was ovulating, she was more attracted to an angular, masculine type face.  During the rest of the month, the test subjects found the softer, more "feminine" male faces more appealing.

I don't recall the exact conclusions of the study, but I can come pretty close by paraphrasing- when a woman was subconsciously looking for a healthy father to fertilze her little egg, she wanted the type of man who conveyed masculine genetic health.   The rest of the month, she wanted to hang with the less threatening guys.  

Perhaps they're more non-threatening (safer and stable), perhaps just more familiar to her (more like what she sees in the mirror), perhaps it's a latent mothering thing (rounder, softer features characterize the young face).  There was also a theory put forth that the less masculine face was a better father candidate to raise the baby (more likely to stick around)- but not to make the baby.

But in any case, it's not in your imagination.  Women DO go for guys with a feminine face... at least most of the month.  



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I like effeminate men. They are fun to hang around with. Its arousing to see their back, with wonderful hair, and then wow, its a guy! I had a boyfriend who was like this, and I had short hair and dressed androgenously with a trenchcoat and bowler hat. These were the days of the book and movie "The Unbearable Lightness of Being." I guess I have always been bisexual, and when I was younger was selecting mates based on this ideal. I am a masculine female, in that I like do carpentry and renovation. I can install wood floors, plaster, paint, etc., and keep a pretty good manicure. I enjoy working with my hands and being outdoors in nature, and fixing my pick-up. Perhaps I don't find typical masculine males (i.e.) gym rats, appealing because I am not consciously selecting a mate that will provide for me, but rather someone that will complement me. However the hobby has really blown everything to pieces, because now I know not to judge someone's sexual prowress based on their appearance, this goes for both women and men.

I took an Evolutionarry Psych course which devoted about a third of the semester to that topic.  The desire to have a the best of both worlds (a strong, healthy child, and partner to stick around and help raise it)usually mean that a woman will desire a more verile man during her time of ovulation.

A slightly off matter, but which relates to the prevelance which this shift in desire is acted upon was related to me by a friend.  He works at a lab which tests for genetic markers in children when both parents are carriers of an undesireable trait.  Obviously when parents go to this extent to check, the father is assuming that the child is biologically his (otherwise this wouldn't even be an issue).  Apparently more than 25% of the children tested turn out not to be the offspring of the man.

And in case you are wondering - the lab doesn't inform the parents of that matter.  They just tell them that their child is healthy.

What turns me on about feminine men? The idea that they are comfortable enough to express that particular aspect of themselves. If they naturally have a "feminine" personality, they should not feel the need to present a "masculine" persona for the sheer reason of conforming to the standards society sets upon men.

because most of them are bi~ I like playing that way.

Shaye

and of all sizes and shapes, I would guess. Michelle Darlin', send me a pic of you in that tool belt and nothing else of course. Well maybe the high heels.   LOL

If I ever get in touch with my feminine side, I won't leave the house.

What a great fucking response.

I feel that I am blessed with both a strong masculine side and a strong feminine side, and this allows me to appreciate life that much more deeply.  Unfortunately, many men are amazingly insecure about having any feminine traits, and I have even known a few women who were threatened by the strength of my feminine side.  In reality, though, it is something that we are all capable of possessing...if it isn't socialized out of us at an early age.

Kelly also made a good point.  I have known many women who told me they were more open with me (some even sexually) than most men because they knew I could empathize with their feminine side.  
Non-agressive belief in yourself can go a long way.

This is interesting.  Please expand on this.  In what way were they threatened?

the only thing I could say would be out of pure jealousy.

I dated a woman once for 18 months who said that my enjoyment of domestic chores made her insecure in her role in the relationship.  She was young...obviously.

I dated a woman once who said that my desire to communicate and be supportive so strongly (both characterized as "feminine" traits) made her feel like she was ineffective in these areas, and wanted to be with someone who needed more of that from her.

I dated a woman who said that my ability to be so affectionate and emotionally expressive (again, traditionally characterized as "feminine" characteristics) made her feel like she was too hard, and she didn't like "being the guy".

Okay, now that I opened up to you...who the heck are you?  You have been on here for too long to remain an enigma.  E-mail me at [email protected] can keep a secret.

"I dated a woman once for 18 months who said that my enjoyment of domestic chores made her insecure in her role in the relationship.  She was young...obviously."

Why do you say "obviously" she was young? Contrary to popular opinion, not ALL young women are immature, nor are all older women "mature" (psychologically, intellectually, etc)....

As much as I loathe generalizations, here I was making one myself.

For the most part, women I have known, as they mature, have come to view my enjoyment of domestic chores as a contribution to the household and as a blessing. The only women I have known who defined their relationship persona by traditional gender roles so much that they were insecure about this aspect of me were young.  However, this may have been because I was young as well, at that time, and I have simply been making more informed relationship choices as ~I~ have matured.

Thank you for making me think about that one.