Ever find yourself falling for your provider? Is it best to cut off the relationship or see where it may lead

But I am happily divorced with no SO, and when i do so, I do it with my eyes wide open.

Keep in mind, I speak strictly for myself. Most guys are incapable of having a relationship with a hooker and should run for the hills the moment they start developing "real" feelings

She seems really into me but the skeptic in me says she's just really good at her job I know most bodyrub providers are talkative but our hour sessions last 2-3 hours, sometimes till morning

And that is to take the money out of the equation  if she starts seeing you for free, you can bet she is really into you, until then there is always the element of doubt

Case in point,  I am spending the next few days with a provider/GF of mine. This is going to include spending at least one night at her house where she and her children live, and I will also be meting her mother. Sounds like a "real" relationship, right?  The thing is" I still pay her, although she doesn't call it that anymore, so I truly have no idea if she actually has feelings for me, or if we have simply moved into a SD/SB relationship

I plan on taking my own advice and simply taking it, and enjoying it as it comes, and if she is playing me, I am certainly getting my money's worth, so no harm done. The danger is opening up emotionally before you are sure, that's how you end up with a broken heart to go along with your empty wallet lol

Good luck, to both of us lol

I think your view is a little cynical. Most women who do this, do so because they are tired of making a lousy wage at a job they don't enjoy and are tired of waiting for Mr Right to come along and marry them. How many of you support your wives, or at least are the primary bread winner in the marriage? Are you saying that a working girl doesn't have the right to have a man in her life treat her like he would his wife or significant other? I bet most girls doing this would like to get married and have kids or whatever they need to do to fulfill a marriage contract that allows them to not have to work for a living, or at least not have to support themselves entirely... and look at how often your significant other/wife satisfies your physical needs... you stop treating any woman with respect and she'll stop taking care of your needs. She makes her money as a provider, so you need to respect that... Like you said yourself, you're getting your money's worth and more. Remember, trust works both ways. From what I've heard from other men and other providers in this biz, it's much better than online dating. After all most women are looking for financial security and most men are looking for... well... I don't have to say it This levels the playing ground and starts from a place of honesty. You stop taking care of her financially, and she will see that as a lack of respect. Every day some provider leaves the biz for a guy, the guy falls short on his promise to take care of her, and she winds up back in the biz. Why should she take all the risk? Just one guy's opinion.

Her before pics are that of a hottie...petite..slender

I am not interested in a relationship, civviy or otherwise, that is based on my promise to "take care of her"

I am a firm believer in equal rights for women, and equal doesn't mean me simply being a "meal ticket" for a woman. If that's what floats your boat, that's ok be me, but that's not the kind of "real" relationship that I want.

I've got no problems in women working for a living, whether that be sex work or any other kind of work, but my point remains, as long as you are paying a woman, you will never have any idea if her feelings a genuine, and in the case of a civviy relationship, if she won't divorce your sorry ass if your finances ever go into the tank.

Fwiw I've had numerous "real" relationships with hookers where money was not part of the equation, but I never asked any of them to quit working either. Not all hookers need to be "taken care of" maybe that's why I have many hooker friends? Lol

And just how strange is this ass we are talking about?

And as for medication, booze seems to work just fine TYVM lol

It doesn't work in the work place, and it sure the hell doesn't work here.

sometimes twice. LOL

Hey LR, I didn't get your drift.
What point was a made that you don't agree with?
I have thought about a SB/SD relationship, just don't know if the wallet could or should, support it?
What do you think?
BTW, see ya in the "Big Easy"  

oops, double post  


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I didn't mean from a married or committed point of view I ment more of a single guy trying to turn a 'hoe into a housewife' kinda thing? But sage advice given

What a tool.  We should call you The Wedge; Simplest Tool Known To Man.

I'm not quite there, but it's close. I have to remind the "Little Head" that she's a Working Girl. So far he's listening to me.

A woman waiting for Mr. Right to come and take care of them. I do not know many middle class and upper middle class families where both doesn’t work. In some cases, women makes more money than the male which makes her the primary bread winner.

Wait till  she says "not tonight dear" or he comes back from being out all day sweaty and smelly and drops his pants wanting a BJ.  

Some are social retards but most are not. They just don’t want to play games and abhor drama. Do you realize how difficult it is to find a drama free civvies out there.

Not sure of your definition of a king but I would say, those who wanted to be treated like a king are generally a pain in the ass because they are the specimen of ultimate selfishness, no empathy for other, unreasonably demanding, habitual complainers and never satisfied.

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