Funny that you bring this up. I remember one provider that I did a few over nighters with. She was constantly calling her kids early in the morning or late at night to make sure they were not fighting.

She had a problem with her daughter finding her provider shoes and clothes.

Do hobbyists kids know what daddy is up to?

Like any human being with a secret, providers know how to cover their tracks by spinning reasonable yarns.

They know. Mine asked me if I know a pimp.

When my BM was in the biz our daughter used to tell people, "Mommy works at a hotel...well... actually she works at lots of hotels."

She was a housekeeper, that's our story and we're sticking to it. Hopefully by the time she's old enough to put 2+2 together her memories from that young age will be too vague to draw the obvious conclusion.

I am surprised when providers in the their mid 30's tell me they have kids 18 years old. I am just curious if they know what their Mom does?

Kids should not know, their kids.  I beleive most providers that are good parents keep the little ones far away from what we do.

My 3 year old son does not have a clue about his mother's job and if I can I am going to keep it that way for the rest of his life.

You never told us your offspring was such a perceptive and artistically inclined chap.

OP. Those boxes of condoms only work as water balloons up to age 5.

Seriously ... Some posts make me wonder.

Lina

Compared to some of the stuff my offspring knows about, hobbying would look pretty tame.

Dear Sweet Teri:
I was wondering if you had an opinion on how to disclose what you are doing and what ways are most appropriate taking in consideration the age and the maturity of the child? Also in what ways would you brake it to them and would you use certain examples of the industry to disclose it to them? Also would you also be extremely careful of who you would see with respect to clients who might be from the area you would reside in or who might have kids in the same school as yours if faced with that decision? The question is the same is when James Baldwin wrote Giovanni's Room several years ago: I told you I was an escort as opposed to you discovering that I was an escort. Just some of your thoughts as a parent Teri.

...so I think the answer is, sometimes, yes.

it's a risk that we all take when in this business.  Exposure.  

If they find out while I'm still working in the business, that'd be tough.  If they find out when I'm 80 or 90 (living in a "community of similar-aged men and women), I'd have already had show and tell.  Hell, I'm having my reviews put in a safe until it's time for the "coming out" party!!

Now, that will be a hoot...I'm thinking that they'll say,  

"Go, Mom!" , but not for a few years.  Not now.  

I'm with you girl, this makes no sense. Aren't we all in the same boat here? Apparently not according to some. I always find that funny when hobbyist come up with questions about my folks knowing or not, like does your folks know you're in a provider's bed at the moment? What makes me any more different then a hobbyist? Man I can't read these posts it can be depressing.