how she survived until i came along???
Do you ladies ever go through periods of being broke, even though you have been in biz for years??
Just need some solid answers on how and when to trust.
I love this person as a friend and don't wanna kick her to the curb.......i really need some good advice, not opinions.....thank you.

ps, i know some will flame me, but, i just get involved, because i care. ( we always wait for the NEXT person to do it, but, i don't )
pss, of course i've heard several times to not "Trust a Hooker"......????? ( hookers are people too )

no man, not living with her and i don't get high.
serious question, PSSOM.

ps, i do always enjoy your wit and humor though.

No details...Just a bunch of cryptic one liners put together.

Why is it your responsibility to make sure that the provider finances are in order? Can she not get another real job if providing is not working out for her?

I think you need help yourself man...

There is no way you could be a positive influence in a persons life.

That's why he always attracts people who are emotional basket case like he is.

Lungman needs to get away from this hobby and fix himself first.

I've had many scenarios where I had an attachment to a dancer or provider.  In every case, they gave me a convincing sob story and I fell for it.  For a period of time, all was ok.  The pussy was good, it was kind of nice feeling like I had won over her love and affection.  But every single time, it bit me in the ass.  The lies, the taking me for granted, the constant reminder that ultimately crept in where I was accused of not appreciating all the free pussy.... on and on...  I actually learned my lesson and every so often another opportunity presents itself such as last week when a provider told me all about how she enjoyed me, doesn't see anyone else anymore, is trying to get her life in order, get a real job, blah blah blah... then the kicking point is "why don't I let her move in with me so she doesn't have to worry about working so she can pay rent.  She would treat me real good, and oh, maybe I could help her get a cheap car so she could get back and forth to a job when she gets one....  Having learned my lessons, telling her no was immediate and without hesitation.

Despite your put-down, your right Curly.......she needs to get a job.
Thanks, i'm done with the whole thing.

i don't need to be ( A POSITIVE INFLUENCE ANY LONGER )).......i raised my kids, who all have graduated from college and are doing great.
My NEEDING to be a positive influence days are over........if it's really any of your biz.
I now ride by the seat of my pants and I LOVE IT. ( it may not be your way, but it is mine )

If she wants a SD, it comes with obligations on her end which from what you have told me, she is not fullfilling. Cut her loose, or demand she takes care of your needs whilst you're footing the bill. She is using you as her ATM, and not putting out.

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Thanks London. ( i hear ya finally )

...it's not what you think..."Dont fall in LOVE with the pussy."

If you love her as a friend, do you pay her for services rendered?  B/c p4s kinda negates a "friend" relationship.   I don't pay friends anything.  Here's the kicker - friends dont expect "stuff" in return.
If she expects stuff from you...guess what...she's you're wife!  Not your friend.

Not sure if u r already married; but you need a girlfriend or a wife for this emotional bullshit; and see the party-girls just for that.  

I'm sure the best advice you've gotten is from a provider (ie. someone like London).
I have a feeling you need to put on your little boy pants & do what needs to be done.

Now go watch "Braveheart".

I have to say I totally know what you speak of (though I never got to the move in stage) so maybe I should consider myself lucky!
The sad thing is that I will probably do it again at some point. I always think the best of people, I love helping, and I really doubt that these girls are doing these with bad intentions. I just think they are put in bad situations.
But at some point, you have to end up saying something and hope that it triggers a reaction for the good. Although most often it will result in the girl getting pissed off or just her moving on and never hear from them again.

Fool you once shame on them.  Fool you twice then you're just stupid.

I always liked Captain Save-A-Ho

Why not head over to the mall...go into any five retail stores and ask those gals that are working for near minimum wage if you can help them out?  Many are single Mom's as well  LOL

Nope...you'd rather stick with the hookers hoping that your generosity will somehow be repaid with pussy.

Hasn't worked yet for you...and won't.  But feel free to continue trying.  Hey...take up golf.  It's about as expensive and the object is still to stick a ball into a hole.  But no need to save Carl Spackler from himself  LOL

If it's not his biz why'd you post in public ?

If you want women to adore you for all you do , it's time for you to throw  some positive vibes .

 I believe bigvern was saying  you can't help someone else get their head
together  when you have no positive  confidence in your own mind ,

 
You do need some kind of help . Try Yoga first , lots of girls in Yoga class .
Probably won't help your self confidence, unless you keep quiet until you
are approached , and then act shy .
You  might get lucky  .
Yoga makes women horny .

nah!!!
i already play golf.

High risk of contracting STDS according to my doctor.

If you care and decide to help someone, then help someone and expect nothing in return. If you think you are helping someone and want somethings in return then “I want to help” is pure bull shit.

This is how you complicate your life. You help someone for something in return but you don’t tell them what you want in return. You expect them to read your fucking mind, they cant’, then you think they should know it on their own even though you told them you don’t want anything in return several times and the first time you helped she was ready to do something and you said “it is ok baby, don’t worry about it” then, you go around fuck boards and ask for advise. What the fuck is wrong with you? Are you fucking juvenile?

This is not that fucking complicated. If you want to help someone out of goodness of your heart, then do so. If you want to help someone based on barter, then say so. It is that simple.

If you help some expecting something in return, and gave the impression that “you don’t want anything” because you are just a nice fucking guy who goes around helping people, then you are not only lying to yourself, you are also deceiving the other person who is taking help from you.

Finally, be truthful, be honest, be up front and grow a set of fucking balls.

By the way you are not the only one who has helped or helping someone else, many do and they don’t tell because they are not selfish pigs and don’t pretend to be nice guys.

Not the answer you were looking for, but gives some food for thought to solve your own problem, it is all about how you see the world. It is not $$, life is more than $$$, it comes, it goes and you don’t take it with you and when leave it, it makes your heirs lazy and they fight over it, become enemies so, why bother. Do what you wish and be happy.