recently, i had given a gentleman the address of my incall location because he stated he was close by so i felt it was necessary to give him the address. i had given him the info around 10:30am and he didnt show, which we all know that "no-call no-shows" have been quite common lately so it wasnt really a huge deal. so all day i went on about my business as usual, until about 9pm that evening when this man finally shows up at my door  "just to see if i was real"! has this ever happened to any of you? i felt like he thought he was entitled to just drop on by because of the appointment we agreed on earlier that day that he didnt keep. it freaked me out.                           monica

Your post doesn't mention screening, I sure hope you screen ALL clients.

Did you open the door? If someone showed up at my incall unannounced, I would never open! I would just tell him he needs to leave or I'm calling my security guy (and yes, I do have someone about 3 minutes away, but even if you don't you should say so!) He might be a first timer, or maybe he was drunk, but it could be worse, he could be dangerous and now he has your location. Scary!

NCNS is bad enough, but this?!!!!!

Couldn't he have shown up at the appt. time "to see if you are real"?

exactly!  its never happened to me before...... i was just wondering if anyone else has had this experience before.

and if it's someone that already stood you up after getting directions be sure to note his phone number. Any man who does such a thing is up to no good. Did you check this guy out at all ? If not I hope you learned a lesson.

Be safe and watch your back, he may be right around the corner.

Kisses Haley

showing up at any incall at a time other than appointed time is stalking. going out of your usual routine to a place where a provider "hangs out" is not as serious but is still stalking.

you have every reason to be freaked. as you have described it, the guy sounds like he has problems.

They used the two call system (the definition probably varies by provider).  When I was leaving, I'd give her a call tell her I was on the road and what my ETA was.  She'd then ask me to describe the car I was driving.   She told me exactly were to park, and said to call her when I arrive.

When I made the second call upon arrival, she'd look outside to verify my car was actually there.  Then and only then would she give out her room or apartment number.  She would never give out her location until she knew you were there.  One of them even took my call while she was sitting by the pool, and then when she saw me walk past and checked me out, she followed me inside.

You can't be too careful and you just found out why.  There's no excuse for him showing up like he did- you're not his booty call after he strikes out at the bar.   He's totally clueless and you don't need clients like this guy.  There are a LOT of providers that make a 10:30 AM appointment because a child, BF or husband is sitting there at 9:00 PM when he showed up.

i do screen ALL my clients.

No way! This kind of behavior is not acceptable.

He "NCNS" and then stops by later that night without you knowing? Stay away from him, he sounds like he is a creep. Nobody in their right mind does that. I swear, some of these guys in this hobby are straight up nutz!

i blocked his calls, he was calling me.... from the next day on. but its so easy to get a new number, he hasnt been back so far.

What he did was wrong indeed.  It is a** wipes like this that think they can get away with this kind of crap and you let him... even worse...

But, YOU are asking for trouble.
I hope this scared the hell out of you. it should......

Go to your room young lady and think about this situation and what part you played in it and how
you could have prevented that.... I am scared for you.............

i been a provider and a dancer for just about 10yrs. im 28yrs old and i own my own 4bdrm home that IS NOT my incall location, so there are precautions i do take to ensure that nobody in this hobby  knows where i lay my head when i decide to lay it down for the night. so its not like im scared that he will come to my home and attack me, my home is 40 min away from my incall location. i did since then step up my security and got another phone that i will use only for security just incase a problem should arise. so yes, i did learn. keep in mind, he said he was where i told him to be at in order for me to give him my exact location. im not new at this , it was just a freak thing that has ONLY happened to me once in 10yrs.

but this is really uncool.  I hope he realizes that you will never see him now!  This kind of bad behavior is freaky/annoying...  really bone head move on his part.  

You are right to step up security.  You might even want to use another location for a while.  

I think you did it right & have a good plan.  Nothing is perfect.   This just proves WHY ladies should not work from the same place they sleep.  

A lady I have repeated with...  I was trying to be discreet...  I called from the hotel drive entrance, not the side door she had directed.  When I said I arrived, she said "I don't see you!"  I drove to the correct door & all was well.   A visual is your last line of defense...

Best Wishes,
H

alot of providers do work from where they sleep, it is one of the most dangerous things to do. even when i traveled, i rented 2 rooms, 1 i slept in and 1 i did my business in. it was well worth it, it made me feel safe. NEVER has a client shared the very bed i sleep in. as for changing my incall location, no i wont because im not worried anymore. he would have to be a huge fool to cross that boundary again....... this time, im well prepared. i just want others to be aware that this does happen and it might just be a case of him getting messed over by a few providers that do appear to be someone that they clearly arent. but none the less, it wont be happening to me ever again.

Honey I'm so sorry this happened to you!  I always assume something creepy in nature can happen with these NCNS's who have your address.  I don't give it out until they are on their way, as until then, they only know main cross-roads, but I too lately have experienced a high volume of... OMG!  This is probably some asshole's new way of stalking Providers he never intended to meet traditionally!  (Maybe!)  But thank you G2 for this advice; I will handle all 1st time I/C's like this from now on.

I would have kicked his ass right there, literally would have jumped on him and tried to claw his eyes out. Very,very scary situation and classic rookie mistakes and seriously hope you learned from it. Never open the door to someone you dont know, change up incall locations every week, month,etc etc. Two call system, you dont give out house/room/apt number until the client is there and visible. Be careful out there and stay safe.

Well, it sounds like you've handled things appropriately and you have a good head on your shoulders.

Hopefully, this will be a one time experience but I would find a way to warn other providers on your local board...........after you've moved your incall and changed your phone #.

Do you know his true identity? I'd tell you to report it to LE, but I know this just invites problems for providers depending on where you live. I feel for you ladies and the risks you endure providing wonderful fun for men like me, then running into mister creepo-stalker.  

Now ladies I understand the convience towards "Incall" assignments. Though if your incall is where you lay your head down nightly,family and friends visit. Then I would suggest an apartment that six or more girls could lease six months out of the year. Therefore when you leave you never have any fear of a wack job showing up uninvited. I think it shows poor taste for a lady to expose her personal residence to strangers. You run risk one of these parties observing your daily comings and goings what if one appeared during a family get together? Or worse broke into your flat,villa while you were away? I prefer Incall at a posh hotel for married clients that I have a history with. To each her own and always monitor your outside residence should you work out of your home? Any suspicious cars parked and or someone sitting around could be LE,serial stalker god forbide...I have learned in this business to never trust strangers and very few people I know as well. My safety is imperative at all times...