*caution: bitch fest post, kinda*

While I do see a LOT more women than you do each month, I don't review, I don't have whitelists, and I don't give out provider referrals and I seem to have no problems booking with the ladies here.

The one thing I do have, (besides a big mouth here of course) is a P411 account with recent Okays. That seems to get me screened with no further effort on my part. I don't really mind screening, as long as it doesn't require me filling out one of those insipid little forms, but I almost never seem to even be asked past giving my P411 info.

I don't know if P 411 carries the same weight in your neck of the woods, but where I am, which is both Atlanta and Dallas, it seems to be all I need.

Sorry to hear you are having such a tough time, I hope you have better luck in the future.

Not sure what you might be doing wrong...You seem to be doing everything pretty much textbook..
You seem to also write just fine. So you don't give impression of some ghetto dude who needs to be ignored.  

feels abysmal recently.  like maybe 1 out of 7 or 8.  but I am not really keeping track.

I would estimate that I book with at least 50% of the women I reach out to, probably more like 75%.

Unless they say or do something that really turns me off, I've pretty much already made up my mind that I want to see them before contacting them, and unless I do or say something incredibly stupid before meeting them, I can't imagine any lady NOT wanting to see me. or more accurately not wanting my money. The rest is simply a scheduling matter. sometimes the times just don't work out, or one or both of us leave town. Other than that I just don't seem to have the problems that many of you seem to have.

For the record, I don't have any reviews, whitelists, nor do I even have a job, and haven't had one for over twenty years. If I can get through screening, anyone should.

I am not having his problem. I just called him a twin because of similar hobbying pattern.  

Or are they just going radio silent? Agree with Curley....your reviews are respectful and you otherwise seem to be doing everything right.

Lets say.. If you blast out 10 emails to women that you found in TER search. And about 50% respond to you, and you actually get a date with 2 of them.. That's not bad actually considering few factors..  

If a lady doesn't respond back to you, you can contact Gina as she will make sure she does, or get delisted.

Of course I don't really want a lady responding back to me because she was forced to, that's probably not a recipe for a great session. lol

...but my "close the deal" ratio is 100%.  No p411, no reviews posted here (for like 3000 different reasons), no whitelisting, just me and the dozens of women I've seen, most of whom are happy to say a few nice things about  me when contacted.

My only tip:  To get over the hump with the first few in particular, don't hold back on the personal info.  Make sure you're dealing with a lady who's been on TER for awhile who has good reviews--maybe back-channel a bit for confirmation.  And then, painful as it may be, disclose, disclose, disclose.  Personal info, including work details.  If you have the slightest bit of a "presence" on the 'net (NOT your Facebook account--something more like a listing of your name, or better still, your picture, even it's for something silly, like you coming in 3rd place in your local bowling league), mention it in your email, and provide a link.

Also, mention in that intro email why you chose to get in touch with that particular provider--you can get a little gooey/silly here ("Even from your brief bio on your website, you seem like someone who is truly empathetic," etc).  This makes the young lady feel as if you think of her as a person and not some commoditized, objectified piece of meat.

When I've bothered to ask a girl, "How did you know I was ok?", I'm told either "your references checked out," or "I didn't bother to check your references--you seemed ok, and I just went with my gut.".

If at all possible, go to M&Gs.  These provide an automatic method for both sides to check out the other.  Generally speaking, an outreach email to set up an appointment, sent within a day or two after the M&G (before she totally forgets your face/name) will see you through without any additional screening.

Just treat it like a business, in a way.  Your intro emails are like cold-calling.  Your post M&G emails are followups ("It was nice to meet you Thursday night.  You might recall we talked about how we had both recently gone skiing in Colorado, and are big fans of "Justified")...stuff like that establishes a personal connection immediately.

Don't know what else to suggest, m'friend.  You write well enough, it appears.  Keep plugging away, and after successful first dates, make sure the girl knows you may be using her as a reference (some girls seem to prefer that you tell them in advance that you might be looking for that extra bit of help from them).  Beyond that, I think you're just the target of some unfortunate streak of bad luck.

Cheer up, and redouble your efforts--I'm sure you'll do fine in the long run.

I've noticed over the last few months my inquiries such as emails and pm's are not being replied to.  A trend perhaps?  As a part-time hobbyist(4-5/year), this might be noticeable by the provider..i.e. I won't become a regular, and she takes no effort to reply.  Sometimes it's frustrating but it's not like my dick will fall off if I don't see providers every week.

If you can prove through other ways or means that you are a legit monger.  

Try to see different women too so that you have more than 3 girls you can hit up for references .  

If I send 10 emails out 7 or 8 respond within a day or two.  The others get back some time later,  sometimes never.  

You don't have to want GFE or write them a romance novel to book an appointment.  Business transaction is fine.  You also don't need to see multiple girls each month to be screenable.  If it's been years since you saw a provider or your references can't remember meeting you, that's where you'll run into a problem.  

Don't get me wrong I appreciate all the legit reviews that other members have written, well except for the meaningless 10/10 reviews given to members of the OTHFBC, but I have had no problems securing "dates" for pay without them either.

not to sound flippant...

Some girls demand a handle though.    

You say some of the providers you've seen seldom give out references, but seldom is not never. If I were you, I would talk to your most recent ones, explain your situation, and ask them directly if you can use them as a reference.

These girls your seeing repeatedly should be more reference friendly. That's terrible they aren't. As long as they do their research, and you do yours, reputable ladies will give you a reference.  

...Granted they don't carry the weight of P411 OK. I've heard some providers say they don't give them much credence but to say they are useless is at the least inaccurate. I have several white lists and have had providers say my white lists were sufficient. If a provider I contact asks for references she is going to get the information of the 2 or 3 providers I've seen most recently that white listed me. Don't assume that a white list from 3 years ago means I haven't seen her in 3 years.  

There are always going to be some queries that get no response, but your ratio seems high.

I have regulars but i dont get that many calls. Any suggestions?

I haven't found too much of a problem finding providers, several of the best that I've seen had decent TER reviews

Without knowing the data, I'd have thought that was probably close to the average (that's about my average), though yes, I know there are a lot of high volume guys here.

..is a far different thing than disclosing to you so that you have that much more material to whack off to.