I posted a more exemplified version on the NY board but for National board purposes...
I know its true for me about second time hobby luv sessions.. but I'm sure that many of us will also agree...that it's BETTER the second time around.(that goes for 3,4,5,6,7...)Although,I do hear from many of the guys that they prefer to see a provider only once as variety is more their cup of tea.


Just curious to see what everyone on National TER thinks?



Cheers!


-- Modified on 7/16/2004 7:17:50 PM

I like seeing a new face and figuring out her skills. Plus I really do not see a large number of providers over the course of a year, so newness gives me that extra charge.

A girl's point of view...
I think the second time around is way better.  The first time there are the nerves of meeting someone for the first time.  You have to build trust and if someone is shy you have to help them past that.  
The second time around you already know what they like and what they want to try and have already built trust.  Much better!
~Shayla
www.sexyshayla.com

If the chemistry's there, it definitely gets better with time and experience.  If it's not, then once is too much.

Here's another dimension to consider:  age and experience.  When I was younger, variety turned me on -- I wanted to taste every flavor and touch every texture.  I could get enormously turned on by the fact that the curve of a lady's leg was slightly different from anything I'd seen before.  Now -- been there, done it.  While I like a nice body as much as the next guy, if she doesn't have it upstairs, she'll leave me cold.  

The focus has shifted: now the excitement is in seeing how the physical dynamic grows and deepens with successive encounters.

You have a dozen ATF's. That way you get variety AND a second, third, fourth....etc  session.

I think it's called a harem  


TET

The second time with a provider truly can be a spiritual experience. With all the nervous fears and awkward first time blunders behind both of you the sex can really be spectacular.
   The third encounter is when the other edge of the sword can start to cut. Now that you are fully comfortable with each other and all your sexual tastes have been either practiced or discussed now comes the big question;
          Do you like each other??

Sex with a stranger will always be very titalating.
Sex with a new "lover" is always very satisfying
Sex with someone you otherwise wouldn't spend lunch with is very empty.

  Although my mantra "It's All About The Money" is a rule of thumb in this hobby there are a few ladies who have the intelligents and strength of character to actually establish as well as nurture client friendships all the while maintaining their "boundries". I wish to salute these exceptional ladies. For they have found the magic formula to having a good client base and not making us feel like "clients".

  Cm.

There is certainly the thrill factor of meeting a new friend.  I'm fairly shy so the nervous feeling I get before such an encounter...I love it.  However, the majority of my visits are repeats.  I return to where I am treated well.

(My friend VonRyan may have shortened his post from the NY board, but I'll just recycle my reply from there for the sider audience here.)

Well, I have often said to the lovely ladies I've met that there is a world of differece between the two types of experiences - of opening the door to lay eyes for the first time someone new, different, exciting; and of opening the door to an old friend, where both parties are already comfortable with each other. Both types of experience have their relative advantages, but they are very, very different experiences.

Many providers have said, in response, that they generally prefer the known client - well, for obvious reasons. Although, that is not universally true.

For myself, I'm not really sure which I prefer. Though I do find that it is often better the second (and third and ...) time around, I suppose because of the comfort factor, and the "I know what you like" factor.

At least for me, these things tend to run in cycles. Next week, I will be meeting a new provider for the first time since early June. Of course, between then and now I have had a dozen or so encounters with old friends. And all have been wonderful-to-spectacular sessions. Still, the anticipation of that new face, that new body . . . it's going to be a looooong weekend!

It is good to have the satisfaction to want to return and enjoy the "old friend" experience. Except I usually see someone else before seeing a provider again to keep up the spirit of variety. Sometime the other will make me appreciate the old friend. There are some great providers out there but also ripoff artists and ones who are not what they make themselves out to be, as reviews show.

-- Modified on 7/17/2004 3:33:30 PM

this question is asked periodically if one has been around a while.
It was a survey question once upon a time:

How many times do you see the same provider?  
Results
Once : 23%
2-3  : 43%
4-5  : 13%
5-10 :  6%
More : 13%

There is a wealth of information about those of us who partake of this hobby.  I alwasy suggest to ladies new to this biz or new to TER that they read and re-read the survey results as to learn more about their market.

ML

I have been enjoying this hobby for several years and have, on occasion, gone back to see a lady whom I was particularly taken with, for a repeat visit.  Almost without exception, the repeat visit has been disappointing, not having the spark and freshness that I remembered from the 1st encounter.  I seems to me that the sexual pleasure and excitment that is shared by two people in a repetitive manner comes from what they share otherwise. You have the couple who have been together 50 years and,for infinite layers of reasons,still bring a twinkle to each other's eye. You take that down to the scale to a relationship that you have more short term, but still involving shared feelings and experiences beyond the bedroom, which keeps the physical a renewing experience.
    The thing about this hobby, and I love this hobby, is that, in the vast majority of cases, there is not relationship outside of that room and beyond that time frame.  In most instances you make no pretention of knowing the young lady's name.  The whole experience is based on the physical experience. Understand this is not a bad thing and that statement is not meant to lessen it or any of the participants.  For me, at least,since it's primarilly about the physical sharing of a moment whth whom I am never going to go any deeper, a new and fresh experience, almost always, means a new and fresh partner.  I know that there are exceptions to this, butthis hobby is about the moment and the sharing of that moment, not about a deep relationship.

I have always preferred to see  a lady several times.
I feel that forming a "relationship" is one of the things I want from the hobby.

1st time sessions are always a bit tense or stressful for me.
I have always tried to contact a potential new lady via email and phone prior to meeting to help make that first meeting easier.

But I think that, in my case anyway, seeing the same lady more than once, multiple times is much more enjoyable to me.
Being a regular allows us to be more relaxed and at ease with each other.

Just my opinion...
B

It is similar to ordering an ice cream cone.  Do you always order the same 1 or 2 flavors or do you try new flavors almost every time you visit an ice cream shop?  Now, if only hobbying was as cost-effective as ice cream cones--but, then again, the ice cream cone is gone in 5 minutes.  Hobbying can be priceless; at least for an hour or two.

on a 'regular' basis (whatever that ends up being). You become that much more comfortable and the experience really broadens and develops.

The one time only encounters are fun, and exciting, but my faves are with regulars. There's no comparison in my book..

When it's someone who you could have lunch or dinner or breakfast with -- and in the hobby as well as real life these connections are rare enough -- it can get better and better and better.

And then the quick one-off with someone new can feel hollow as opposed to tittallating.

Of course, these are good problems to have.  

Tend to agree with the repeat notion. If the first encounter goes well, then i want to build on it. Over the years ,however, one of the frustrations with this for me is that without warning, the ATF drops off the face of the earth [figuratively speaking] and there is no closure[yuk, I hate that word, but it works.]

to becoming a regular.  However, I also recognize that the ladies sometimes need to "retire" this way.