I don't understand why people think it's necessary to make their life completely fictitious.  However,  it's very common as of late.  So,  let's discuss the why behind the lies.  I  see women creating backgrounds that are so unbelievable that we literally joke about it. Guys just make up bullshit stories about their careers,  military service,  marital status...all things that really won't stop me from seeing you.  So,  is it the hobby itself that fuels the lies?  Is it insecurity? Is it a safeguard?  I'm not judging,  I am just curious.

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Which has the higher percentage of martial status lies

Who knows!  Maybe it's the guys' insecurities and feels he HAS to build himself up in a provider's eyes. Me personally, I'm an open book.  If I feel comfortable enough I won't shut up.  Plus I'm too honest at times. (I know that there are some who will read what I just said and go "pfffft"  Hey, that's there opinion)

Whatever floats people's boats, I guess.

My name is obviously an alias, but other things are not. At some point you loose track of the lies, and it all come back to bite you. I prefer to keep things simple. I screen quite heavily, so I generally don't feel that the stuff that comes up in casual conversation is all that threatening to me. I've always been a pretty upfront sort of person though.  
As Curt Cobain said "I would rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not."

Guys who are really married and claim to be single.  

But the unnecessary lies?   Why?

"Historians and archaeologists will one day discover that the ads of our time are the richest and most faithful reflections that any society ever made of its entire range of activities."

Good point The  paid experiences that they are looking for is fine.SAFE hobbyists....

....why lie and try to impress someone that you're paying to be with you? Lol as if she'd care one way or another, as long as you are respectful and pay the donation is probably the only thing that matters.

i truly feel that i've got nothing to lose by being totally honest about myself, so i open up even more than i would in civvie life.

For my daughter's MRI.  And my skin did not lie, you could tell there a ring had been there for years.

Most lies are eventually going to come out anyhow, so what's the real point? Especially lying to someone you are paying to "like you" in the first place. I mean talk about dumb, I guess it's the same phenomenon as people who try to impress their waiter when dining out. As if the waiter, (or hooker) really give two fucks about how great and important a customer claims to be.

...I don't ask direct questions about her life and I wouldn't answer questions that I would consider indiscreet.  But I'll talk about kids, my real work, my extended family, travel, etc.  I consider myself careful, so I guess I don't understand why people would feel the need to lie about their life -- just work in broad strokes and skip the little telling details.  

I don't lie because I am a widower, live alone, the people in my life who matter know what I am doing. My P411 is accurate, so what's to lie about?

I dont see the point. Its a business transaction. Now in the sugarbaby world. Look out!  Guys lie about their money and plans. Gurls lie about everything.

my family, my pets, my job, my education, where I live, etc. If the topic comes up in conversation, then they get the truth.

You must see the ring marks on their wedding band finger lol.  

First of we start the whole process by using fictitious names. You are Erin, and I'm Mo. Or was that Jo? Technically that's dishonest. Even though it's dishonest, it's appropriate for safety reasons. Then, we are going to meet to, presumably have sex. You don't know what I look like, and I sort of know what you look like, but you hide your face, so I'm not sure. Once again, that's dishonest. No one in their right mind would agree to have sex without looking at each other first. But once again that's the protocol, so we just do it. Sometimes we're happily surprised, and sometimes, well Yikes! Next, can I believe your reviews? Did you write them yourself under a second fictitious name (yes, there are those who have more than one fake name, especially among the guys)? Did you offer free sex to have someone write you a great review? Did you get a friend to write you a great review? So I truly don't know what's going to happen based on your reviews. Trust me, I've been burned by too many ladies with great reviews to rely on them. And what about me? Can you trust me? Do you trust my two references? I might have been nice to those two, but be a real jerk off in life. And yet for both of us, reviews and references, while not perfect, are something we have to live with. It's part of the process. Next, when you cum for me, is it real, or is it a lie? Many ladies have stated on these boards, that it's all a lie. Lastly, the chances of you becoming my atf, and I yours are pretty slim. Over the years I've done hundreds of ones and done. Once in a blue moon, you click with someone, and want to return for a second visit or more. Even though you're a professional, and will give me everything you've got, chemistry is chemistry.  

and some of you sound so jaded about this whole thing I often wonder why you even bother with this little hobby of yours.  

Mainly because you nailed it.  As for myself, I could not have replied to his post because once I opened it and saw how fucking long it was, I dumped it.

If they don't care, then why do they ask?  I have never volunteered my status but get asked intermittently. Are you saying guys enter a room and start out by saying " let's be perfectly clear I am single".

Time remembering the truth to keep lies straight
The military lies piss me off because it's more than
Just "Stolen Valor". Some providers offer military and disabled vet
Discounts so guys lie to get those. That's great! And yes, there is an ID card for Disabled Vets.  
Ladies, no card- no discount! Please. I can't think of anything lower than a fake vet! Some people
Take this fantasy shit a little too far ... That's my rant for the day.

I lie while playing poker a lot. My opponents must decide if I'm lying or telling the truth, sometimes partial truths. Sometimes they guess right and catch me, sometimes not.

I don't even find being with a hooker exciting, or interesting. I usually enjoy my self, but it's far from exhilarating. How's that for sounding jaded?

I don't make up stories about myself to impress hookers. I do have a "Back story" that changes a few details about myself for the protection of my family and my business life.

Now, there are some obvious and innocent reasons why some clients really don't want to share what they do for a living, so they say something like, "I work in a bank." When in reality they own a dry cleaners which they hope none of the providers they see ever decide to visit.

If either client or provider are deliberately misleading about details that can be a deal-breaker, then that's no good.

You don't want a guy to ask about your shoe size but you expect a real name and ID?

I'll look you up on facebook to be my friend and we can talk honestly there.. K?
is your little white lie better than a big ass lie?  For u, I guess so..

That's partially true  yes  I'm not  fool enough to put my real last name on ter

I have nothing to hide, and I like good conversation.  My ATF and I know all kinds of fascinating shit about each other.  Hell, once she even went to the restaurant where I work, hoping to see me.  I was on vacation for the weekend, so she had to settle for calling me and having a nice little phone conversation.

That's my whole point DT we do not care  

1) A few years back, I told clients what about a certain activity I used to do (say knitting). That information was apparently spread over PM, and one person even posted a comment under my TER ad referencing it. When "knitting" is googled along w/my real name, it brings up tons of info and news articles, etc. That wasn't what directly caused me being outed, but it certainly didn't help when I was.

Most seem comfortable with themselves.  

Great Post!! Most people out themselves.  

Liars lie, it's what they do. I don't think there's any reason to give specific details about my/your life.  But no reason to make up crazy lies ether.