I am looking for your opinion on this. I have been wondering about for the past couple months.

I will take your thread with much more seriousness if you can admit you are in love with this hooker.  

Maybe she just got an inheritance?

I can't speak for this lady...maybe you could ask her....if she really likes your company and the fact she gets paid to be there is a bonus.

I am not in love with her. I just like to spend time with her. I do not want anything more then what we already have.

I totally agree with you that is why I pay her to come and see me. I would not expect any less from her.

with a hooker's pussy!

Just not sure on how I should start this conversation with her. Or if would totally believe her because of the money that I give her. She could be just telling what she thinks I want to hear.

Yes, I think she likes you. How much, who knows - she may not even know. I think money is what men bring to any relationship whether the woman needs it or not.  I could be wrong about that but I don't think so. But I'm sure the thrill is also soon gone in a relationship with a husband who stops contributing financially.    

It sure seems to me that you do want more.  Otherwise why care about if she only sees the money as some type of bonus.

there are a lot of gentlemen that i enjoy to be with and envelop is a bonus and also a way for me to make sure that if gentleman stops seeing me i do not feel like i just got used and dumped

That's a pretty good indication you have feelings. You don't want to say "love", I won't quibble.

Do you know what young hookers do with those?

Thank you

Just simple wonderment on my part nothing more. If she decide to move on with her life it would not be a big deal to me. She is sweet lady to be around and we have a lot fun together. If it would end tomorrow so be it no lost on my part.

Of course I like her if I didn't like her I would stop seeing her. She is a fun person to be around. Who doesn't like to be around a nice, friendly, awesome person.  

Only she knows for sure on how she feels about driving two hours to spend two hours with me then drive home for two hours. So for total of six hours of her time just to come and see little old me. I guess that is my answer.

I like you, but you have a warped view of relationships.

You do give me a good business idea, though. I think I can market and sell "break up" insurance.

Stop the money.  I suspect you will find that when the money stops she will stop coming.

She obviously likes you. Don't screw it up by making any pronouncements of marriage, bfgf, free services, or the like. If she wants to make a pronouncement herself, then it's okay to take it a step further. But a more likely scenario, one that happens 99% of the time here, is that one day you'll stop seeing each other. Until that day cums, enjoy yourself

How true that is. I know that also. Her time is valuable to her and I don't have a problem paying her for her time. If she like me a little and the money is just a bonus to her I am good with that also

your current favorite lady is about to leave this industry. She is no longer interested in seeing any new guys (website down, etc.) so you and other previous clients are her sole income source for now. Could she be finishing up a degree and then off to the RW?

I know how lucky I am to have found her. Until the day it does stop I will keep it as it always been. Two people who enjoys each other company nothing more. Because I am not looking for anything more from her so it easy for me to do.

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We don't talk to much when we are together. We are way too busy having fun to talk about her life or my life.

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pretty lame answers to your straightforward question.

Just as I expected!

Since she's not looking for new clients and just seeing however many she has, it probably means that you're okay with her. For one thing you repeat on a regular basis that she can more or less count on.

.that is the crux of his post. What is pathetic is that he is asking all of "us" for answers. Actually that is the crux of his post.

This is the answer I was looking for. Yes I am pretty sure she is not advertising herself anywhere else, unless she is using a different name and number. Yes her web site is down and P411 account is not active anymore its been down for a few months now.  I am sure I am not the only guy that she is still seeing, but if I am even better for me I guess.

you made me laugh out loud

"Push boundaries on time, push boundaries on service"??? He said he wanted to keep seeing her. If *I* decide to stretch the time, it's *MY* choice, same with extra communication. The ladies I know in the biz do not like that kind of pressure and shut it down.  

I know that she is seeing other guy beside me, I know I am paying her for sex, I know what you are saying to me to be very true. But when I say that she going to drive to see little old me for the night there is a good chance I am the only guy she is seeing that night.

So very true why should I push for more. When I got all I can handle with her.

Re: I like you, but you have a warped view of relationships.

i do not have a sugar daddy,  
i only had one during the summer, he was only giving me 3k a month, that i can make in 2 days as a provider if i want to...

Posted By: some-guy

 
 You do give me a good business idea, though. I think I can market and sell "break up" insurance.  
   
 For the low, low premium of ... whatever your sugar daddy pays you, you can take out a policy with me that you can cash out in the case of the relationship ending.  
   
 That way you can avoid the feeling of being used, while simultaneously avoiding intimacy and thus ensuring that being used will be the only likely outcome! It's a win-win. He gets to use you. You get reimbursement.  
   
 I'm going to sell a ton of these things.

You, sir, speak the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!! Excellent post!! (We've all been there at some point--and we've all had to learn the hard way!!)

I hate to be the one to break this to you.  You might want to sit down for this.

Thank you for all of your inputs I will consider all of them.  

Some of us have been around for a long time.  And what's happened to you has happened to many guys before you:  a beautiful provider knocks your head off.   And you start wondering if she's into you, because you're definitely into her.  So you start rationalizing things: She drives so far to see you!  She spends extra time with you!  She's dropped off P411!  

to spend time with someone but not be in love with them.

Who would ever need to "push" a woman's "anything?"

She must think you're a safe client and you pay some of her bills. You obviously don't do anything to annoy her, as she keeps seeing you even though it's rather inconvenient for her to do so.  

If this guy wants under 4 bills cash for great sex, I say don't fuck it up and stay within his boundaries unless she's pulling on his dick for more as he's trying to get out the door. Then go for it. (i.e. if it's her decision.)

True I totally agree with you on this thank you for your insight on this matter.

I've been on TER for a while and these kind of threads appear more and more frequently.  

You do have a way with words Jack!  

... So I'm just going to nod my head and go along with whatever you say.

Posted By: octavia.lexa

i do not have a sugar daddy,  
 i only had one during the summer, he was only giving me 3k a month, that i can make in 2 days as a provider if i want to...  
   
 my comment in this thread was mostly referring to my p4p dates  
   
 it is a good business idea though  
   
   
   

Posted By: some-guy

 
  You do give me a good business idea, though. I think I can market and sell "break up" insurance.  
     
  For the low, low premium of ... whatever your sugar daddy pays you, you can take out a policy with me that you can cash out in the case of the relationship ending.    
     
  That way you can avoid the feeling of being used, while simultaneously avoiding intimacy and thus ensuring that being used will be the only likely outcome! It's a win-win. He gets to use you. You get reimbursement.  
     
  I'm going to sell a ton of these things.

Can't believe any man would be happy with his woman doing this I know mine isn't. He didn't meet me doing this and actually I have a retirement date within the next 10 months or else he's gone. Can't imagine a woman that does this that has a SO and it doesn't fuck with her head over and over and over. I just can't phantom that. However, one must live and let live and if she could commit to you and only you then I wish you the best of luck in the world. Having something real with someone is beautiful.

Some mope asking the same question.   "Is it possible this girl (escort) actually likes me?"

Does it fuck with your head Roxanne? I read your 2016 menu and you just want to be nastier than ever before. so when you are on your knees looking up at your client as hes fucking your pretty face and he cums in your mouth and on your face and you are loving every minute of it, are you really thinking about your man waiting for you at home.  You say he took your virginity just over a year ago and a few months later you are a provider. Sounds like you want your cake and eat it to. You like having your SO but you also love being able to enjoy banging other men also.  I'm just saying.

If it ain't broke, don't fix it.

See where you stand without money.....Hobbyists going to have BLASTED on PAID time with all sex workers....

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I am sorry Roxy but your man sounds more like a parent.
Why limit yourself to that type of relationship?
It will just lead to you resenting him later on in the future.
So yes this is your job but I am sure reading your comments and reviews.
You love it too!  

So yes providers are getting paid from this hobby but never forget it's a choice for us hobbyists to pay it too.

Sex workers ladies enagage in activities/time for payment /money.Show up hobbyists without payment/money see what happen  with sex workers.

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was it the guy she did the overnight date with last night?

Some people forget this is a hobby on both sides sometimes.
So just like this guy is wondering about extras or this provider motives.
How many providers got and let's be honest expected holiday presents from their clients last week???

can be yes, she adores your time together but the time would not happen with out the moolah!
Is also important to know if the shower is golden or not.  Remember as fascinating as you are, when you are gone it is time too

But not my reminder

I suppose it could be explained as a late rush for SPOTY consideration.

If you're happy with the status quo by all mean... OTH I was only suggesting "pushing boundaries" if you would like to test to see how far she would go. It doesn't have to be pushy and rude the way it sounds, I've done it but in very nice and respectful way. And I certainly had no problem taking no for answer.

Not sure if I would word it exactly the way he does. I mean there are more tactful ways of asking that question. LOL.

Enjoying what you do.

I've been trying to figure out what my relationship with my ATF is.  We like each other a lot; actually we love each other, but we're not IN love with each other.  Neither of us wants to be in love with anyone other than our respective SOs.  We're friends and do regular stuff together as friends, with no sexual play whatsoever (except Hi and Good Bye hugs), but every so often I see her in her professional capacity and then there's lots of sexual play as one would expect.  We share what's going on in our lives with each other and talk about many other subjects.  She knows stuff about me that almost no one else knows.  

any escort  I see but  I get what you're saying.

Posted By: Alan_Nimm

I've been trying to figure out what my relationship with my ATF is.  We like each other a lot; actually we love each other, but we're not IN love with each other.  Neither of us wants to be in love with anyone other than our respective SOs.  We're friends and do regular stuff together as friends, with no sexual play whatsoever (except Hi and Good Bye hugs), but every so often I see her in her professional capacity and then there's lots of sexual play as one would expect.  We share what's going on in our lives with each other and talk about many other subjects.  She knows stuff about me that almost no one else knows.  
   
 The closest parallel I can come up with is that she's my golfing buddy... but without the golf.  I don't play golf.  OK, I've played a few times but I really suck at it.  But if I had a golfing buddy, as in a really close friend with whom I shared a love of golf, I could see us going out every so often to play 18 holes, and we'd have a great time on the course (let's assume we both love golf).  But we'd also talk about what's going on in our lives, and maybe he'd be the kind of close friend who would know more about me than anyone else--even my SO.  Then after the round of golf, we'd head to the clubhouse for a beer or three, and talk, watch a game etc.  We would get together outside of our golf outings, but it would be just regular kinds of interactions, maybe with our SOs and other friends.  But the golf outings would be special.  
   
 I suppose to make this a good comparison, I'd have to pay this guy to play golf with me.    I'm so bad at golf, that's very possible.