just to assess compatibility or as a prescreening (maybe you don't want to give screening over internet, but are ok doing so in person), would you go on a pre-date like this? Have you done so?

guys: Would you go if the rate was the same as her 1hr date or would it have to be at least $100 less than the normal rate?

ladies: have you ever done this and did it work well?

thx everyone!

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This is why the "meet me at a coffee shop" is not screening. You are booked on INTENT not actions. I've seen a ton of busts go down where NO discussion of sex or money ever came up. They are usually thrown out of court, but you spend the night in jail. I would screen them FIRST, then offer a dinner only/no sex option. In fact, I do this for couples.

and pay for her time just to meet her. UMMM. NO!

It sounds like you can be busted, but is that only if you say certain things? If those comments (like "yes we'll have sex") aren't mentioned, would they still arrest the lady? I'm interested.
thx London.

beforehand to get a sense of her personality and that she's actually hot in the face (you've already seen her body on her site), you pay let's say $300, meet her and assess compatibility. In some cases, I see these ladies use this as a screening option.

Would you still say no?  thx

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If the guy is a cop, you're busted for "intent." Even though escorting is legal, your website or ad with rates is enough for them to bust you. Now again, the charges won't stick in most cases, but who wants to spend the night in jail? I saw one go down in Baton Rouge where the girls were literally cuffed walking in the door...never even saw the damn guy/decoy.

I've seen what WotW is talking about, but I'd rather take the gamble with her hourly rate, or two hour rate if she has a minimum.

It depends on the area, the cops and other things but in general it's the intent that gets you. Showing up is enough. You are cuffed before saying a word.

I've seen this a very few times on websites. She requires a meeting in nearby public place (e.g. coffee shop) for ~15 minutes (she may charge like $100 or so). If you "pass" this compatability test then you go ahead with the "date."

I have had a few gents contact me who were newbies offer to meet in public first.
I have declined those requests for me personally that will not work a meet in public in lieu of references/screening does not work for me.
I need to know who I am meeting first if info cannot be provided by pm,email,phone,or my website then we do not meet.

As london said you can still get in trouble if the person you are meeting is not on the up and up regardless if you say anything or not.

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would you do it?

And how would that be saving?
Paying for her pre-date fee + paying for her hourly rate VS just paying for her hourly rate.

Say a gal charges 500 per hour and the meet and greet is 100. She takes that 100 OFF the regular rate when you meet. I don't do it that way, because it's still 3 hours of my time being used to meet a person for only an hour.

a real BCD (behind closed doors) date, that $300 will be applied to it." So instead of paying $600 for the BCD date, the $300 from the predate you previously had w/ her is applied to the separate BCD date (scheduled on a different day from the predate). So when you show up for the BCD date, you bring only $300. So you've met twice, once for drinks and to assess compatibly and then for a BCD date, but in total you only pay $600 ($300 for the predate, which is applied to the BCD date which is typically $600). I hope it makes some sense to you though. I started to get confused as I typed it out! lol

Would I do it? Yes.

Posted By: WondersOfTheWrld

a real BCD (behind closed doors) date, that $300 will be applied to it." So instead of paying $600 for the BCD date, the $300 from the predate you previously had w/ her is applied to the separate BCD date (scheduled on a different day from the predate). So when you show up for the BCD date, you bring only $300. So you've met twice, once for drinks and to assess compatibly and then for a BCD date, but in total you only pay $600 ($300 for the predate, which is applied to the BCD date which is typically $600). I hope it makes some sense to you though. I started to get confused as I typed it out! lol

That's a pretty neat idea.
I think it should only be reserved for clients who are verifiable and not for newbies without references.  

It worked out fine for me. I don't see time as dogmatically as some. I like people and meeting new ones.


Samiam

You mentioned not doing it with a newbie.
What if it's a hobbyist who has references and is verifiable?

whether it's free or I had to pay. I read the providers ad, web site and reviews, and then contact her. End of story! This strategy so far has seemed to work pretty well for me. I have no issues with  being screening, and if I do, I simply move on.  

ur asking as a hobbyist if I am willing to arrange a "pre-date" to assess compatibility or as a way for me to be screened?  

love talking shop, exchanging war stories. Yeah it would be great fun over drinks but again, only if was OTC.

Even if he is not a newbie and I verified him I am not meeting first to see if he might want an appt.
If he is verified and we have set an appt and he wants to meet first for drinks before BCD I have no problem with that.There is a difference between a public meet where the gent wants to see what you look like first or wants to speak to you first and then he will make a decision if he wants to proceed from there with an appt.
Versus him just wanting to meet downstairs to have a drink first and small chit chat before heading upstairs.
The few times I have read on the boards about guys want to meet they usually want to meet free or a very discounted rate or the amount of a coffee or cocktail.

for screening, and to decide if I want to see them, and I dont pay them until the end of the actual date.

who I was thinking of when I first read this question.
Do you buy the frosty before or after?

Women are very hard to please as if we didn't know that, and I INSIST on an hour or so to get to know her, and should they decide NOT to play afterwards, I was compensated for that meet and greet.

Over the years I have seen just a handful of ladies do this.  

I would not do it for free. My best experience of the year was with a lady who I had nothing to talk with about.   And London is correct about the threat of arrest. The police require only probable cause to make an arrest. Which in reality gives the police wide latitude to make an arrest. If they are trying to bust someone they want to lock up, a major drug dealer, they will be more patient in gathering evidence before they arrest (and the suspect shuts up and hires an attorney) so the DA can get a conviction.  Regarding the hobby, the arrest itself (and subsquent embarassment) is the end goal. If its a sting and you show up you are going downtown. Even if you only wanted to talk.

or maybe it's a chance one takes in those rare circumstances

No, they are verified BEFORE I meet them. I do this for the woman to be comfortable an see if we connect, NOT to screen them. In the case of couples, I want info on BOTH parties, or we are not meeting. Many times a guy will be the only one with valid employment and the woman is a stay at home mom. Well, I can't screen "stay at home mom" without some serious information on her, like a background check with a "past" employment history.