Been away for awhile for personal reasons.  1st date is set for next week with a lady who has a few decent reviews, but is very vague about the encounter. Claims 1st session is one where we get to know each other.  I realize time is $$$, and if I show up and clearly we are not fit, is it acceptable to politely explain this and offer to leave 1/3 to  1/2 donation request?  This has not happened before, but based on her vagueness and a couple reviewers who would not repeat, I do not want to take a chance.  Thanks in advance for your responses.

what is this place useful if not for reviews. if youre not happy with her reviews or they do not give you enough assurance.. why not shop around more?

At the very least I would PM a couple of her reviewers, ESPECIALLY the unhappy ones to get an idea of what to expect.  

Most are good,2-3 won't repeat due to rules, 1-2 tofft.

listening to your inner voice perhaps is best...only a few reviews and some that say would not repeat seems to be a clear indicator to consider shopping around.  I also do not want explicit questioning or conversations prior to meeting the first time.

I probably wouldn't see her at all.
On the other hand if you have your mind set on Her and think things will be different for you, then I guess go ahead and take the chance. If you do get there and decide not to proceed, I don't see why you can't take most of your donation back, but don't expect her to be happy about it.

I don't think it's polite to ask for any back if you made the appointment with nebulous expectations. If you are stuck on her looks or board posts, book on those merits only if they will be enough. If you're more concerned with performance, there are plenty of sure things out there. Xo

Run away. Why would you gamble on a marginally reviewed provider?
There are plenty of providers that are well reviewed and take newbies.

If you like what you see...stick around.

...I would move on to someone else with more positives.

No, actually only one.  If you are in a virtual hooker desert and there are no other options.
Bail, man.  Bail.

To address your direct question, if you set a date with the provider, you should pay the donation you agreed to. Others will disagree, and there are circumstances where they'd be right, but if you set the date with knowledge of your ambiguity about whether or not it was the right thing to do, it's on you, not her.

It's not a definate...  you should read the full reviews & PM other reviewers...  If you are seriously interested...    
There is a SCAM where the gal (provider or SB) will have a social date & then say NO.  "What kind of a girl do you think I am?"  or "I don't do that"  
OR promises action on the next date butthen becomes hard to reach or schedule with...  

a board member I trusted. I'd want my first excursion to be as close to a sure thing as possible.  

...there is an envelope under his handle.

there are MANY reasons not to.

Nah, I have a great reputation.
Thanks though.  

Posted By: perfectstorm

I probably wouldn't see her at all.  

   
 I hope you are not talking about Fresh Violet.

...then she should be offering a free consultation.  Many professionals do this before they perform their services for you.

I think the only thing worse than no sex is acceptable sex. Like the only thing worse than silence is acceptable music.

You seem like an Adventurer.

and you too have at least a couple of clients who claim they won't repeat. So for all we know the Governor could be talking about you.

This sounds like anything but a "sure thing" That is just one of the many reasons I would pass.

because he has no reviews that I can use to gauge if I should trust him with the safety of a friend. If I'm referring someone, then I care enough about and them and their safety.  If I'm uncertain, then I'll let   the lady respond to their query/ISO.

and I bet you there are a LOT more people who know me than know you. just sayin...

well I'm sure you've filled up his mailbox with hot mommas to fuck.  

but I love your answer... does the real rate include getting fucked and a BJ or just lingerie and an LFK?