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gtman1965 15 Reviews 2500 reads
posted
1 / 19

Advice from providers please!  I've been a hobbyist for years now.  For the past several, I've really limited myself to a couple of ladies whom I've seen repeatedly.  Seeing one of them shortly.  I'm not a weirdo (as they all say), but I've once or twice in the past with other providers enjoyed some watersports (receiving).   I'd like to ask my current provider regular if she might be willing to do this, but do you think I'd freak her out if I did?  The other ladies I did this with had made it clear in their ads that they were into it.  Would it bother you if a client you had seen for two years brought this up?  Thanks!

mrfisher 115 Reviews 89 reads
posted
2 / 19

If you really feel the need to find someone for it, there are lots of gals that can provide.

 

The odds are low she would dump you, but if she's good, it's not worth the risk.

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 106 reads
posted
3 / 19

whether a provider's menu includes aquatic endeavors, it does have a generic tab for S&M.  If she has an affirmative to any of the  limited activities that ARE listed, I  think you can ask her about filling your ass with water without freaking her out.  Barring this, I would suggest reading her reviews and see if any of them hint at the activities involving a customer's ass, like prostate massage.  If the answer is yes, then I still think its safe to ask.  But if you can't find anything like this, and there is nothing on her web ad that says she provides what you want, then I would  default to Fisher's response and say don't ask if you would not want to lose her in case she reacts poorly to the idea.  I'm just assuming your definition of "waters;ports" is receiving an enema.  If you were talking  about GS, that's a little more specialized and personal for the provider and I would suggest you don't ask.  You don't want to piss her off trying to get pissed  on.  

 
With that said, QueenBia posts on this board all the time and would probably be a good one to ask about your fetish.  If she's too far away, she may know somebody near you that can scratch your itch.   A PM would probably get you a response from her.

gtman1965 15 Reviews 100 reads
posted
4 / 19

Yes to clarify I meant a golden shower on me,  

impposter 49 Reviews 122 reads
posted
5 / 19

Can you bring up the subject sideways? "I accidentally clicked on a porn site and you won't believe what I saw. ... Have you ever heard of such a thing? Huh?" or "I read a Penthouse Letter from some guy who was interested in watersports. What do you think about that guy?" or  
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"Do you think that Russia really has pee tapes of Trump?  What do you think of that?"  
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And don't forget, "I'm asking for a friend."

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cks175 51 Reviews 90 reads
posted
6 / 19

“Have you ever been asked to xxxxx?”

She’s more than likely been asked for all kinds of fetishes.  

Go for it.

Debra_Hollander See my TER Reviews 203 reads
posted
7 / 19

You've known her awhile.... does she offer, or talk about, doing anything along the lines of kink or fetish activities?
If yes, go ahead and ask her if she'd consider giving you a golden shower.  

 
Does she seem open-minded about sex in general (surprisingly, not all providers are) or is she a bit fussy as to what is acceptable?   If she's open-minded, again..... just ask.

 
If you're not sure, or she maybe seems strictly vanilla, then approach it a bit more subtly.   Ask her what's the kinkiest thing she's ever done with a client.  Ask if she's ever done pegging?  Golden showers?   See how she reacts and take it from there.  

 
Be aware she may need to know in advance to prepare and that she might charge extra for this.  

 

I occasionally get asked for this and while I do consider myself open-minded, this is not something I'll do.  I've tried but apparently I have a very shy bladder, which meant he was sitting/lying in a very cold bathtub for some time while I attempted to think "wet" thoughts to make it happen.   It didn't work.  :-)

Onerealhotmomma See my TER Reviews 102 reads
posted
8 / 19

Just ask her when you next meet.  If you have known her for a while then while just in idle conversation tell her you have been curious about it recently and were wondering if she had any experience with it and would be comfortable with considering it with you.  Debra is right there are more than a few of us who are very close minded  in regards to activities but  the stupid question is often the one you never ask......  If you are very concerned about the reaction then skip the question and start a search for one who advertises the activity keeping in mind that not all list every activity they might engage in..... hence your YMMV.  

Suzee the slut

winchester 1 186 Reviews 97 reads
posted
9 / 19

What is the worst thing she would do?   If she has been "In The Hobby" more that 2 weeks she's been asked a lot more than this !  Report Back !

AlexandraMilw See my TER Reviews 114 reads
posted
10 / 19

Ask her in person. Just mention you are interested in the such. We have been asked far odder things and for me personally, I wouldn't care if asked. Brown showers, well I would look at you funny. Golden showers. as long as I am doing to you, it wouldn't bother me. I advertise gfe (and rimming) but there are plenty of other things outside that that I am willing to do. I don't mention it because  it tends to open the door in being asked to do things I won't offer.

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 102 reads
posted
11 / 19

will  "freak her out".
That's you worried about what she's going to think of you.
If she won't, someone else will.

gtman1965 15 Reviews 99 reads
posted
12 / 19

Thanks very much.   I probably overthink.  

gtman1965 15 Reviews 86 reads
posted
13 / 19

Thanks much for the advice.  

gtman1965 15 Reviews 35 reads
posted
14 / 19

Thanks so much to you and the other providers who have replied. We seem to have a consensus!   If I have to go through one more “prove I’m not a robot” thing when I reply I’m going to explode so again thank you all for your guidance and sorry if I don’t reply to each of you.  

Boicpl 94 reads
posted
15 / 19

Not a provider. This sport is about respect and compensation. Which frankly sums up life. Negative or positive.

QueenBia See my TER Reviews 116 reads
posted
16 / 19

KISS=Keep it super simple.

Just ask. After 2 years ya'll friends. The worst that can happen is she says, "no."

BostonOpulence See Agency Profile 106 reads
posted
17 / 19

Well said from an actual provider 😁

BostonOpulence See Agency Profile 141 reads
posted
18 / 19

I thought that was funny, too. And of course the first one, Mr.Fisher

gtman1965 15 Reviews 59 reads
posted
19 / 19

Oh my!  As George Takei would say.  Thanks!  

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