Advice from providers please! I've been a hobbyist for years now. For the past several, I've really limited myself to a couple of ladies whom I've seen repeatedly. Seeing one of them shortly. I'm not a weirdo (as they all say), but I've once or twice in the past with other providers enjoyed some watersports (receiving). I'd like to ask my current provider regular if she might be willing to do this, but do you think I'd freak her out if I did? The other ladies I did this with had made it clear in their ads that they were into it. Would it bother you if a client you had seen for two years brought this up? Thanks!
whether a provider's menu includes aquatic endeavors, it does have a generic tab for S&M. If she has an affirmative to any of the limited activities that ARE listed, I think you can ask her about filling your ass with water without freaking her out. Barring this, I would suggest reading her reviews and see if any of them hint at the activities involving a customer's ass, like prostate massage. If the answer is yes, then I still think its safe to ask. But if you can't find anything like this, and there is nothing on her web ad that says she provides what you want, then I would default to Fisher's response and say don't ask if you would not want to lose her in case she reacts poorly to the idea. I'm just assuming your definition of "waters;ports" is receiving an enema. If you were talking about GS, that's a little more specialized and personal for the provider and I would suggest you don't ask. You don't want to piss her off trying to get pissed on.
With that said, QueenBia posts on this board all the time and would probably be a good one to ask about your fetish. If she's too far away, she may know somebody near you that can scratch your itch. A PM would probably get you a response from her.
Can you bring up the subject sideways? "I accidentally clicked on a porn site and you won't believe what I saw. ... Have you ever heard of such a thing? Huh?" or "I read a Penthouse Letter from some guy who was interested in watersports. What do you think about that guy?" or . --- P&R ALERT!! NOT INTENDED TO BE P&R!! --- . "Do you think that Russia really has pee tapes of Trump? What do you think of that?" . And don't forget, "I'm asking for a friend."
You've known her awhile.... does she offer, or talk about, doing anything along the lines of kink or fetish activities? If yes, go ahead and ask her if she'd consider giving you a golden shower.
Does she seem open-minded about sex in general (surprisingly, not all providers are) or is she a bit fussy as to what is acceptable? If she's open-minded, again..... just ask. If you're not sure, or she maybe seems strictly vanilla, then approach it a bit more subtly. Ask her what's the kinkiest thing she's ever done with a client. Ask if she's ever done pegging? Golden showers? See how she reacts and take it from there. Be aware she may need to know in advance to prepare and that she might charge extra for this. I occasionally get asked for this and while I do consider myself open-minded, this is not something I'll do. I've tried but apparently I have a very shy bladder, which meant he was sitting/lying in a very cold bathtub for some time while I attempted to think "wet" thoughts to make it happen. It didn't work.
Just ask her when you next meet. If you have known her for a while then while just in idle conversation tell her you have been curious about it recently and were wondering if she had any experience with it and would be comfortable with considering it with you. Debra is right there are more than a few of us who are very close minded in regards to activities but the stupid question is often the one you never ask...... If you are very concerned about the reaction then skip the question and start a search for one who advertises the activity keeping in mind that not all list every activity they might engage in..... hence your YMMV.
Ask her in person. Just mention you are interested in the such. We have been asked far odder things and for me personally, I wouldn't care if asked. Brown showers, well I would look at you funny. Golden showers. as long as I am doing to you, it wouldn't bother me. I advertise gfe (and rimming) but there are plenty of other things outside that that I am willing to do. I don't mention it because it tends to open the door in being asked to do things I won't offer.
Thanks so much to you and the other providers who have replied. We seem to have a consensus! If I have to go through one more “prove I’m not a robot” thing when I reply I’m going to explode so again thank you all for your guidance and sorry if I don’t reply to each of you.
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