Thought I'd get some feedback here. For background, I've been hobbying for a couple of decades. I've written a lot of reviews and have been whitelisted by many lovely ladies. During all this time, I've never shared my actual identity with a provider. I've relied on references and a good reputation when I make appointments with new providers.
I was recently in touch with a well-reviewed provider whom I've wanted to see for a while. I filled out her online form and provided the contact info for two providers who have consistently provided good feedback for me in the past, in fact both have whitelisted me. Anyway, this new provider asked if my ID would match the name I was using in my email. I explained I would not be sharing my real identity with her and she replied with a curt message that I should no longer contact her.
As I said, she is a popular, well reviewed provider. She's obviously been with lots of hobbyists. I've been really respectful wtih her, so I don't know why she'd be looking for a reason to say no to a session. So maybe a lot of people are willing to provide their personal info. Do any of you do that?
I ask because the question seems to be coming up in new posts every other day on this board. I think you'll find the same 2 or 3 players saying they don't care who has their info and the remainder of us saying no way in hell.
Interestingly enough, if the players on here are telling the truth that they never give out this info, you would think the number of ladies asking would go down as they see that the market won't pay that price. Unless of course lots of guys who never come on TER are perfectly willing to divulge the information.
Posted By: Bukkpass
I've been really respectful wtih her, so I don't know why she'd be looking for a reason to say no to a session. So maybe a lot of people are willing to provide their personal info. Do any of you do that?
If she has a real-name policy, I'm surprised this isn't mentioned anywhere on her site. Most of those who routinely require it do mention it to avoid any issues during screening.
However, there are times (for instance, if someone is blacklisted) that a lady who doesn't normally require it, WILL ask it of that particular person.
I'm very public about my real-name requirement and I don't have any issue getting dates because of it but I can tell you from experience that I'd be a LOT more popular if I dropped it. 
That said, I've almost never run into this requirement before, though I have seen it in the screening section of some girls' web sites. I avoid them. Lots of Tuna in the sea.
I might be on the other side of the spectrum. I have never shared my personal information with any lady. Yet I have seen many, many ladies whose websites say that they require personal information.
with a small number of providers after we got to know each other VERY well. And although I trusted them, I knew their real identities also.
I always give out my personal information, and have never had any hassle as a result.
I'm very picky about whom I'll see, so that limits my exposure.
I get a nearly 100% batting average in getting to see the gals I want.
I figure that if a gal is very careful about whom she sees, she's likely the type of person you don't have to worry about. After all, who doesn't care about screening? LE, for one.
Anyone trying to blackmail you with mrsfisher will have a tough time.
I went from $500,000 down to one dollar, and he still wouldn't pay. Lol
Posted By: Bukkpass
. I've been really respectful wtih her, so I don't know why she'd be looking for a reason to say no to a session. So maybe a lot of people are willing to provide their personal info. Do any of you do that?
Don’t take the rejection personally. Yes, you were nice and have references, but her policy is her policy. I’m guessing being respectful wasn’t enough of a reason for her to make an exception to her policy. She probably had a bad experience after making an exception and vowed “Never Again”. So it’s not about you, it’s about her. I wouldn’t worry about it, there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Sometimes, despite our best intentions, things just don't line up the way we want.
Whatcha gonna do?
I rarely share personal info with providers and certainly not with someone that I haven't seen previously and with whom I've developed a relationship of some sort to inspire a level of trust.
I've been in p4p since '92 and this has happened a total of three times -- so again, it's an unusual occurrence.
Chalk it up to experience and move on -- buena suerte!
just say no - well i say sure just after you send me YOUR drivers license and info - after all i have lots to lose too -
anyway not worth discussing. now if she wants to be your sugarbaby and exclusive thats something else ,... but for a short term there's no need.
Some would say that younger people get their news from non-traditional sources. I think the same is true with all of this. There are traditional ways and there are new ways. The twitter universe (i.e. millennial women) is all about ID's and deposits. Most of these woman think they know more about life than others in general and as a result, they have a perception of how all of this should work. There (which often spills into Tryst ads), it is becoming more common for ID's to be asked for based on what I've seen. I personally avoid these woman. It makes no sense to me to share personal info. It is simply not worth it. [Case in point: The provider who has responded to this post was talked about recently in another TER thread. She came up with some reason and shared one of her client's personal info. with others. WTF She'd do it again.] I have been burned a couple of times with deposits, but I look at it as an entry fee. I have no doubt that some of these deposit payments have allowed me to experience some young, fresh women who often move in and out of this world quickly. Others may disagree based on their approach or experiences. So yeah, personally I may pay a deposit (selectively) but an ID request = time to move on.
I prefer keeping my hobby life completely separate from my everyday life. I know this thread is mostly about personal info being asked for on the screening process wherein the providers are looking out for their own safety and don't want some anonymous a.c.-murderer slinking up to them. I get it. Th Eres another aspect of providers and our personal information.
There are providers who sometimes ask me questions in a small talk kind of way, hey, that's not what I'm here for.
On the other side of the same coin, I don't seek out information about providers' true identities or everyday lives (mainly because I simply don't care about it), but some providers every now and then get a little to open with sharing their personal information with me. For me, that's when it's time to move on to the next one. Why do people want to show me pictures of their children? It sort of blows the fantasy for me. I'm not saying I have an image that the woman is childless, young, and virginal, no, because a lot of the women I seek out are older and are of the age that they'd be mothers, some even grandmothers, it's just that I don't need names and images of their broods. For me, the MILF attraction is about the woman herself.
I do not provide I.D., my employer, or send pics. There was one provider with whom I exchanged personal information after we became friends. She is now retired and we occasionally keep in touch.
