What's the deal with that? I've heard stories and also speak from experience where a provider (conveniently?) forgets to mention it (on the phone) and then in person drops the bomb and offers do other things instead, very often for the SAME full price!

Ladies, who knows better than YOU when Flo's getting ready for a visit. So why not just come clean and either inform us, or take yourself off the market for a few days.

I'm sorry but there's no excuse for this... Unless the hobbyist has some freaky fetish that I don't even want to know about!

AAh-friggin-men......well said.  I've read so may threads where a provider says "be honest and upfront".  That goes both ways.  All a provider has to do is let me know.  If I want to continue with the session I will, if not no hard feelings.  After all 99% of all women have a period once a month.  It's not some "great mystery of life".  I'm not gona dump a provider I've been seein for a while just because she has her period - but I sure as hell will if see schedules the session and I find out the hard way.  That says to me she could care less about providing a quality session and only want the $$$.

Or the scenario could've been this:
She has an appointment to see you, and her period arrives earlier than expected. She really doesn't want to cancel the date, but would rather at least see you since she's already committed to it and concentrate on some 'goodies' while avoiding others in order to still see you! There are some men who would appreciate her doing whatever it takes to be there with him, even if that means no DATY, or something - and are flattered that she would even still consider it! Because frankly, beside the 'adjustment' you both have to make, we don't always feel very well during our periods, either. Continuing with a date while having cramps, migraines or nausea can be quite a feat!  
I hate cancelling an appointment, and fortunately haven't had to yet. I think when this happens, however, she should offer a discount, or at least an opportunity to make it up. Something. I would agree.

There are probably more women than not who are not regular enough with their periods to be able to plan. That's one reason I'm on the Pill. I want to look at a calendar, and know. It sure makes vacations, camping trips, and 'dates' a lot more pleasant! But, even that's not perfect. The pills these days need to be taken very close to the same time every night or you
may experience breakthrough bleeding for a few days.
Bottom line, communication is the key. If she chooses not to say anything until the date is on, then X should happen. Sometimes, I think they are so afraid of losing the client, that they don't want to say anything. But, if the lady knew she wouldn't lose (you) the client, and that he would re-schedule, maybe they'd more likely choose the other route. Certainly if they have an ongoing, regular relationship, they should be able to communicate each others' expectations. If you haven't, then I would. Not every gentleman is the same.
The local ladies here have shared with me a product I've yet to purchase, called Instead. Like a diaphragm, it can be inserted into her and prevent any flow beyond that point. In this way, she can still have the appointment and FS including DATY, I would guess.
For me, I prefer to take the week off. No additional body fluid to add to the risk mix, and I feel like doo-doo that whole time anyway.

Hope this helps.

It happens to frequently to be a mistake.  It is NOT usually that it just started and hour ago, but seems to have started 1 or more days ago.  Some ASPs want/need the money and think that they deserve it whether the are OTR or not.  I like it clean, and would much prefer to be warned so I can make up my mind about the appointment.

and postpone the event. Guys look, we are men right? Right! We don't have to deal with this (Thank God!). Consequently we have absolutly, positively, no clue, no earthly idea what these ladies (provider, or civilian)go through( I came about as close as a man can once, but even that wasn't the same, and a story for another day). Sure we interact with women at work or at home, etc, and they appear normal, but again we have no clue whatsoever as to what they experience during their menstrual Cycle.

Tell ya a little story.

16 years ago I called a provider to come to my house. As we were about halfway through the deed, I happened to look down and saw blood smeared on the inside of my leg. At first I thought I had cut myself on a sharp edge I had bumped into while engaged in the gymnastics portion of the nights entertainment. I looked further and although I wasn't specifically looking for it I saw blood on the outside of my cover. Well it doesn't take a degree from Johns Hopkins,or MIT to figure that one out.

I know not everyone will agree with me, but I felt, and still feel that under the circumstances the only polite thing to do on my part was to cease. Was I done? Not even close! Yet I still felt that this was the proper thing to do. Especially, when the provider I was with seemed genuinely embarassed, indicating to me that her cycle was early that month, and that she ordinarily did not work during.  

I told her not to worry about it. I then showed her the bathroom, let her take care of business, and walked her out to her car. She did offer to refund part of her fee. But I told her not to worry about it.

Now, naturally, I have no control over what others do or believe. However, I feel in that situation, that was the proper thing to do.



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Completely agree.  In all my meetings this has happened only twice, with very differing results:

One time the Lady told me right after I gave her a gift.  She listed several things off the menu, and that she would really have to be quick that night to get back home.  I offered to reschedule for another time, but she (somewhat irritably) declined.  By that time I decided this wasn’t going to be a good evening anyway and asked that we just cancel.  She declined that as well, even more irritated.  So, I wrote that one up as a loss, mostly because I saw no reason to spend any more time with her than I had to.  Not one of my better dates, never even thought about seeing her again.

The second Lady, I believe, didn’t know when she came over.  Things started flowing about 15 minutes into our activities and she was clearly having cramps as well.  That time I didn’t even ask about rescheduling or such, but told her to wash up, get dressed, and I’d drive her home if she wanted (she had come by cab).  She accepted, and along the way I stopped off so she could get some medicine for the cramps.  I had already given her a donation, assumed we were finished, but different from the first time, we parted on very friendly terms.  It turned out that I was very wrong about being finished.  I called her quite some months later when I was in town again, and we arranged for 2 hours.  I went to her place this time, and she refused any donation for what turned out to be a wonderful no-clock (but MORE than 2 hours) evening.

Two different Ladies, two very different outcomes.

I don't work during my period, and I would cancel if Aunt Flo visited unexpectedly, since I know many men are uncomfortable with the idea.

Men, what about your SO's period? Is that a major turn-off to sex?

In my personal life, I've found the BEST lovers were the men who were not squeamish about being with me every day of the month. I'd take a quick shower; then we'd just throw down a towel over the sheets and go at it without thinking twice. Not all boyfriends have been like this, but if a man is accepting of my body ALL the time, then I think he's quite a catch.

These men tended also to be the best at oral sex.....they really paid attention to me; it was wonderful and of course I reciprocated in kind.

I would love to know if there are hobbyists on this board who don't mind having intercourse with a woman during her period.

Chrissy such an honest lady.  In my married days it mattered not to me.  Your wish is my command.  Two wives later I think I would not want to go there with someone unless I knew them well.  Or maybe not at all any more.  Since my sex drive is like 1/100 of what is was.

I am also able to plan things but sometimes it can come early so if it does, I let scheduled clients know that my girlie has arrived and I could still visit them however we would be limited on our activities.
I agree with Chrissy though, I have had boyfriends who would still love to make love at any time any day even if the girlie is visiting.
But... about this post...I really feel that it is up to a provider whether she wants to disclose it over the phone or not. And.... it is also up to her whether she wants to play with you are not. You cannot expect anything and really cannot even be upset.

(look it up)

but i can not bring myself to indulge with Flo (whether with a stranger or a SO)

the safety issues with providers aside, is this time of the month to be around someone who's likely to chew you out for commenting about anything to do with her appearance?   LOL

with on singular exception, i've never had a girlfriend who even wanted to be f**ked while "bloated, cramped and wrethced" (her words)

"I really feel that it is up to a provider whether she wants to disclose it over the phone or not. And.... it is also up to her whether she wants to play with you are not. You cannot expect anything and really cannot even be upset."


You're kidding, right? Because I can NOT imagine a more selfish comment than the above. I must have misunderstood you, because it just boggles my mind. You seem to be saying that it's perfectly OK for a provider to hide this fact from a hobbyist, show up anyway and short-change him on a session. In other words, that SHE sets the terms in this transaction.

I don't know what is more absurd, the fact that you would make such a statement, or the fact that (apparently) no man on this board challenges your rant.


PS. I just re-read your post again, wanting to give you the benefit of the doubt (in case I misread your statement) and frankly I don't know what to think: your last paragraph contradicts the first and the middle one is not even related to the topic of this thread.

so maybe i misunderstood too..??

because I just had this happen to me for the first time with a SP.  I honestly felt cheated and almost scammed in a way. Ladies take note...if you are a lady of any integrity or character you will make certain this is disclosed up front. Guys will understand that these things happen, but they will not forget/forgive if you hide it and spring it on them after it's too late.

In my recent case:

Aunt Flo came knocking within 30 minutes of the start of our evening long appointment.  Fully aware of Aunt Flo's visit she proceeded to ask for the fee and continued through the first three hours of things without any mention of Aunt Flo coming to town.  Now I'm in the hole $150 for dinner and another $200 at the strip club on top of her $1500 fee and I'm anxiously awaiting the grand finale back in the room.  We roll around in the hay a bit, massage, foreplay, CBJ and THEN she springs it on my just as I'm ready to sink my plunger.

I truly felt like I had been taken advantage of. The honorable thing to do is to mention it up front and get in on the table for discussion. Anyone who's been around this hobby a while knows that if your gonna get scammed or up sold it usually takes place when you are at your weakest moment...butt naked and in mid foreplay.  She was a great girl and not an upsell/scam type by any means so I do believe her that Aunt Flo came early, but the way she handled it left me with the "just been scammed" feeling in my stomach. A repeat visit is very unlikely once someone gets that taste in their mouth thats for sure.


Ladies, think about it...how would you feel if the tables were turned and your five course meal that you paid for turned out to be no more than an appetizer!

I wouldn't necessarily say you're a "hemophobe".

"Hemophobe" represents an irrational fear of blood. But a fear of blood is hardly irrational, given the wide range of viruses that are blood-borne, including hepatitis A, B, C and, of course, AIDS. Although there is likely some exposure to vaginal secretions, even with covered sexual intercourse, this is much different than possibly taking a "blood-bath", if the flow is heavy.

Besides which, getting blood on you is icky. Despite scientifically studying red blood cells for years, I still get the creeps when I get blood on my skin. I sometimes wonder if any of us really grow up.

I have never been turned off by a woman's period. My first experience with it was way back in Jr. High school when I went down on a girl. I just worked my way around the string. I will do it all. Hell, I've even halfway done vaginal when the girl had her tampon in. (Just pushing the head in and out until it touched it.) I also LOVE anal sex when a woman has her tampon in.  I don't get why some guys are so afraid.

Maybe I should explain in more easily understood terms:

As for myself, I can plan when my visitor will be arriving. If it were to come early, I let my clients know over the phone that my visitor has come early. I still offer the opportunity for a session/date but also advise that we would be limited on some activites. Some men are okay with that and appreciate that I am up front about it. And some are looking for a more intimiate  session so they reschedule or I find them a friend to see.  
Now for other woman, some do not want to say over the phone maybe because they are in fear of who could be on the other end listening, they are not f.s. anyways, or maybe embarrassed. I feel that it is a womans choice to share herself with someone. And also that sex should not be expected. I have many beautiful friends that do not offer sex. So, if she shows up and she is on her "P" it is ok because they know what she does and does not offer.
It is another thing if the provider normally offers sex and shows up on it leading him on and then says, oh by the way....I can understand how that can be upsetting.