Which is your preference. Both difinitely have their advantages.

So, the choices would be:

1) A little premeal cocktail
OR
2) A little pretail cockmeal

bread on both sides with the meet in between....

I prefer dinner first. That way, you get to know each other and to have the excitement build over dinner. Plus, being a woman who primps before a date, it is more time-consuming and embarrassing to go to a nice dinner after your hair looks like crap, your makeup looks like Phyllis Diller, you cannot get your hair to look the same, and maybe you've forgotten your lipstick, etc. You know: Basically you look like a tramp who has cleaned up to go to dinner -- not very flattering if going to a nice restaurant. Remember, it is different for men. You just freshen up and go!

Anyway, you get the picture. Now, if you're eating in with room service, then it doesn't matter.

Hugs,
Ciara

My ATF and I do dinner after the main event. It works out well since we both work up quite an appetite during the main event!

I would say this is pretty much a function of the situation; Depending on the location a nice dinner prior is excellent to get familiar & comfortable.

my best date so far went like this...

an hour at the hotel gym working up a sweat
2 rounds
dinner out
dessert back at hotel - 2 more rounds.

I slept really well that night.

I've had the opportunity

to have some 'non-intimate' time with some wonderful ladies, all of which I've enjoyed, and which had certain attractants to it.

1. For one lady, we had corresponded for months on psychology, physiology, and sociology (she's a co-ed). I had planned on doing some dancing with her when we met. The 'heat' in the room was such that we needed to allow the passion to be consumed first. We enjoyed some nice dances afterward.

2. I had the opportunity to spend a few days with a wonderful muse. Our mornings and evenings were taken up by passionate pursuits, while the days were spent enjoying the sites of the city. One thing I remember vividly was how I felt in the morning after we had left her house, knowing I had just had an incredible time with this lady, and it was our secret, and, in the afternoon, as the day progressed, feeling the building of sexual tension as we knew what was coming that night. Wheeew!  (Cue the Carly Simon 'Anticipation' music.)

3. Finally, with another lady (4-hour date), as soon as I arrived, i was smitten with the idea of just dancing with her for a while to some sultry music. The dress she was wearing was clingy and silky, hugging her curves. Do you ever get the feeling your little guy is going to explode from clothed foreplay build-up? It was very primal, as was the time when we finally retired to the bedroom.

So I guess I find shared anticipation to be the best, but as in #1, sometimes you both get on the same lusty beat from the moment the door opens, and the only thing yuo can do is let nature take its course, before slowing down and enjoying afterglow activities.

It's all awesome!

I think conversation is a total turn on...not to mention the footsy being played under the table!

However, sometimes I am not hungry when I am paying a visit . In that case, I would like to be tickled and teased please!

Since the majority of my engagements are with Ladies I've seen before, I prefer the passion before. I don't want the heavieness of a meal, creating any discomfort for either of us. Afterward, we can relax to our heart's content - enjoy what we may, and perhaps even return for dessert.

With a Lady, I've not met, I might be tempted for a very light meal - but, I try to develop the personality link, in correspondence, and a little time at the beginning of the session, then proceed directly to the passion. If an ATF and I are out, we may have a nice dinner and engage in some footsie, or lustful glances over the rim of a glass, or maybe even suggestions of how the table cloth could conceal - - - ; and then go to another event such as as a show, concert, or sports event - such that the food has time to digest, before getting too physical.

I've never had the pleasure of enjoying a dinner date- always enjoyed the private time. Will have to try it sometime.

G

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Room service makes it a moot point huh?

Youse guys buy them dinner? Thats what I have with the wife before I go on date with an escort. I forget that some of ya don't have wives to cook for ya. Who'd a thunk? I only go for the action, cause I have so little time to sneak away.

Bring a couple of sandwiches and a slice of pie into bed.

It may make a mess of the sheets, but it sure saves time.

George Castanza tried this on Seinfeld.  It didn't quite work out when he tried to add TV to the mix.

He flew too close to the sun on wings of pastrami, according to George.