After his date, my husband got a PM from the provider. She indicated that she would be pleased to see him again. This girl is one of the top 40 on TER and advertises as a low volume provider. I told him this is a compliment to him. Such a highly reviewed provider doesn't need the business and will only repeat if it was a good date. I'm basing my statement on posts read on this board. He says I don't know what I'm talking about. What say you on the matter?

It's a courtesy thank-you note, just as you would send a thank-you note to someone who you just interviewed with.

Did she enjoy his company and want to see him again?  Yes.

But to say that she doesn't need the business is a stretch.

Think of it this way: she doesn't have to screen him or verify him. She doesn 't have to worry about him being LE, or a psycho. She doesn't have that first meeting nervousness over who is on the other side of the door. That email doesn't mean anything special like he was her best client ever or anything like that. It just means he was decent and she wouldn't mind seeing him again.

If she didn't want to see him again, she wouldn't have sent the email.

from any provider who's a good business woman.  Now...what's the deal with you and hubby?

its just a courtesy call to get a good client to return and spend more money. Now if she said she wanted to see him again at no charge, well now thats something totally different.

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I agree with inicky about you an hubby?

And I'm sure she'll come back and answer you here, but in a nutshell:

She is a spouse who not only allows and approves of her husband's hobbying, but she says it makes their sex life better and she helps in choosing the provider, even to the point of making contact and perhaps meeting the lady. However she is not bi and has no interest in threesomes, so the bcd part is between her husband and the provider, then Canon gets her fun with hubby after.

Did I get it right Canon? (I could search your posts but this is just from memory )

If I verbally or via email say that, it means just that, he was a good client for me and I would most definitely see him again. If the guy is not a good match, I say nothing and won't rebook.

Sometimes, what a lady says is the truth. You have to decide whether you believe her or not.

maybe for you that be why youd return a call after a date . in your brain, for me in my brain, I do the whole "call me" thing as a habit after spendin time with a client . I kniw for me I am number 5 on the boston 100. I soend sometimes 3 hours a day respondin to al the oms n emails n calls. trust me she is bein polite, and he is lucky ti have a nice stay at home normal gf at home . trust me they realize that after they try dating a working girl. we r high maintenence. hahah.

Angel, I can't imagine you as high maintenance!

It is a compliment in one way, and not in another. It does not mean he is Brad Pitt or Superman in bed just because she wants to keep taking his money lol. Just sayin.

Okay - thanks for the input. Guess I'm just being a newbie SO and getting caught up in the excitement. lol
The most important thing is he's my ATF. I've got to learn to keep perspective in this hobby.

It sounds like he was an acceptable client.  I would think any smart provider would welcome good clients back simply for the fact that they would not have to  screen again and they don't have to do all first meeting get to know you stuff.  Less work, less nerves, same payoff.  Smart business.

Thanks perfectstorm. I couldn't have said it better myself. Hubby and I both get what we want - a renewed, exciting sex life and a higher level of intimacy outside the bedroom.

If they show up in superman underwear it is ok to laugh at them.

Sorry I just had to.  On of those evenings.

Being pretty sure who you are referring to she is a total pro and i'm sure hubby was very happy. I must say that there may be a dropoff after session 1.

Hi PS,

Correct & here's to the decent guys, such as I, who receive texts from their fave when she is in town!!

He's got his eye on an special Asian lady in NYC. However, we're going to take our time and get as much mileage from this as we can.

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... if a provider did indeed have a good time with you both or just the hubby, there's nothing wrong with her sending out a 'Thank You' email. I've gotten many of them and I did repeat with those who did send me a 'Thank You' email.

Some of the others in here are reaching for something that is not there. It's possible that the highly reviewed provider doesn't need the business that bad... but she's still providing, isn't she?

Either she likes it that much to continue or she is getting extra income for whatever reason.

Either way... folks like you and your husband are benefiting from her services. Right? That's what is important.

Serpius

many ladies do. Bottom line...if I don't like a guy, he can keep his money. I would say, she probably enjoyed him more than others she has been with, but again, you can't ever tell if she is just being polite or if there was really something there. Either way, sounds like your hubby is NOT an asshole.

I commonly drop a note if I know how to get a hold of someone via PM or email saying a polite "Thank You". I want them to know I am grateful that they chose to spend time with me.

There are a few times I come home to find one waiting for me.

I think it is a sweet gesture and a good business practice.