So please refrain from soliciting me

Just wondering if bondage and S&M becomes an option when vanilla gets boring.

If vanilla ever gets boring, I'll try chocolate.

But, like everything else.. that gets boring if you do it all the time too. Thats why you have to spice it up...

It depends on what you do with it.  If you are spanking ass and talking dirty, that's vanilla or Neapolitan at best.  If you are mushing a team of midgets across the local dog park, then that's maybe in the ice cream realm of Bourbon Caramel Apple.

When vanilla meets something risky smack dab in the middle of eating your same old pudding the flavor changes in the very first mouthful. I have used one stocking to blindfold them and tease with so much pleasure they explode with much anticipation. I have also used my stocking to tie a gentleman up and have my way with him. talk about a little nip of pain how about teeth on your nipples...Yes, vanilla can be dressed to kill by adding just a little more thought to it.

How do you get a little more adventure for your dollars ? Most ladies don't charge extra for this and will gladly play along. You can ask ahead of time if your lady would be intersted in a little roleplay...I call it foreplay myself and nothing gets me hotter than a pistol and ready to pop myself.

Start slow and let yourself simmer...don't jump into anything especially when your in awe of someone elses fantasies. Take a good look at those possibilities, put yourself smack dab in the middle and visualize how it might feel. Does the shoe fit ? Don't worry if it doesn't, take your time and let nature take it's cource. Kinky may sound awesome and very inviting one moment but when visual turns to honest to goodness reality..."holy shit" put me back in my own square box.  I've been there myself more than a few times and have been with many men who have cum to terms with what it takes to reach their plateau.

After all isn't it just a head trip your after...

Kisses Haley

How About a nice pair of lips and a good tongue.


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As I always say DFK is for both pairs of lips.

curve to get from vanilla to B&D-S&M.

don't get me wrong!  physical bondage can be a lot of fun.  i have not personally been bound in quite some time (have not established that sort of trust with anyone), but i've been playing with sensual domination & restraint -- from light to heavy, & on both sides -- since i was 18, and rendering someone literally helpless, then overwhelming them with pleasure, can do things to a person that are just out of this world.  in a way, it creates a safe space for someone to be pampered -- to be adored and devoured with no expectations (since they can't move!)... for most people, especially those who are obsessed with reciprocity or even one-upmanship in the pleasure game (such as myself), this is a rare treat.

that said... it's when you can keep your lover frozen to the spot with the sheer power of your will -- when someone is so drunk on your touch, that they will stay still as a stone just to have more (because if they do not, you'll deny them your touch) -- that you've really mastered the art of bondage.

of course, my views on S&M are rather unconventional, so take that advice for what you paid for it.

Light bondage is ok, but if it feels too contrived and not spontaneous enough it doesn't turn me on!

I dont trust everyone to do it right, or within decent limits either, so I dont let everyone participate in that sort of activity with me. But holding down arms, spanking, light (emphasis on "light") choking, is where it's AT!!!!


Dani

Well, I wouldn't mind a few volunteers, so please do feel free to PM me ladies...

I personally really enjoy light BDSM play involving tying up the girl and sensually dominating her, but I am not into any heavy stuff.  Sarching through TER it is pretty hard to find providers that mention they are into this AND are willing to do it, though.  It may just be that this site doesn't really have a good way to search for that (selecting "Heavy" for S&M is helpful but doesn't really fit the bill), or it may just be that not too many providers are offering that type of service - which I can understand because it does take trust to do something like that with someone you barely know.  

Perhaps another option for providers that my be interested but hesitant would be to bring a second provider that they know so they don't feel as apprehensive?  It would cost the hobbiest a bit more but he could get what he really wanted in the end.

The question is really how do we find the girls that are willing to provide this type of BDSM for us when we are in the mood for something different?