"Actually, I prefer to meet a married man"

To me it sounds WAY too suspicious. Almost like they are looking for suckers to blackmail. Any takes on this?

That's a leap of the imagination!!  

Maybe they just prefer married guys because there is less chance of the client thinking the relationship could develop any further than a professional one?  I have no preference either way but that seems more likely than imagining us all to be potential blackmailers!

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I don't see blackmail I see more of what carrie is thinking.

Although, I for one worry about blackmail. Have any of the guys ever had this happen?

I think Carrie has the right idea in this case

The young lady could be making two points. One about married men being unavailable. So they tend not to try and pursue any other arrangement. Then there is possibly the fact that most single men tend to be a lot more aggressive and take longer to satisfy then most(not all of course, but most) married men. Feed back?

I follow Carrie on this ... I also think (MHO) that married men have far less partners then single guys, we may be more stable and may be less of a hassle and cause fewer problems.... .02

I actually talked to a provider about this and she said that she prefers married men because, while they are just as likely to get too attached, they are far less likely to do stupid stuff like show up unannounced and uninvited.

Wow! you're more cynical than I. Do you really think providers as a whole set their sights on blackmail??.
   Married men tend to fall headoverheels in-love with their providers much less often as their single counterparts. Even if a married client does fall hard for his provider the prospect of Community property, alimoney and child support usually curb his enthusiasms. This makes for a very controlable as well as profitable situation for the provider.
   A "smittened" single client has far less built in restraints making him less controlable and therefore possibly more complicated to manage in the providers eyes.  
   
  Just my .02

With Carrie here with the addition of married or men with SO's are more likely to keep things discreet and on the QT.
For ladies with two careers, this is a bonus.

Of course this and all generalities are false.

ML

He may be a cynic, but he is right on this one. There an old saying that goes, "when a married guy isn't getting what he wants from home, it then becmoes time to roam."

Overall, it means fewer complications and entanglements and the lady is almost ensured of plenty of visitors from that portion of the populace.

One provider told me she likes to be a married client becuase it makes it a bit more "nasty." Another said she thinks married men make better, more sensitive sex partners. Who knows. But I think Carrie and Cynicalman both have good points.

I dont know about that some providers might like the idea of a married man because they dont play the field as much  and possibly more mature than a single guy
hogan

She feels more secure that the gent isn't single. It does happen more with single clients falling in love than the married ones.

Shaye

when i first got in the biz i only wanted to see married men.. this cuts down on fatal fuckers.. lol. and i was married at the time.. so that is just my o2.....

Married men generally are not prone to stalking. They want to hit and run and that works well for many of us we seek like.

HB

I’m married and have seen hundreds of providers over the last 30 years.  I can understand why providers would like married clients, who act like me--partially because of the marriage.  I’m usually tightly scheduled, so I make appointments--never just showing up, keep them on time, and don’t overstay.  I’m careful about health issues; and am very discreet .  I’m not going to fall in love, although I’ve had several very good friendships over the years.  

I’ve never felt that blackmail was any kind of possibility except once with a rather flaky gay provider.

Brianna is the right track, also married guys, I think, tend to balance the companionship value as much as the "act" itself better...just my thought.   As far as blackmail...It's never even crossed my mind.

Maried = gentlemen looking for a hot kinky time in a safe enviroment. He is more than likely D/D free as he has others at home to think about and can recognize the value and sacred nature of our intimate encounter. He will be as discreet as I seeing that we both have a lot to loose.
Single sweeties can be just as great but as many of the Ladies stated above, they indeed are more open to relationship conflicts etc.

Sheesh, you guys are getting me down.  Are there any advantages to having a single guy ??

A few months ago, my ATF and I were talking about our on-going 'relationship'. We concluded that we are very comfortable with each other BECAUSE we are both married and have no desire to change our marital status.

A leap of the imagination? Well I guess I was misinterpreted. I did not mean ALL providers were blackmailers. Then again maybe "blackmail" was a rather rough term. I was just kind of suspicious as to why married men would be chosen over single men.

But I also do read the posts on the TER boards and I did happen to see a post by Carrie stating that,

"Apart from the possibility of a provider being untrustworthy (eg stealing something) or just downright flaky and causing you problems.."

So if blackmail is a leap of the imagination, then what kind of "problems" were you referring to?

jaydee2, apologies if my reply caused you offence.

Re your quote of a previous statement of mine, I've read a fair bit on TER lately about providers who are having a quiet time and looking to generate more work making unsolicited calls to former clients.  That's the sort of thing I was refering to.  It doesn't necessarily make them flaky but it's I think it's very unprofessional.  Most of us indulging in this hobby as either a provider or client expect discretion from those we see.  I wasn't thinking of anything more sinister than that

I understand what your saying there Carrie, but something else you said just now sounded quite odd.

"..providers who are having a quiet time and looking to generate more work making unsolicited calls to former clients."

Now Im not saying you Carrie, but we (hobbyists) always hear about how ALL clients informations is deleted, lost, destroyed, etc. after a session. So how do these providers contact the guys? Does the information just magically appear again?
I started wondering this after I got one of these unsolicited calls from a provider I had not contacted her for over a YEAR!