party pooper

You don't. Blame it on her!  

How far back do I go and do I send an email to all providers.

Well, I'll probably go back about 5 or 6 months back. Some STD's got incubation periods that don't show up until several months later. It is good that you want to be honest with the provider, even though this may affect your chances with seeing them in the future. But, it must be done to notify her. Yes, I would probably email the providers that I have seen within those months to let them know the situation. That's just me.

If email, can it be an alias email.

Referring to the question above. Well, some providers get weird emails all the time. If, you don't have any credibility to your claim, then they might just dismiss it as a prank. You might want to reword your message, and be specific to each type of provider you saw.

Lastly, how do you explain it to your wife.

Damn, that is probably the toughest one. I am not good of making up lies, so, I'll just tell her the truth. In situations like these, you have to tell the truth, although, you may alter it by saying, you met a girl at a bar sometime ago, and you both slept with each other. Something of that nature. I think she may freak out if you told her you have been seeing providers.

Damn dude, again, I feel very sorry for your situation, and I hope that everything is well with you. Good luck!

I too have caught something from a provider.

I got chlamydia from a BBBJ. The thing is chlamydia is often asymptomatic and you could caught it months ago or even farther back if you don't get checked often. You need to warn every sexual partner you have had in the last three months. You can never be sure when you caught it or from who unless you test very often like I do.

I called every provider and let them know. They know the risks and the ladies I called thanked me for my honesty. Make sure it is chlamydia before you go calling everyone as there are other possibilities. You owe every sexual partner you have the truth. You can use an email but they need to know who is sending it so they know it is not a joke.

As for outing anyone as an STD risk, you have no clue who gave it to you unless you test often (monthly) as many STD can be asymptomatic almost indefinitely including chlamydia. All outing will do is get you blacklisted. Especially since you likely spread it to others.

As for your wife, you owe her the truth. You put her heath at risk, it is time for you to own it. I wish you luck. I would have the information on a good family therapist and have a good family practice lawyer on retainer as shit will hit the fan. Feel free to wait to find out that is chlamydia first though.

I been where you are and it sucks. I was lucky as my wife knew about and is fine with my hobbying. Here is the advise I got when it happened to me. I even tested negative the day after I was exposed so you never know. do not go around blaming people.

http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=12&SortBy=DateCreated%20desc&Search=chlamydia&SearchType=1&Author=husband&DayFrom=3000&DayTo=0&MessageID=403802&frmSearch=1#403802

Now do the right thing and warn those you have seen and don't go blaming anyone.

This thread is depressing here is a photo to make it less so. The photo is of Zusie A. from Met-Art.

Wait & see what your test results are.  You know you are not having sex until this is resolved.

I had a bad scare a year or so ago...  It was an infection, not and STD!  I'd never had a UTI but I am immune supressed & WOW!  did it take off.  No sex was the least of it.  The d@mn bug was drug resistant & I ended up hospitalized, not once but twice on IV antibiotics.  

My ATF told me a story (while she was comforting me during my "vacation" from the hobby).  A client had a rash on his privates, goes nuts, confesses all to the wife.  Turns out, he'd been doing yard work & peed without washing his hands.  He had a wicked case of poisin ivy...  and was slapped with divorce papers for good measure.

If you have to confess something...  a drunk BJ might be easier to forgive than FS "sex".   You might have to sign up for counciling (for yourself) to get the heat off.  

Best Wishes,
H

I will definitely wait until i get the results.  

if positive, I will do the right thing and call all providers I have seen in the past 3 months as I have only been hobbying that long.

No bbfs during that time but a lot of bbbj's

as for my wife i will definitely tell her, and i will say that it was a bbbj.  

I believe the provider I got it from may have been high on something and i remember my gut told me to something was wrong about her.  

By the way, I only see high end girls in my area.   i have not seen any backpage girls.  

Don't say shit to the wife.

tell her you aint gonna tap that till she loses 15 pounds. by that time youll be clean

Incubation period for chlamydia is 7-21 days. For gonorrhea it is 1-14 days. Given the reported symptoms, it is most likely one of these (or actually a co-infection with both, which is fairly common).

Because the longest likely incubation period is three weeks, you can rule out anyone you saw more than three weeks ago.

At the very least, you should set up a secondary email account (make sure you use it in a fashion that will give you a different IP than you usually have) and inform all women with whom you have had sexual contact in the past three weeks that it is possible they are infected. If your writing style is distinctive like mine, you can disguise your style with an online dialectizer: http://www.rinkworks.com/dialect/

Make sho'nuff they git their throats checked, particularly eff'n it turns out yo' haf chlamahdia.

As for your wife ... I suspect it is likely you don't have sex with her much anyway. If she isn't someone you've had sex with in the past three weeks, don't say nuthin. HIPPA is your friend.

Good luck!