I think people focus way too much on the wrong things.

Looks, hype, long reviews, trying to predict the “perfect” choice… and somehow still missing what actually matters. You can tick every box on paper and still walk away thinking, “yeah… it was fine.”

Meanwhile, the best experiences I’ve had didn’t look perfect beforehand. No overanalysis, no long checklist  just a good feeling and going with it.

I’m starting to think that overthinking kills more good moments than bad decisions ever do.

Not saying details don’t matter… but maybe we give them too much weight.

Curious how others see it  do you trust the logic, or the gut feeling?

After being in this industry for more than 10 years, you run out of new beautiful woman that fit all of your preferences.
I now only focus on things in this order:
Rate, Location then Services.
I don't care how she looks as long as she fits my 3 requirements I'm all in.
I have found some of my best ATF using this format and it works for me.

In a world that is filled with gray, I use both my experienced internal instinct (a “gut feeling”) along with the logic and attention to detail required for proper research.
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Look, the game has changed, and substantially so. Clients are being asked to spend more and more per date with the recent surge in inflation in this lifestyle. We’re also being asked to provide real world info, employment details, professional links like LinkedIn, work email addresses, selfies, references, P411, deposits, etc. The list grows and grows.  
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When you factor all that in, and then add the influx of newer women since COVID, many of whom haven’t followed the professional norms established by those providers before them, there is understandably an increased level of caution and skepticism among clients.
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There is simply much more at risk now than there was just a few years ago. It’s night and day different, and smart clients are making the necessary adjustments to protect their personal information, their money, and going the extra step to ensure sexual compatibility.  
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What you call "overthinking", I call pragmatic self protection. The stakes have never been higher, in my opinion, so ONLY trusting your gut is a possible recipe for disaster these days.

Even if we put the Ai generated texts aside, you are making posts from an agency account. Ie, the seller or at very least a promoter/pimp/agency owner account.  

 
But then you (and I'm using "you" loosely, because llms can never be you)  talk about your experiences as a client. How does that work exactly?

 
Talking about how people focus on the wrong things and using your experiences, under your agency/seller account, doesn't make much sense to me.

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He owns and/or manages an escort agency but he cant participate in p4p himself? Why would the two be mutually exclusive in your mind? And for our purposes of discussion here, why would it even matter?

He can participate, but it's probably best when talking about experiences as a client to do it from an actual client account.

You know, one that has reviews, and so forth?  

 

What do you mean, why would it even matter? He uses his supposed personal experience as supporting evidence for his argument/claim.

If a provider on here were to use her experience as a client to make a claim, I'm sure she would be questioned too.

 
Like, what were specific examples that he's referencing? Do they actually exist? That's important imo.

And we can never ascertain if they are clients, posers, providers, etc. I don't see you question any of them.
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His OPs are always respectful and thoughtful imo. Why not just engage with his words and his thoughts like you do with others is all I am saying?

Some amount of thinking and planning better go into your date or else you're just throwing darts at a map.  As RR points out, the major flaw in your thinking is that thinking = overthinking. No--use of the prefix "over" in the context of your post creates a false equivalence between thinking at all and overanalyzing. There's a lot of room between those two for rational thought. I trust my Spider Sense, but I also look both ways before I cross.

While gut feelings (about pics or message or whatnot) exist and I do pay attention, careful consideration of the facts I can garner (most will look to reviews and the ads and other "back channel" inputs) those are before the session so, while important, are not really determinants of the actual session.  

 
During the session some of your intuition and research is proven incorrect -- sometimes trivially other times not. What you do then, in my experience, is really what determines the outcome of the session, assuming it occurs. In that case it's about managing your expectations versus the reality and having some ability to ignore the disappointments (caveat of major or minor divergence) and look for the positives and potentially new opportunities in positives. In that broad area I do think sometimes people do cheat themselves of a good time because they were fixated on the expectations, had already decided what the session was going to be and then cannot let those preconceptions go.

The "opportunity" I will look for is to let others know about it so the seller is less likely to fool others.

 
The other good "opportunity" for liars who attempt to take a customer's money via a lie in any business, is to meet a customers fist with their head. I think this "opportunity" could be very productive in improving future expectations of other prospective customers.

Wow ! Very well said and so true, great reply !

Most experienced mongers have developed their own streamlined process for success! It involves some amount of research to ensure success without over thinking it! For me, I start by scanning new reviews, watching favorite booker websites, and checking other reviews of mongers who like the same girls I like. Then I go a bit deeper reading reviews of girls I am considering adding on my “to do list”. On occasion I will trade recommendations with trusted fellow mongers. This usually results in good sessions! Contrary to OP’s premise, my worst sessions are when I decide to TOFTT and see someone with very little information like one or no reviews!  The days of over thinking it are long gone.