I can see this thread getting ugly and/or too political, and getting yanked. I hope that doesn't happen.

"Real feminists don't judge consenting adults."

time not for sex
 ha ha  
 is not it si rule number one  with  high end escorts?
 and real men NEVER will go  and pay for sex .. wow .. how low it is .. ha ha ha.

She's a hypocrite.  She's also more than likely basing her opinion of sex workers on the age-old stereotypes that all women in the sex industry are abused, confused and desperate women who would never do sex work if they had other options available to them.  

I doubt you are going to change her mind...

Coming up with slippery slope answers will ruin her argument even more. She needs to stick to the core of what she's against.

She gets to be a feminist, yet still judge women based on their choices.  

While the so called feminists scream about women’s rights and freedom, they see both from their own points of view. When women exercise their free will the feminist pins the blame for what real women do is due to men.

We had this sexual revolution in this country back int day of Ozzie and Harriet, and there was great sincerity to it, and loads of fun were had by all. But somebody back then summed up the turning. I forget if it was Margaret Mitchell or someone else. She observed, "When you take the clothes off Puritans, you get pornography."

I don't see P4P as a conservative VS liberal issue at all.. I'm very very liberal.. but see nothing wrong with a woman who chooses to use her assets to make a living.. I do have issues with exploitation of women.. and P4P is not inherently exploitation.. It can happen just like women working to manufacture clothing in a sweatshop somewhere.. That's exploitation too.. It's very easy for some that are confused to label everything conveniently if they don't understand it..  

grab a gal who's tanked to have a one night stand of (probably) unprotected sex.  Or maybe she's up for the guy who carries on an affair with the wife of a friend or other family member, or having an office affair.  These are great ways to lead to divorce, lose a job, or get hit between the eyes with a slug from a Saturday night special.

Real women's rights there, I guess.

Maybe she thinks that sex should be reserved for only people in a marriage-like situation.  Good luck with that.

The fact of the matter is, p4p is the most honest and respectful form of sex between a man and woman that there is, at least outside of the marriage situation.  (And that's obviously a debatable topic, but for another time.)

The fact that p4p is illegal exploits the woman and puts her in danger.

Look at the countries that outlaw p4p and you'll see a roster of the most backward countries in the world.  Look at the ones where p4p is legal, and you'll find the most progressive, excepting the good old USA for various reasons.

You may not convince her, but at least it will shut her up for a while, which is just about as good.

who does not control her own body."     - Margaret Sanger

. . . for married men who lie to their wives. Real men don't cheat.

First of all, I've been in two marriages and never cheated.  But I don't judge men (or women) who do.  There have been numerous threads here about the legitimate reasons for this.  I choose not to judge.
Especially because knee-jerk judgmentalism is exactly what the problem is regarding traditional views of sex workers.
I do agree with your other thoughts.
By the way, this is the best thread I've seen here in a long time.  Lots of very thoughtful comments by everyone, so thanks.

For some women, it is degrading because of the reasons they are here. She is right in a sense, but not overall. It really does depend on why a woman decided to come here. If she feels disgusted and degraded yet stays for the money, your sister in law is right. If she simply found a way to use men the way they have used us for years, she's just smart lol. I will say this... compared to all the free sex I gave away in my younger years, THIS is not degrading. I can't recall one hobbyist who fked me and left no payment,  making me feel totally useless. I can't recall one guy here going to my high school and telling all his friends on the football team what a good time we had in the back seat.  

Some of those stories include women who were not prostitutes and who would never do this. This business only empowers those who have been abused, are needy and attention starved, or who can't do anything else with their lives. Another illusion women buy into. If sucking a married man's d*ck is all you need to feel empowered, the other areas in your life need some serious work.

I think your sister-in-law is either too dense or too blinded by radical feminist rhetoric to see an obvious distinction here.  On the one hand, countless women are victims of human trafficking and are forced to sell their bodies.  This is obviously a deplorable situation, and no one in their right mind could suggest that these women have a choice in the matter.  On the other hand, the providers most of us see are making a fully voluntary choice to engage in their chosen profession.  Indeed, I have a lot of respect for someone who finds a job they enjoy and do it well.  Plus, providing is in many ways empowering.  The women are their own bosses and set the rules: who they see, how much they charge, what they're willing to do, and on and on.  (I never use agencies precisely because a lot of these benefits are missing.)

Fantasy became a political-psychosexual undermining.
Porn is the largely the product of the caveman's imagination.
Sex is supposed to be fun.
So, I don't follow how it goes from porn turning women into blowup dolls to falling for hookers.

Might have been different in your case, but in general, what I posted is accurate for many. They are not falling for the person, but the illusion that person represents... a hyper sexual being that is always ready to cater to a man at every whimb, never moody, never emotional, and needing nothing. That's what the sex industry promotes... sex, with NO strings, baggage, or emotions attached.  

It's not a liberal vs. conservative issue. She's very liberal, and I thought that was necessary in my description in order to further identify her pro-choice stance. IOW, she's close to being a militant feminist.

My girl warned me there'd be a ton of baggage during a tearful dinner where she was wasted.
Silly me, I went for her anyway.

Yeah, and Margaret Sanger wanted to control more than her own body. She would have approved of Auschwitz.  

Sure, there are clients who just want a warm blow-up doll, but then there are clients that find brains sexy too.  I dare say you've met more than a few of the latter.

There are many ranges and shades in this very large ocean we swim in.

We can make all the judgments about them we like, but that isn't going to shed any light on the matter.

Like all things political, the correct path is to maximize opportunities and freedom in a way consistent with public safety and similar concerns.

Of course so much cultural and aesthetic baggage gets dragged in that getting logical laws and actions to follow is more the exception than the rule.

In the meantime, let's be glad that we seem to be thriving despite the obstacles.

How about considering men staying with their wives when they are injured, paraplegic, in coma, not interested, can't do for physical reasons, etc. Are you saying, men shoud divorce their wives?  

Thank you VERY much anonymous!! I was about to write basically the same reply, you beat me to it so good for you. I absolutely agonized over this issue for years before making the plunge. Lots more I could point out but won't here and now. Thank you again for this post!
                                                                                                Regards......RR

I have engaged with feminists on this point.  I am liberal and on most issues do agree with most feminists.  

but not cynical. And sure as hell not easy (the second part).

Is she married? If so, has she ever withheld sex from her husband because she wanted something or was mad at him? How many women get married, have kids, and never go back to work....essentially living off their husbands, and using sex as a weapon? And if they decide to file for divorce, they end up getting child support and/or alimony..... but those of us who CHOOSE to get paid on a per person encounter are somehow in the wrong, lol?