and most goddamn hobbyists resemble Archie Bunker

I've been pleasantly surprised many a time. Many types of men see providers. Young, old, tall, short, good looking, ugly, fat, thin, various races, various religions, you name it.

Just because one shows up being more attractive than another one doesn't mean its weird, or means he's a cop, or means he is seeing providers for some crazy out of the norm reason. Never have I asked any more questions, or anything more personal than I would ask anyone else.

Everyone assumes the average john is old, fat and ugly, but for example there is many a perfectly normal, single, good looking guy that is simply too busy to maintain a relationship and doesn't want to deal with the bullshit involved with dating. Just as there is many a guy that is married and good looking, but has the same story as every other married dude seeing providers. Big deal.

Is it nice a nice surprise? Hells yeah. Sometimes its a one time thing, sometimes its longer term. Sometimes both parties get too involved and it either leads to drama/bad endings or heartbreak. But sometimes it leads to simply a fantastic *working relationship*! Just as it should.

Girls how often do you make an appointment with a guy, he shows up and he's MUCH BETTER looking than you thought he would be.  He is better than most of guys that you can date.  Has this EVER happened to you?  If so, please tell us what happened and how many times he came back for more or was it a one shot deal?  DId you ask him why he sees providers?  Did you ask a lot of questions....or perhaps you thought he was law enforcement?

They're mostly average to ugly mofos if you ask me. But I'm not a woman so i guess I can't reallt tell.


HH

I have a rather "unusual" taste in men I date...They all have different looks...Some would even
be considered "ugly" by traditional standards. I have celeb crushes on Ian McShane, Andy Samberg, and
Matthew Gray Gubler...big variations!

I have had some very handsome gentlemen call on me, and it's weird because they don't "sound"
that way on the phone. LoL ... Silly huh? I still like to guess what someone looks like from a voice.
I can think of a few off hand that I am happy repeat when they're in town. It isn't just looks,
they are polite & laid back too.

I'd never ask someone why they hobby...it's like when someone asks a girl "Why don't you have a BF? Why aren't you married yet?" ... It can be a potential sore spot.

That makes sense....

Dude....you need to relax and seek some anger management course online.   That's just my .02$

Not!

In my dreams

Don't sell yourself short buddy......you never know.

....and as one so aptly put it, "I don't give a gift to lady to visit, I give it so that I can leave".  In other words, many gentlemen, no matter their looks, do not want the strings of a "normal" relationship, or of course, they are married.  

Hugs and Kisses

It's rare when I'm surprised by someone being attractive.  Even those who wouldn't be considered 'conventionally' attractive often become so once I get to know them a bit.  As for someone being out of my league.... well, I'm a fairly attractive girl myself, have a decent head on my shoulders and a healthy level of self-estem, so I can't say I've ever met anyone I'd consider out of my league.

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What do you consider attrative in a man....?   Do tell....

I want that PROGRAM !!!   holly smokes

We laugh alot like school kids. In and out of bed..it's never ending...

I have actually stopped seeing one for that very reason and the other..

well,, Its just fun.. We come and go and cum back together again..

I don't ask.. I just tell him. He has no idea how hot he is and his wife is one blessed woman!

If I were not Jessica and he were not married I would snatch him up and keep him all to myself...

but he is and that is ok too.......... He knows how to find me..

My big and tall music man!

guess the OP likes those handsome hollywood cops.  benjamine bratt, ice T, etc

I don't have a particular physical type (as you'll soon realize) so perhaps instead of listing personality traits that draw me in, I'll just come up with a list of "Hollywood Crushes" and you can draw your own conclusions.

Anthony Bourdain, Gordon Ramsey - Not conventionally attractive by any means but I *dig* the personalities
David Feherty, Sean Connery - both conventionally yummy, *hot* accent, lively and classy personalities
Dwayne Johnson, Vin Diesel, Bruce Willis, Jason Stratham, Vinnie Jones, Dennis Craig - some beefcake, hard ass with a teddy bear heart
Robert DeNiro, Al Pacino - 10 years ago *hot*, now still attractive, 'manly' men
Vince Vaughn, Adam Sandler - hilarious but with a depth and intelligence if you get under the armor of being funny
Christopher Walken, William Shatner - quirky, interesting personalities

This is by no means an exhaustive list of guys/types I find appealing but it should give you an idea of my range.

A warning how hot they are so other ladies won't stutter and have to pick their jaws up off the floor like I did.

Unless he brings it up first, I don't typically ask why anyone decided to meet me or any other ladies. That's pretty personal, and unless I know he's okay with talking about it, I'm not going to risk making him feel uncomfortable. Besides, I'm awesome -- why wouldn't he want to meet me? Haha.

Most cops are not hot, so that doesn't really cross my mind.

The most surprising hot sexy man I've met was 73, such an inspiration for living a long life with grace!  There is a regular that were he not married, I'd considered dating... yes, he's adorable, good looking... but most of all has a lovely heart.  There was the hottie with the accent that absolutely melted me, and he was amazingly sexually compatible.  He's great solo-play fantasy material.  I could go on.  But why?  Their stories are all different, I may ask why they are coming to see me... yet I ask anyone the same thing.  I ask no more questions than of anyone else.  Everyone has their motivations and stories and I respect that, just as I respect their right for privacy.

I've never met someone that I believed to be law enforcement.  Basing that judgment on how someone looks could be catastrophic.

lol I wish. haha

It's like a vacation day and you think, "I'm getting paid for this?"

I had one that was so handsome that I worried he might be disappointed with me until he told me, "You are very beautiful. You need better pictures." Whew! I've seen him several times since then and it's always a treat.

I saw more make-me-drool hot guy 10s when I was first starting out doing massage for $100. I don't see them as much anymore. They are often younger and not on the high socio-economic end.. or maybe they just can't see paying a lot because they are hot.

Yes, I have asked why they are seeing a provider because I have wondered, too. I'm like, "Have you tried taking off your shirt and just walking down the street? You could probably get a girl for free pretty easy." They usually say they don't want the drama.

But it's personality that really makes a guy really attractive or not in my opinion. I am more attracted to a guy I like, as in I like HIM than just how he looks. The guy I was most attracted to wasn't a 10, he was pretty good looking, but he had a 10 personality and we stayed up all night talking and having fun even though he only booked me for two hours. I've seen him since then, too, and wish it was more often.