Gee I would have never thought of that. Are you assuming some would continue on with her. Are some men so incredibly PW'ed that they would allow this kind of behavior to be swept under the rug?

Yes I read your paragraph.

Number one never see a provide at home. Before she comes to your hotel room lock up all your stuff including your wallet.

Normally I'd say report her ass everywhere, but she didn't steal anything. You need to stop seeing her however, and it's your option whether to confront her or not. She will LIE, and not admit she rifled through your wallet anyway. Confronting her is futile.

So I had an amazing session with my ATF. However when I was in the shower, she went thru my wallet! I know this because I am very particular about how my driver license and cards line up and they were not in the same order! Should I confront her about it or pretend nothing happened?? I mean she didn't steal anything but she probably knows my real name now. Should I stop seeing her or write a bad review? What should I do? I mean I still enjoy her.

We should be able to trust each other. You enjoy someone who would go through your things? Your wallet is private. Maybe she should show you her wallet.

Don't take anything extra you don't need into a sesh. I never take my wallet with me, just the gift. As always,i like to say you only know what she wants you to see, you'll never know who she really is.

I thought everyone did.

It really comes in handy in cases like this.

But seriously, this is a sick chick.  

Write a review and warn the rest.  She should be out of this business.

Remember she now has your real name, maybe address, etc.  Since you have now have lost trust in her, do you know what she might do if confronted, or outed?  Think through the possible consequences before making any decision.

...... i'm not a fan of anyone letting someone walk over them no matter how good the sex is. That sh*it is NOOOOTTTT COOOLLLLL. Great ass, tits, head w/e doesn't make up for that....at least it shouldn't. Her nosiness will get worse....that's flat out creepy honey. Don't be whipped.   *bosomy hug*

Yes, going threw a wallet is wrong, but you need a next move.
Nothing here has really changed on your end.  You never trusted her anyway.  I mean your own ATF doesn't know your name.
Just keep your wallet off your person next time.  
If you are certain she knows your name, ask her hers.  Now, you're even.  Keep seeing her for amazing times if you want.

What she did was just that!You do not know her reason behind searching through your wallet who really knows why she did that?Say you do confront her do you think she will actually admit to going through your wallet?Nope,more than likely will not happen.
An amazing time with your ATF does not equal an invasion of privacy in my opinion.
If you can overlook something like this then it is your choice on whether you will continue to see her.

Didn't assume anything BUT he asked (he asked if he should continue like nothing happened aka keeping on seeing her) so......that kind of means he's not totally against it.

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#1. confront her. What she did was sneaky and wrong..... ask her why? SHe may have suspected you were lying to her about what you do or who  you are? still no excuse to be sneaky on her part..

#2. I can't believe she does not know your name.. Are you kidding me?  This just boggles my mind..

I'll go against everyone else in this thread: keep seeing her.  She's your ATF for a reason, yeah?  'Amazing sessions'  aren't the norm in the sex trade, despite inflated reviews.  She went through your wallet &  I'll concede the point, that's a sneaky thing to do. But she didn't steal anything, so my guess is she's just curious about you.   She's a girl that you like to fuck every couple of weeks, right?   Don't complicate things.    

My ATF told me her real name soon after we met, and she knows mine.  We've seen each other for over two years.  Even after blow ups she's never threatened to expose or blackmail me.  Anthony did provide some good advice though--don't bring any personal belongings into a session with someone you don't know or trust.  Good luck, --z

..... you use your mouth to ask questions not your fingers to go through their things, behind their back at that....ESPECIALLY their wallet -_o.   For someone who gives an amazing bj or has amazing p*ussy or a pretty face that makes you feel all dizzy and tingly inside  there's someone prettier, better p*ussy,  better head.

When you say ATF I assume that this means you have been seeing her for a while.  There is no excuse for this sort of behavior.  A few years ago my ATF caught a guy trying to go through her bag when she went to get ice.  He was a regular that she thought she could trust. Needless to say she dumped him.  You should do the same.

I'd ask her 'Did you find what you were looking for?'. I'm assuming she would deny it, but there would be no reason for her to steal anything. I don't keep my money in my wallet. Maybe buy something online with one of my credit cards, but I doubt she could do it fast enough while I'm in and out of the shower. Well, maybe, cuz she could probably tell I'm getting out when the singing stops.

I don't know. I'm just not that shocked about a lot of things. I don't see her looking at my identity cuz she would know my real name anyway. Shit, some of these ladies can tell you what my mother's maiden name is, my blood type, where and how long I've worked at my present job, and how I like my eggs for breakfast.

If you enjoy her so much, and she didn't take anything, fuck it. Besides, you writing this and not using an alias she might read it and 'fess up and try to explain why she did what she did. Just think she was being nosy, which most women are, lol!

Walker: If this girl were just another provider,  I'd agree with the peanut gallery & say 'dump her'.  But we're now talking about your 'ATF' and maybe we should define our terms.   My ATF is the most beautiful provider in my area, she's passionate, sweet, and lovely.  And she spends LOTS of off-the-clock time with me.  

I assume your ATF is like that, or you wouldn't call her your ATF.  If you dump her, how many mediocre sessions will you go through before you meet another spectacular girl?   How much $$$ will you spend before you find another ATF. Maybe you're lucky and a host of great providers are just a phone call away.  In my town, I wouldn't bang most of the local providers for free.   --z

How many guys hobby and never find an ATF. Then I look at your reviews and see a boat load of 9's and 10's who are high dollar.
Drop the snoop and buy another ATF.

and write her a bad review so she doesn't do the same to the next guy.

I agree...safety first...kick her to the curb

Ok, so she's your ATF, didn't know your personal info before and you don't know hers, then I can think of NO good reason why she was going through your stuff.

You've seen her more than once, so your obviously not LE. You give her a donation every session without fail, so why the fuck does she need to know where you work, and your personal life is your business alone. She doesn't need to know your friends and families names, faces or personal info. The only reason a provider wants that info legitimately is upfront to verify you, once you've had a session, it's meaningless.

The only excuses I can see for doing it are:

1. Plain and simple, she's nosy
2. She's looking to use the info in a harmful way (I.e., blackmail, ID theft, CC fraud)
3. She's a paranoid tweaker, don't think they all look like toothless leather mannequins...
4. She's catching feelings for you, and wants to know more about you.

..........and not your wife/so?  If you are narried, and your wife suspects, she may have been the one to "rearrange" your wallet.  It's just a thought.

Hugs and Kisses

I wish there were more providers like you!  I too know a great deal about my fav provider and she knows a lot about me.  And she didn't get it from my wallet and I didn't get it from her bag.  There is nothing better than having a nice open discussion over dinner either before or after the session.  The longer you know each other the more comfortable they will be sharing info.  I don't think you rat the girl out in a public forum, but I do think you confront her and take your business elsewhere.  Just leave the wallet at home!