or perhaps time frame that you would like to stop "the hobby"

but if anything, it has increased.  

When I was 19 and hiring a Times Square Peep Booth gal for an after hours tryst my goal was to lose my virginity.  After a few times of that I was "hooked" so to speak.  Sex is like a drug, the more you have, the more you want.  Soon, my goal changed to save just wnough to get laid at least once a month (all I could afford) I was hopeless with civvie gals, few social skills.  Ended up in more than one "Just friends" situation while trying to get laid with civvies.  The goal became "get your dick.wet once in awhile".  Then I got an honest to God girlfriend and we fucked like bunnies for almost a year before we broke up.  Even moved in together.  Went back to providers after 2 months of nuthin when broken up.  More failed attempts at gf finding then found a gal, got engaged got married, she was (and is) the best lay and bj giver ever.  But she is completely infrequent in her need and want.  After suffering with very little (even if really good) sex, after about 4 or 5 years I but the bullet and started seeing providers on the side again.  Now the goal was to supplement the wife.  Thats where I am today after another 12 years.

I am only going "to do this" until my dick falls off or I die, whichever comes last. lol

shortly after my divorce. my goal was just to survive it. Met a lovely CL provider who offered an amazing BBBJ and hot, steamy sex. I was smitten. Rescheduled that evening ... which is now the pattern of my behaviour ....  

I know that sounds rather simplistic, but it's the truth. After 27 years of marriage, the last two of which sex free - I needed to have sex and I didn't want to complicate my life by having an affair. This seemed like the best solution.

I'll meet one on Wednesday morning.  Then another girl of my dreams on Friday. If I'm really lucky, another girl of my dreams will be available on Sunday.  

after years in an essentially sexless marriage. My only goal was to find out if there was something wrong with me - was I doing something that instantly "turned off" women's libidos, did I suck in the sack, what was it about me?

Fancy here's your one chance....

I just wonder if everyone else will be able to resist taking a swing at this big fat one thrown right over the middle of the plate?

It's unfortunate, but a reality most of us with family, friends, and careers that has to be considered.

it was no longer something I enjoyed. Got to a point where I was more annoyed than happy and I took almost 2 years off (cold turkey if you will). Then I felt like doing it again and had the flexibility to juggle it with the rest of life and here I am.  

Not too long ago being gay was something to be ashamed of.  More recently the transsexual community has demanded to be recognized. Even stoners who were jailed by the millions finally have made progress getting their "crime" decriminalized in many jurisdictions and most pot smokers now freely admit they toke up occasionally.  Are we honestly admitting that these groups have more courage that we do?

...the longer I have been at it the more comfortble I am and I am in a real comfort zone now. Also many unique experiences, good and bad. Even the bad ones make for good stories. I am loving it. The goal is to carry on....

Think about that for a moment.

WINNING 😉

The sex drive in humans is second only to hunger in intensity and need for satisfaction...for some it may even be first...satisfying that urge has been stigmatized to the point where many are raised to believe that sex is evil and those who partake in the act are bad people...

I wanted to have my dick sucked at that very moment.  

Considering you leave with far less money than you walked in with....

...I'd stop...but that hasn't happened in 51 years so I'm not expecting it to happen at all...

I'm far from embarrassed, however there is still a stigmatism among guys and "having to pay for it" even though it is a "choice". For some reason, it's considered less manly to pay for pussy, than it is to obtain the pussy through other avenues.

No, I said to myself "Oh hell yes, I've found the life for me", and I've not looked back.

Most of you people should be ashamed of yourselves, not for either paying or being paid for sex, but for being too fucking cowardly to admit it.

I'm also a single and independent "mature" man and all my friends, family and yes, business associates know of my desire to "date" hot young women and pay to do it.  I admit that guys like GaG and I are not the average johns in this game but I agree that hiding and "skulking around" in the shadows is far too stressful and unproductive.  The more of us that come out of the shadows, the smaller the shadow will become.  Courage is needed and at times it seems to be in short supply in this game.

If you buy something, you leave with less money.  With a hooker, you leave with $300+ less money.  If you go to a movie, you leave with $10 less money.  Get it?

Gays, Stoners, Trannies all had to come out of the closet at extreme personal risk in order to fight persecution for doing something that didn't hurt a soul.

You meant "a stigma."  Astigmatism is......

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Although I was a juvenile at the time, and adults may have faced more time. There are far more post smokers, that have never spent a day in jail, than have.  

Congratulations, nobody in your life cares if you see hookers and it doesn't affect your job status. But there are many of us who would lose our careers if our participation in this activity was revealed. You regularly call people pussies for not saying fuck it, I don't care what anyone thinks, the hell with my career and family. Do I think that this should be legal and that the persecution of those involved is wrong? Absolutely. But I started my career long before I began this. Do you think that the ladies who are afraid of being outed to their friends and families are cowardly? Even if they risked losing custody of children to an ex or their "respectable" job that maybe provides benefits that this doesn't? It's easy to condemn others when you yourself have nothing to lose. The people who have worked so hard to end discrimination against minorities and the LGBT community, trying to help people who have no choice about who they are, actually risked something. By your own admission you've risked nothing. Bragging about participating in a voluntary activity when nobody in your life cares hardly makes you the next Rosa Parks

That the LGBT agenda was exploited for political purposes.  

It's my personal opinion that it is a waste of time, effort and resources when LE spends time chasing those of us involved in our life. Not whining, but my opinion just the same. And, knock on wood, I've never experienced anything close to an LE bust, but then I don't see BP or CL ladies. A small amount of research significantly reduces the risk of encountering LE.

I've never seen minorities, and LGBT discriminated against, to where it might actually effect their lives.

The consumer never "wins" What I'm saying is buying stuff isn't a contest you can win, or a contest at all.

Gays and trannies are one thing, that is not a "choice" but smoking pot certainly is and there have been a hell of a lot more people thrown in prison for pot than prostitution, so put that in your pipe and smoke it.

The consumer wins if he/she enjoys what was purchased.  If one of my clients has a great time with me and leaves feeling energized, then gets a smile on his face when he remembers the session, I'd call that a win for him. There does not have to be a loser.  Except in your case.  Ever hear of "win-win?"
Take a moment to think about what I said before commenting.  Actually, don't comment at all.  

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I JUST WANTED TO FUCK YOU ALL!    Thanks....carry on.

if you've got a family and you're stepping out on them to see providers, that's on you and not on the hobby community or industry.

Although against another contender.

You understand what "context" means?

In that context... Perhaps that's not the correct context, I will use the English language as I see fit

ha ha ha

So go ahead and use it but it ain't English.  You don't "use the English language" as you see fit.  You abuse it.

It's obvious I knew what word I was using, per the definition I provided along with the other times I spelled the word right.

Well said...Eom

OK, you meant "stigmatism."  That's a synonym for "astigmatism," the latter being the preferred spelling.  But, again, you meant to say "stigma."  Not "stigmatism," as I explained in my first response on this branch.
Good lord.

It's part of who I am...

Apparently if you're concerned about being outed to friends and family it's because, like me, you're cowards.

I don't think you grasp the concept of "winning

You call your favorite hooker,and go to town on her.......How's that working out so far??...I'm 3 1/2 hours short of the finish line.

I started out with the thought that it would be one time for the experience, and to satisfy a curiosity. After the date, I realized how much of a sucker I had been playing the dating game. I have met some wonderful women, and had a great time all the time, so I see no need to stop. Until I am in a committed relationship with a woman, the hobby is there for me.

I started in 09 and did this for about a year.  I saw 1 girl a month.  After that year I decided to stop doing this because it got pretty expensive and also the last few experiences seemed more like going through the motion than actually enjoying it.  Then about two years ago I decided to give myself a treat and see a provider.  Two years later I signed up for a VIP membership and I'm in the game again.  Unless I ever get married to get into a serious relationship I will probably dabble in this for the rest of my adult life or as long as my wallet will allow.

less intimate.

That was almost 12 yrs. ago.  Now?  The Song Remains the Same, except that the majority of the ladies I've met along this Winding Road are worthy of befriending, and my life has been richer as a result.  Who knew?

Sorry to hear that, Fancy.  I hope you're finding joy and happiness as well as money in your escorting adventures.

It was just a way to get back at the wife for cheating on me.  I found that it was better than I expected, and I will now hobby until I run out of money or die.  And if I'm ever in a serious relationship again, it will be with someone who wants to hobby with me.

i was embarrassed the first time i hatrd to ask for money for something i really enjoyed he asked for a blow job but he was so big i vouldnt get it in my mouth i put just the head in and sucked when he nutted i did swallow i really enjoy escort job

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