Providers, a question:

What, if any, are the reasons that some of you have age minimums (i.e. no client under 25/30/etc)?  I'm a younger hobbyist (22), but I'm very mature and have met with plenty of providers, yet some refuse to see me due to my age.

I realize at the end of the day, it's your call who you meet with and why, but I was just wondering what potential reasons you might have against a young hobbyist.

I initially thought such age limits were silly, and state on my site that anyone who contacts me with respect and maturity and who provides proper screening info will be considered regardless of age. However, my first experience last week with a younger (24) year old man left me considering the age cutoff.. It was clear to me that his focus was on getting as many cups as possible- there was no "down time" or get-to-know you chat, which I like to do with new clients. It also felt kind of awkward being with someone so close to my own age in this context.. not sure why. The fellow seemed frustrated that he didn't get in all his cups ("I usually get three in an hour- I don't know what's wrong with me") He also had illegal drugs (pot) in the room and kept saying "I should have smoked beforehand; I'd be less nervous" and kept pressuring me to smoke pot with him and also allow him to smoke cigarettes in the room. I don't think he was aware that he was making me uncomfortable, or that he had done anything wrong, but this is typical of my experience with civvie guys my own age and I don't want to repeat those experiences in the hobby.

and the fact that you have to ask the question is indicative of the "problem".  You may understand when you get to be 35 or so.

is that you must be at least 21.  I don't want to wonder if your mommy knows what you're out doing.  LOL.

Honestly, young men tend to be much more, uhhmmm ....shall we say vigourous (putting it nicely).  That, and what I used to hear, was "I'm not one of those old, fat farts, you should feel priveleged to be with me."  Don't need the attitude.

Most providers simply choose not to try to weed out the good young men from "those" guys.

My one, and only experience with a fellow who was under 25 was, unfortunately, a nightmare from start to finish. After deliberating for quite some time over whether to even see him or not, I finally agreed over my own misgivings because of his admirable persistence. BIG mistake.

I arrived at his location as he was shooing his college age roommate out the door. He was drunk, and the smell of pot in his room was nauseating. I hated to even let my clothes hit the floor it was so filthy - and the bed was even worse. Good God.

I think the first response must have seen the same guy, because this guy too, seemed convinced that "multiple pops" meant as many as he could get in an hour - only his plans were even more grand. he informed he could usually fire off four in an hour. For the next half hour I endured some of the most inept, awkward and at times downright painful attempts at sex I've ever had in my life. Finally I just jumped up, gathered up my clothes, and told him he should give women a wide berth until he is at least 30 years old and learns some manners, hygiene tips, and more importantly, how to treat a woman in bed.

Hon, I am sorry that your age makes it difficult to see providers. Unfortunately, too many of your age mates have given youngsters a bad rap. For my part, it would take an uncommon amount of e-mails, phone conversations, etc before I decide a fellow under 25 has enough of a head on his shoulders to be safe to see. It isn't fair to you, but I won't take a chance of putting myself through that kind of nightmare again.

I love what I do entirely too much to let myself become jaded and cynical by enduring situations like that. If keeping my positive attitude and love for my job intact means not seeing anyone younger than 25, to me it is a better option than burning myself out over one too many bad experiences. I truly am sorry though, that the younger gentlemen who are polite, clean, and respectful have to lose out because of others who just haven't gotten the message yet.

I turned 51 in May 07. This pic was taken last October. I lost a few lbs...not intentionally. I am STILL very able to handle a Twenty Something!!

Check out my Tewenty Something! It is the real deal. I remember once some ladies in a chat room were giving me a hard time. I was having a date with a Duke Law Student...in his twentys..later that evening. They gave me a BLANKET statement...that they don't waste their time on young guys. I disagree.
Twenty Somethings are very sensual, giving, playful, energetic, romantic and HOT!

I have met some awesome MEN.

Thanks Guys!!

XO

Sexy Carolina

-- Modified on 7/24/2007 3:04:00 PM

my age limit is higher than most...i'm 25, but i prefer not to see any clients under 40 years old. that's due to more reasons than i have time or energy to list here, but the two key factors would be maturity and attraction.

there is a certain type of maturity that comes only from having lived a certain number of years on this planet, and experienced life...this is not to say that all older men have this maturity, but younger men, regardless of their intelligence or maturity in other areas, certainly do not.

then there's the issue of attraction. personally, i've never been attracted to men of my own peer group. i need that older man/younger woman dynamic in order to feel comfy and truly sexy. perhaps it's my submissive nature, but i've never been interested in relationships, even sexual relationships, between equals. i like being the little girl taking care of Daddy/Teacher/Mister/whatever.

then of course there are the practical issues, like the fact that younger men have a far greater tendency to be flakes/no-shows, be uncertain about themselves (therefore stringing you around), inconsiderate, non-discreet, and other such headaches. there are always exceptions to every rule, of course, but this may be why most providers do not care to see younger gents.

To be totally honest with you and your particular situation . I just took a peak at your reviews and  that is a red flag to me that you are not the  "mature" gent that I  would see . On that note  I would refuse to see you .
There are  exceptions but when a lady checks you out and we do check many areas out before we consent to meet anyone new ....We often read who you have reviewed and the type of providers you have a history with .
Just my opinion-
-Layla

After reading each one of his reviews I deleted my comment about the "ugly" part on the reviews. I have never done a TER review and do not know how they rate certain things .
And for the record I never said he "bashed" anyone. He asked for opinions and I give mine just like others did .
Like I said up top "I personally would not see him". That is my own personal reason and I have that right to refuse to see anyone I wish not to see .

-- Modified on 7/24/2007 6:36:29 PM

Sorry if I gave off that impression from my reviews, but I believe I only was harsh on the ladies that displayed pictures that were not true to life.  And in those cases, I am harsh because I want to warn fellow hobbyists about a potential waste of time and money.

As for the rest of everyone's comments, I appreciate them a lot.  It gave me a lot of insight as to why some providers have age limits.

To the ladies that had bad experiences with college-age guys, I apologize on behalf of my age group, a lot of us can be really stupid and selfish.

I find it difficult to relate to men my age, much less a younger man. I need to have some sort of connection with a gentleman in order for a wonderful time to be had by all.

I really just prefer men over 45, but have met some lovely ones between 35 and 45, so lowered the age thingie to 35.

Oh but I LOVE looking at 20 year olds! There is something wildly magnetic about dewey, 20 year old flesh. Brown boys on the beach, not an ounce of fat on them, glistening skin, muscles rippling underneath - swoon...

But inevitably, they are a lousy lay. They couldn't find a clitoris with a map and if they happened upon it by accident, they wouldn't know what to do with it. I have never had anything I could call decent or satisfying with young uns. It has always been some horrible bang-bang-bang - I'm done, so why even bother?

Age limits are a prejudice like any other.  Hang in there.  You'll get older.  My advice is to date younger provider when you do.  Tit for tat.

I just read all of his reviews. They are well written and informative. He does not bash anyone but does tell it like it is. The "ugly" remark you referenced is the tag put on a number 2 by TER, not the reviewer's remark. You gave this material a quick glance and, I believe, jumped to unjustified conclusions. His reviews are certainly more beneficial to a hobbiest than some of the sugar coated diatribes we see everyday.



-- Modified on 7/24/2007 4:54:00 PM

Your response is well worded, and gives the impression of someone that really is mature for your age.

Good luck in your quest.

From personal experience, I know that if you were to try some of the more "conventional looking" guys in their 20s, who aren't the male model cut-type, you might see a huge increase in performance.

I'm young, but have the physique of a middle-aged white collar worker.  However, to compete with the "ripped" guys, I got very very good at foreplay and sex quickly.  Think of it as a survival mechanism, the men not chosen for their looks are chosen for their sexual prowess!

You must have an ATM in your house.  7 reviews already in July and it's only July 24th.

You are correct ! I went back and read each of his reviews and almost all  of them are ladies from CL . I did not mean to sound "harsh" to him rather making an observation when I "peaked" at the reviews the first time before I took the time to see where the girls come from .
I believe if he had reviewed "Quality" ladies instead of the ones he has reviewed ; he may stand more of a chance getting a lady who  may give him a chance . I feel bad that he has had these horrible experiences and yes it is a good thing that he posted reviews on them .
I personally just refuse to see younger men for many reasons such as the other ladies have stated on this thread .
I wish him best of luck finding the professional ladies that he wants to see . But ya know ya get exactly what ya pay for and it appears that the fella does not want to spend his donations on quality women .



-- Modified on 7/24/2007 6:46:09 PM

a guy or should I say man is at legal age,then I have no problem.

As long as he is clean,respectful and a gentleman, that is all I need.

I have many clients in there 20's and they are all great guys.

Are there younger guys out there who have attitudes ??? Yeah as there are older guys out there with attitudes ............... I just don't book those type no matter what age they are.

As I don't judge a person based on race I don't judge a person based on age (well as long as legal ) but that is me.

each lady chooses to see based on what she is comfortable with.

I think if a lady doesn't want to see you..........well then maybe her loss,someone else's gain  *wink wink*

-- Modified on 7/24/2007 6:30:12 PM

Age is just a number, maturity is something else entirely.  

The problem though is that it is hard to screen for maturity.

...and do not get me started on his need for pot to deal with any situation.

(sits in the back of the room and listens attentatively) May I ask a question? I am new here as well. Trying to get my own start in the business. Is there a problem with where one gets her start? I mean...I was guided towards 1 particular sight to post ads, then later found out she used to post on ER and RS2K ... I guess we have to start somewhere, but I do understand that CL has a lot of... dis-tastefully placed ads. Not all of us who have posted are as blatant as the rest.