If you just want sex, then you've come to the right place.  It doesn't get any easier than TER.

But if you're under age 40, and never had  a meaningful relationship, then you really owe it to yourself to make an effort to experience what it's like to be with a woman for whom you have true feelings.  Just accept the fact that dating will always be  a hit or miss proposition.  It can also be frustrating and expensive, but the right woman can make it worthwhile.

The reason I say that is all my best sex has been with GF's, friends with benefits, or my ex-wife- not providers.  For years after I got divorced, I had countless "lost weekends" of marathon fucking and playing with some really beautiful (mostly naked) women.  It was indescribable and made better by the fact that we really cared for each other, and we fucked like we meant it.  

I've never had that sort of experience in the P4P world, no matter how beautiful the escort or how much we liked each other.  While YMMV, P4P has always seemed like a somewhat hollow and unsatisfying experience for me- like we're just going through the motions.  But that feeling is undoubtedly because I compare it to my previous satisfying relationships.

Sometimes P4P is all you want, and there's nothing wrong with that, but I sure wouldn't want to go through life having experienced nothing else.

back when I was still considered a "catch" with a beautiful house and a great job.

But I didn't want to sound cynical now that I'm just another over-the-hill guy that nobody wants to fuck.  LOL.

Online Dating: Spend hours browsing dozens of profiles. Send a message to a handful that spark your interest. Then hope ONE will have the decency to reply to your message. Repeat same odds with actually meeting for a date. And then repeat same odds for actually getting sex .

Providers: Email ONE and wait 2 minutes for reply saying, "Yes I'd love to meet you for sex tommorrow"

People on this board keep saying love is worth it. It better be given the enormous cost and frustration it takes to find it! I am not giving up, but I am getting very discouraged and am going to follow the advice of "stop trying to find it".

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Single and dating, Married or Otherwise.. Are you holding out for love along the way or do you just have an itch you need to scratch...

Thinking back on past civvie relationships, I met one (married) lady online, 2 were coworkers, 2 were introduced by mutual friends and one was a byproduct of being out and about.  None were the Hi, lets fuck variety that we enjoy with providers but they lasted longer than an hour.  Well one didn't but that's another story that involved alcohol and stupidity, followed by some stalking until I told her to fuck off.  If the goal is a quick rewarding fuck then providers are the key to success.  If you've got the least little bit of game, civvies provide an alternative that's tough to find with providers.  You should probably stop trying to find it and let it find you.  I've worn a wedding ring for the last 20 years or so.  I've been married some of that time and single part of it.  I attract a higher caliber of women wearing a ring.  Maybe it's because I appear to not need a relationship, or maybe they are just psycho bitches.  Who knows, maybe they just like my taste in jewelry.  It's a pretty nice ring, lol.

Most of the ladies that I know that advertise on online single's sites are there to find a relationship. To them, this mean a commitment..which takes time. Friendship comes first and sex comes after a committed relationship. If you are simply just looking for sex, most civvie ladies will pick up on your vibes and dismiss you for just a horny guy looking to get laid.

Why don't you just get the best out of both worlds? Continue to hobby for your personal sexual needs and seek a lifetime friend and partner via match dot com or whatever. Civvie dating is very different than hiring an escort. Don 't try to combine the 2.

I gave up on the online personal ads when all the men I kept meeting were married (but pretending to be single.)  It's good to see that there are actually some single men that utilize their services!

"It's good to see that there are actually some single men that utilize their services!"

DL, are you kidding me, lol? One thing I've come to realize with dating sites is the ratio of single guys vs single ladies is WAY higher on the guys side. There are so many guys looking for love, sex, friendship, relationships or whatever compared to the lower amount of women looking for the same. One might come to call it a sausage fest. lol. One thing I do agree on is that the majority of the women that do use these sites are really looking for a real deal relationship. Adult Friend Finder is another animal altogether. I have yet to figure out what the hell that site is really about. Anyone care to enlighten?

"stop trying to find it"...whomever taught you this lesson was wise, as true love is not something you find but something which finds you. however the key is that you have to remain open to it. so by all means, live your life, and have your fun. forget the on or offline dating nonsense. be true to yourself, which first requires an intimate knowledge of (which comes through deep introspection) and acceptance of self. and what is meant to be in your life, will be. just do not be blind to it!

...unless, that is, you want to meet women older than 60.

Do not look for love. Love will find you. Sometimes when you least expect it.



xoxTabie

What about: sugardaddy.com?

Who needs committed relationship?  

Those who should be committed in the first place. After committed relationship, sex goes to hell in a hand basket then who wants to explain how I spend my money? I don't. Do you?

I guess I'm just a sick  puppy.

I suggest an alternative to online dating or providers - getting a sugar baby (SB).  The cost of an SB CAN be much less than an online date or provider.  I recently had a 5 hour and 40 minutes session with an SB and the total cost of the donation and dinner was only $289! Also, the experiences can be much better - whereas 99.99% of the orgasms of providers are fake, most of the orgasms of SBs are real.  Disadvantages of SBs are that: (a) a hobbyist has no reviews of SBs to guide him, (b) a hobbyist will not get as much variety from SBs as opposed to providers (i.e., SBs expect relationships), and (c) a hobbyist, even if well behaved and with a good reputation, risks the real possibility of being rejected by an SB, if there is not "chemistry".  An advantage/disadvantage of an SB is that the SB expects more time with her. Whereas providers get indignant if the hobbyist lingers past the alloted 60 minutes, SBs get indignant if the hobbyist leaves after only a few hours with her.