Or it doesn't really matter if she finishes as long as you have a good time?

But how much of that is real and not just acting?  

It matters a great deal that the lady is having a good time. I want her enjoy her time with me. Thing is I don't mind if she doesn't cum with me. I get I am not what most ladies would call attractive. Also my unit sometimes has issues. I am fine if it doesn't happen for her. I am a realist. That isn't to betaken as I don't care if she gets hers. I do, I just get it isn't always going to happen. But even if she doesn't get hers, I try to make it fun. I like making people happy, people I bed most of all.

Plus I need time to recharge some. There's nothing better than when the lady also has a nice big O during the session. One thing I don't like is when it's obviously faked. I would prefer honesty. I had one lady tell me straight up that I can DATY her but she doesn't cum that way. Another told me she likes it but only a certain way. It took more effort on my part but that's okay.  

Normally--with the mood an attitude I generally arrive with--the session is/seems/feels more complete if she finishes. If she fakes it, okay, she reckons she ain't gonna get there, and wants to wind it up. If she doesn't make it, that's fine, she'll probably soon have another opportunity to try. But most of the time giving and getting is one and the same thing. Most times it gives me a good feeling to give her pleasure.

All I'm saying is if you don't care if the lady O's that's totally fine. Cool…whatever. HOWEVER don't ask me dumb shit during then. I rarely ever if ever fake it…I'm young enough to still be a bit of a bitchy princess. But if you know your sex game ain't about shit then ask me ten times "do you like it…are you cumming mami?" and other stupid shit… I can't. I just can't.

I'm GGG and very much into each appointment being a mutually pleasurable experience. But if she requires a lot of work to get off or isn't trying to get there, then I don't worry about it.  

and most gals are happy if I am having a good time.

So, being happy is what I focus on.

You're a genuine happy go lucky. Lol
U happy now?

but to be honest with you... We can't be compatible with 100% of the people. Darn not even 50% I would dare to say. If you decide to see someone is because there's something about her you feel attracted to. Girls don't really get to pick who they will see as far as looks go (maybe personality yes, with phone calls or emails prior an encounter). Yet you are expected to be entertained and leave with a nice smile after a session. I myself like to please. It gives me pleasure. I was just wondering if it is a two way street. Since guys pay and usually feel like they have "the right" to be pleased. Im being too broad with that last statement so don't take me too literally.

We all bring a lifetime of experience  to every BCD moment, and I guess I wouldn't know any other way to go into it other than a presumption that mutual pleasure provides an exponential benefit to me.    

I will respond with a song.

I won't go there unless encouraged too.
Trying to make her jizz, and all..

Greatly increases my enjoyment of the "date". I more of a giver, and really get turned on knowing that my actions are truly providing plasure to her.

If it happens, it happens, most likely for me ...not. I really don't like it if it is expected simply because I am not with someone I am attracted to and that makes a huge difference to my ability to orgasm.  And if their sexual technique is not good, then I the possibility is akin to hell freezing over.  

I feel like in order for it to be a truly fulfilling experience for me whomever I'm with must have a good time. Maybe its all about the fantasy, but I get off when I think I've gotten her off. A session all about me just isn't all that appealing.

Some ladies genuinely are attracted to a few clients and their reaction is sincere and mutual. But hookers are paid to "perform" so it can be a crap shoot to know definitively who is real and who deserves an Oscar.

Somehow I feel that you're asking the question in the wrong way.

The client can approach this from whatever angle he wants. He can be as selfish as he wants, as giving as he wants, that's what the envelop gives him the opportunity to do within the ladies boundaries.

A "good time" means what...that she orgasms or the back rub you gave her drove her crazy?  

of the time. escorts know it happens way less than 20%

sexual part of the encounter as much as hobbyists.

That for me is the best, but if it doesn't happen I'm happy with someone who turns me on and is wholly into interaction with me, regardless of outcome.  If she makes unmistakable orgasmic reactions, that's great; if she directs me to what is pleasing her most and wrinkles up her face in that special way that's also terrific; if she fakes it, it's a turnoff.  A great provider will keep working you intimately until the job is done, by whatever means or positions.  Even better, if she comes back for more with enthusiasm.  Too bad, they're only as human as we are -- their special capacities exceed ours and should be enjoyed to the extent possible, by whatever means -- oral, physical, sensual, vocal, endurance.  What better is there?

I say what is part of the illusion (escort duties...kinda like that one), and part of what is true.  

Happy, happy! Joy, joy!

You have a remarkable grasp of the obvious. Thank you for your deep insight.

specifically, those duties might include thinking that I need to hear platitudes and ego boosting compliments or I'm not getting my money's worth. For me, it makes the encounter WORSE. Honestly, I've been tempted to call a lady out on it but that would get me nowhere. I'm sure it would offend most escorts.

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can't be "concerned with my pleasure" enough to spend the 7 or 8 minutes to shave off the 3 days worth of chin stubble, trim their nails, and rub lotion on their dry, callused hands?

you need to know just ask.

Generally, women won't shut the f up and constantly want to "talk" (like Rosie O'Donnell) yet, in the bedroom, they clam up and don't say anything regarding sex.(they turn in to Helen Keller)  

Either/Or.  Although it would be great (and a huge turn on) if I made the provider cum, I'm realistic in that I know ladies can't cum on command and that sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't.