Hey there!

if you really want to, I would find a single client (Divorced I would think is best.) with whom there is a desire to date and a shared chemistry, and who is OK with you continuing to be a provider, and see how it goes.

I think you need to find a man that is somewhat of a swinger type
and does not mind to share . I think one of the most difficult thing for men and women  
to get over is cheating on one another. This brakes up most marriages If you can find a man  
that is cool with your business , and gets past the physical part of a relationship and connects with you on a deeper inner level . You may find yourself a very long lasting and very fulfilling relationship .

I have dated a lot of hookers and the one thing they seemed to like about dating me, aside from my charm, good looks, etc. was the fact that I actually understood them and what they did for a living and I did so without idolizing or looking down on them for what they chose to do for a living.

At the very least you can expect him to be more open-minded about it all than a typical civvie. Do tread carefully.

Date a single or divorced client.  Civie guys are annoying bc there's just more deception and lies and games (You always have to play the coy, inncocent girl act , lol)  Meanwhile he's playing the "I really like you!  REALLY!  I adore you!" game when you know it's BS and he's not even listening to half the stuff you're talking abt.  And all he can think about is, "WHEN CAN I BANG THIS CHICK?!"  But you have to make him wait at least 4-6 weeks so he thinks you're a nice girl meanwhile shes banging her clients.  

I know you've put forth this attitude many times in the past Gambler and I've never responded. I believe you are correct though.
   Why the hell should two people who wish to date not do so because of this? I've never agreed with the general standard advice of never dating IRL ones P4P partners. Or that one should not allow any "feelings" to develop.
   If a woman meets a guy, or vice versa, that they are attracted to more than usual then why not see how things develop? Or even attempt to build or pursue a relationship within bounds? People indulging/working in P4P are like any other group of humans. Good, bad, ugly, crazy, empathetic etc. Most of us enjoy and seek out connections with other people. I certainly do.
                                                                           Regards......RR

The secret to it working is honesty and being there for each other. Well that and both partners realizing sex and love aren't necessarily connected and definitely not the same thing. Sad thing is for it to work you must trust him and he you and that is hard early in a relationship with such a secret. It is high risk. But not doing so basically dooms it to fail. It is safer not to date while working but it can work. But to work long term you must be honest. If you can't find a new job or don't date is my advice.

A lot of women will tell you that it can be done, but ask them how long they've dated while working. Some women can pull it off, but others feel a deep desire to be honest with their partners. When they are honest, and the partners know where they are going, it is very tough on a relationship.

And no, she does not have to. I pay 100% of the bills, and all other house hold expenses and have money left over beyond savings. Her income from sex work is mostly given to charity. She does it because she wants too. It is her hobby. And she does good with the money she brings in. No I am not my wife's pimp.

Completely agree. It is not the most desirable environment to foster an emotionally monogamous love relationship. It can still happen, but it is that much harder.  

The day I get married, I am done working (in any capacity), period!  

Is very hard that's why I stick with just bein a provider, iam gfe so what I enjoy of the session is that it makes me get the things I don't get because I don't date.

Wow, don't you sound like a catch?

The ideal guy to date would have to be quite attractive, charismatic, swinger type, lots of stamina and equipped with a handy dandy tool in his pants!  He would have to love what I do too and join me offering couple sessions together.

The day you get married is the day you start working in ways you never imagined... that is if it's going to have a shot at working  Case in point is your comment from a prior thread where you say how hard it is to keep it fresh when you see a client more than a couple of times per year.

I would have children, and stay home and raise them.  I would fuck my husband and do basic housewife responsibilities, cook, household shopping, laundry, errands, keep the home with attractive decor, tidying up, things like that.  But no major cleaning.  Professionals do that much better and faster.  What else?  Maintain an attractive, fit figure.  Keep my husband happy, healthy, and support him.  That's a lot of work!

You're in box should be filling up with proposals by the minute lol.   Seriously, good for you - whatever you decide to do (inside our outside the house) it sounds like you have your eyes open and can def make it work.

I'd go into it optimistic and motivated but having sex with the same guy over and over... and over and over... For years.   And years.  And years.  And keeping it exciting.  That's probably not really possible actually lol.  

I think you're really onto something with what you say.  This is probably why the hobby works so well too, under these circumstances.  I totally agree - when two people miss each other great things can happen.  

I promise I won't PM you.  I'll ask you straight out: how about some OTC time?  LMAO!

...  And lather, rinse, repeat once she turns 40. Ending once he either goes broke or too old to attract anyone younger.

The response has been so overwhelming, I am thinking of holding a lottery.  The lucky winner may recieve either OTC time, or a life of marital bliss with a young hottie.  Or, a new iPad.  You must enter to win!  Full contest rules and restrictions available via TER PM.

Especially someone who has voyeuristic / cuckold tendencies.

It's not that hard to find guys who like to swing, and would be in to what you do.

My wife (ex) and I were just hanging around one day and she made some kind of comment about something she envisioned us doing twenty years in the future and I immediately started thinking to myself "She really thinks we are going to be together in twenty years" At that very moment I decided I didn't want to be married another twenty minutes, much less twenty more years.

Things my wife and I have done:

You're just jealous. Work on your own happiness. One day, it will shine through for you. (end)

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Or a hobbyist you've met via other channels.  I couldn't imagine being with anyone else, honestly.  They would have to know and be okay with it.  But also, anyone I date has to be really, really into sex, and hobbyists seem to fit that bill as well.

Independent ladies aren't frowned upon, but yea being a pro is.  

Amen!

Gets a nice severance package.

but yes, more often than not when the guy trades in his trophy wife for a "newer model" the old trophy wife gets to fuck the pool boy and lie around eating bon bons for the rest of her life on the old guys dime.

It's just one part of this job, I guess. Getting into this business is kind of like making a Faustian pact. You get your money, and your freedom...but, it's nearly impossible to have love, friends, or a normal life.  

while being a hooker makes a "real" love life more challenging for sure, I know a lot of hookers who have very happy, balanced lives complete with a BF or husband who "gets it"

I just haven't found that guy who 'gets it'...and who also isn't looking for an ongoing freebie. I mean, plenty of clients have told me that they'd be happy to date a hooker (meaning, me), and would be 'fine' with her job...which basically translates to, 'Hey, I'd like some free sex, and since that's all I'm after, why would I care who else you fuck?'

when I am open to things they do have a way of coming to pass, but I do agree "chasing it" is most likely a fruitless pursuit.

Unless I meet a special someone who *makes* me think about one. That happened a few years ago, and happened again this spring/summer.  

An ongoing freebie!

and so many guys claim their GF's/Wives are only interested in spending their money, is it any wonder that so many of us just stop the pretense and either become hookers or start seeing hookers where there isn't any pretense?

Disclaimer: No need for alarm. This is just how GG and I have fun when we get bored.