Try this and let us know how you make out...

Did she pet you? Give you a cookie?

... I would have thought you were a troll.

Here's a set of "rules" that you might want adopt.
1) As long as you refrain from committing to either of the civvies, you are free to date as many as you like.

If you are seeing escorts after your dates, you are not expecting anything to happen on the dates are you?  you are rushing through to the end of the date so you can go get laid later.  This tells me that despite your "white knight" persona, you are at heart just a horn dog who poses as a nice guy.  If you were invested in starting a relationship you'd be trying to extend your time with the chick you are dating even if it's just for conversation, watching TV, hanging out, snuggling, whatever.  Getting your nut on with the chick will happen of it's meant to be, or not.  Having a built in provider date afterwards is shooting your potential relationship in the foot before you even go out.

You sound like a smart guy.

You're looking for dating advice...here!?!  And that seems perfectly normal to you?  I'll give you one piece of advice, don't "feel bad" about seeing both girls...do you think they both became exclusive the moment you met them?  That's why it's called "dating," you see one on one date and one on another!  Jeez man, you're such a groveler, you make John Mayer look like James Brown!

You are in the beginning stages of getting to know these ladies how will you get to know them unless you go on dates?
If they know you are not trying to be in a serious relationship just looking to get to know a person and sees how it goes later down the line.
Have you seen any of the ladies outside of work and the metro train?I am a little confused you mention dates in the beginning and at the end you mentioning seeing one at work and one on the train.

You're wondering how to tell a girl you're dating about seeing escorts!  Who else but a sniveling ladyman would even consider telling a civie about this?  But I'm guessing you just couldn't live with the deceit, right?  Or is it just your way of telling us you're above this?  So yes, "groveling" in the sense that you always seek to paint yourself as someone who is somewhat above what we all do, ever ready to fall on your sword rather than be a lying cheat like the rest of us.  And it's so cute that you actually think any provider gives two shits about any of this...grow up, man.

But when they do they don't think they're dating...that's what ladyboys think.

Why are you complicating this so much? I have a rule as well: unless the civvy girl is sucking my dick or shows some intense interest that there's no doubt she's not a time-waster, she has absolutely no right to expect any exclusivity from me.  If I find myself falling in love with her at first sight, that's an exception I may consider.

btw, what movie was that?

Sometimes people are isolated, and never exposed to understandings that most of us share and reinforce in small talk. In such a case, the question Rod asked is nothing remarkable.

How many dates have you had with the lady whose stuff you held, if any?

Who is jadalee and why would I care what you post to her?  Sorry, but I don't research and read all your posts...who the hell has that kind of time?  And you don't remotely make me feel bad, nor does participating in p4p.  If anything I feel bad for you coming to this board looking for relationship therapy...that's just sad.  And you didn't answer the question: exactly how many dates have you has with "held her stuff" girl?  My money says zero.

You may find the following video very instructive if things to begin to proceed, however.

You have a lot to learn about life and this hobby. There are just some things you keep to yourself!  If you ever learn to do that, your experience in life and on this board would be so much easier and better IMHO! To put iT another way, keep your personal business to yourself, not on a fuck board!

your activities here or that you're dating both ladies?

It's OK to let this drivel stay up instead of moving it to the Rod Tidwell board (aka Oprah).

Was pulled within 20 minutes.   I even gave him encouragement to accept himself, wished him good luck, and enquired about his sister.

And Rod can check online to see how much the transformation would run

You're an idiot.  

My whole thread was pulled.

Yes I'm profiling.

There are some things, that simply are irrelevant at certain points.

Everything that's simple and obvious just goes right over his head.  I've never seen anyone more tangled up in their own underwear emotionally.
Still, he functions well as a piñata

as a Companion who dates, I think it's the best thing for you to meet Companions as you date. This allows you to respect the ladies and REALLY get to know them instead of rushing into sex and missing the 'crazy' in one of these chicks because you're pussy-whipped. And like the ladies said, how you're meeting your needs right now is no one's business. AND vice versa.

If not, you may be doing her a disservice.