I may be concerned about nothing here, but this afternoon while in the middle of a meeting my cell phone rang. I excused myself to answer it because I was expecting an important call only to find it was from a provider I have not seen in 6 months.
I had seen this woman 4 times over a two month period, and as I said have had no contact in 6 months.
She was calling to tell me that she had nothing planned for the night, and that she would offer me a 1 hour session for $100. Now considering the normal rate is $300+, I was at first quite interested. But then my seedy little mind kicked in and I thought maybe it was a set up of some kind. MAYBE this provider had been pinched, and was offered a deal if she started calling in her clients...
Even if it was a legitimate call for a discounted rate, isnt that a bit brazen? I mean the simple fact that my name, address, and tele. are on her rolodex almost scares me...

Not in a million years would I do anything of the kind.  I keep absolutly ZERO records of anything.  That means I do not have anybodys phone numbers at all!

-- Modified on 10/10/2002 6:37:20 AM

This is just my opinion, and I would honestly be willing to listen to dissenting ones that were reasonably and rational made, but I think it is pretty foolish for the puveyor of an illegal vice to initiate the contact. And it doesn't matter what the vice is. It just doesn't seem to be in the best interest of EITHER party.

Now, as far as the specifics of your situation, I'd be pretty leary too. Clearly she is just calling just about everybody (maybe just repeat clients, but still) in her rolodex. No contact for 6 months? Whoa...that is scary.

And of course, there is the obvious concern...the one less objective but just as real to me...why the hell is she having a fireside sale in the first place? I mean, it is one thing to go from $300 to $250 because of market conditions. And then maybe you do contact a few regulars to let them know (though I personally wouldn't want a call under ANY circumstances...)

But $300 to $100?? I'd just have to ask the question "why?". And I doubt if there would be any answer that put me at ease.

You should be concerned!, but some clients do establish a bond with escorts after the meeting and communicate by im or email. Just because the business is over don't always mean that we always kiss and say good by. I send my client by request updates on my picture and new updates on mygirlfriends. Plus I have other activities that they are interested in other then escorting business. You will be amaze how many clients do want that special attention. I do not keep record on anyone after the meeting. Anyone that know me knows that I offer more then the average escort in my package, so calling and offering discounts is out of the question.


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In light of current LE activity it makes me uncomfortable to know that a provider has my phone number on record for six months! The exellent ladies I see only keep your number for the time necessary to make/confirm & have the date.

I wonder how long most ladies keep numbers, email addresses, etc?

In this bussiness girls will, often, go through a burn out period where dependabilty and/or performance suffers. She will get a few bad reviews and clients just stop calling. This provider will, some times, panic and do things she will not, at normal times, do. Lets face it; if a girl gains 30 lbs. most clients will drop her. She will still have bills to pay and in a soft market you discount and you try to regain old clients. I think you have a girl that has fallen on bad times and needs to raise revenue. If you enjoyed sessions with her, try her. I can tell you with complete competence that there is no way that a sting as you fear would stand up in court. Your only concern should be: is this a robbery scam. I have seen girls in the past lure prior clients so they can be robbed. So I would recommend a hotel room for your meeting. If she refuses to meet you there decline her offer.

I think the $300 to $100 is suspect, but other than that, I don't have a problem with a gal keeping my name, phone number and email around.  Again, I'm just a friend who enjoys their company, if something more happens - great.

I wouldn't want them to call me either - wouldn't want that interruption - plus it would be impossible for me to react on the spot without some kind of reaction that others around me might pick up on.

I do think it is sweet if I get an email from a friend who has enjoyed our time in the past and would like a repeat.  The discount is nice, because it is sincere, but it is just nice to know I'm one of the few guys she was thinking of when she felt like spending time with someone.  The specific time I'm talking about was pretty wild because she was looking forward to it as much as I was for hours leading up to the date. The engines we're hot at the starting line.

I don't worry about the LE pinch or any of that stuff only because we both follow all the rules.  It is about time together, that is all.  Nothing more.

-- Modified on 10/10/2002 1:31:54 PM

If I had no contact in a 6 month period with a provider, and out of the blue she called me, I'd probably be upset that she still had information on me on file.  A more recent meeeting, like a month or so, I might not be as upset.  The fact that she's dropping her rate has a place:  her local boards and her web site.  Those interested in her will contact her.  Insofar as the rate is being dropped by 67% is another issue, and one that would raise a red flag for me. Someone above posted a rate change of $50 or so, adjusting to the economy is all right, and it is.  From 300 to 100 is more than an economy adjustment, and very questionable.

I *hear* about unprofessional behavior like this all the time, and what worries me is that no one ever comes forward and says THIS is who did it.  I mean!!! This is such a BLATANT disregard for your privacy that I just... I mean, I cannot imagine ever ever, no matter how DESPERATE I might be, doing such a thing.  (I also cannot imagine being that desperate. But still!)  What if you'd been standing next to your wife, and she'd said "Honey, who's that?" Worse yet, what if your wife happened to pick up your cell phone to answer it for you?

1001 reasons why I very, very rarely if ever call anyone. I have a very few clients whose situations I am aware makes it ok for me to call... still, I don't call!  When a gentleman wants to see me, he will get in touch with me.

Two steps I feel should be taken here... First would be talking to the girl and letting her know how unprofessional this behavior is, asking her to remove your number from her records, etc... and see how she responds. And then I'd post about it... I mean who knows what is going on with her to behave like this or what she might do with that info next??? That's crazy!

Hugs*
Nicole

For one, it depends on the lady, but no numbers should be kept in the first place, unless of course you have been instructed to do so.  Discretion is key and she really did get a hold of you at the most inconvenient time.  I have two numbers that I keep because those are special people that I have forged a true friendship with and are quite rare indeed.  Any other number or information is destroyed as I go along.  That is why I continually ask for a number.  Sometimes several times before a meeting even takes place.

For two, discounts offered has a place....on her website and on these many boards available to us.  If the discount is just for regulars, then she should tell them when scheduling the next meeting or state such on her site or the boards.

For three,  it does sound like a very dramatic discount and would have my radar going double time too.  Not a good marketing strategy IMHO.

There are protocols to be followed and should be adhered to without exception.  It is incidents like these that make it tough for a gent to trust a provider with any type of personal information.  It gives way for too much distrust on both sides of the fence and makes it harder for us to enjoy what it is really all about- Fun!  It is an affront on both ladies and gentlemen alike.

Discretion, Discretion, Discretion!

Lauren

The fact that a provider may keep my name and number is distressing enough to contemplate.  Receiving an unsolicited call from an escort is very disconcerting to me at least.  Practically every lady I've ever visited, and certainly every lady who posts on this site, will state unequivocally that she divests herself of compromising client info as soon as possible.  Am I living in a fool's paradise?

Gotta come out of the woodwork on this one -

1- A basic principle of sales & marketing: Much easier to sell to an existing customer than to acquire a new one.

1a - Customers are precious - last thing anyone in business should ever do is burn their customer list.

2- Imagining myself as a provider, I might apportion a fee of $$$ as
   $ - Risk of meeting someone new who is a flake or LE or both
   $ - Risk of spending time with someone I really dislike
   $ - Value of an hour's conversation / massage

So it seems to me that your provider speaks pretty good business language, and maybe others too?

That being said, I don't think the cell phone is a great idea. But email to a hotmail or yahoo account? It would just look like more spam to anyone looking over your shoulder, and you certainly didn't give out your business email, did you?

Anon O'Male

From her usual fee of $300, she discounts it down to $100 because she knows I'm not the "ax murderer" or LE, I show up on time, I'm shaved, showered and shitted, and she likes me.  I'm usually out of there in about 35-45 minutes.

The key to this is that I go just about every week.  This creates a continuing annuity for her, and for me, so to speak.

On the main topic, I was the one who sought this not her.  I would be suspect of anyone who called.  However, if she asked in person after a session, then go for it.

Forgetting about the discount offer, I've had the contact made by the provider & found no objection to it at all.  Of course I live alone & don't work for some large company etc, so my situation isn't the same as it is for many...& in their shoes I might not like it at all.

But to me the main thing is how well you & she know one another, & for what period of time.  A fav of mine will sometimes get ahold of me & suggest a somewhat impromtu get-together, & I'm always agreeable unless it isn't possible.  But she's someone I've known for a period of time & seen on many occasions...completely trustworthy & all the good things that go along with that.

I never ask for a discount or attempt to barter in any way.  But is a discount always about money only?  Doesn't extra time, etc amount to the same thing?

I would be concerned that she called me out of the blue.  Although it would not cause me a big problem, calling me that way is acceptable only if I had given her permission to do so.

If you give a provider information I would normally assume that she keeps at least your name and phone number.  


And to answer Sexy Curves question.  If every guy outed every lady that called him out of the blue or gave his name to another provider, these boards would look like World War III.  And I am sure some of these providers would retaliate by placing clients on a bad client list.

Change your cell phone and get a new e-mail account.
Unless I want the lady to have my information in the back of her mind, there is no excuse for her to call you.
$100 is really quite shady to me!