you're "back together" but no sex for 2 more weeks? Just wait until you are married a few years. That will become 2 months!

 
She seems to be giving you plenty of feedback, but to no avail. Maybe you're just not compatible in bed.  

Perhaps your fiance is not happy with a "beta male" and wants you to "man the fuck up" and take care of business in bed?

 
If she likes it "fast and hard" then take steps to find a way to give that to her.  

 
Here is my prediction, in two years you are going to be whining about why your then wife is "no longer" interested in sex and at the same time she is going to be posting somewhere about her loser husband who can't satisfy her and explaining just why she is getting dick somewhere else. Sex is not "everything" in a relationship, but if things really are "better than ever" and you still haven't had sex again and won't be for two more weeks I can only imagine how bad things were before.

 
I have given you my prediction, now here are my two words of advice. "Got rope?"  

 
I know you will find my advice rather cryptic, but I am sure you can find someone around here to explain it to you. lmao

Find a good teacher!

There's tons of articles and books available on the subject, but IMHO there's nothing better than a 1 on 1 session for intimate coaching.  

I would recommend you seek out a more mature companion (perhaps 40+), a lady with some seasoning and life experience who is patient and knows her body and comfortable with expressing her needs & desires as she gently guides you through new oral techniques.  

However if you're looking for a book on the subject, a good place to start is "She comes first" By Ian Kerner.

..... to find what works for a woman. It was basically a lesson in listening to her and reading body language. The best pleasure happens when both parties are on the same page. Communicating what feels good!  
You say she doesn't cum during fucking? Does she cum from DATY?  
Frankly, you sound like, how she cums, may be more an ego thing for you, rather than for her pleasure.  
Maybe, she needs a toy or two to get off. Maybe, she needs a bull in the room, lol.  
Maybe, she needs another woman to join.  

 
Talk to her...... don't ask us!

to go nice and slow when either fingering or licking her pussy and clit in order to bring her to orgasm. After I slowed it down as suggested, she always appeared to have incredible orgasms. I apply this advice to every lady I spend time with which seems to produce the same results.

The key is to don't give up and listen to her both vocally and physically. My experience has been if you encounter slight involuntary leg twitches, you're close to bring her home and keep doing what you're doing until she is satisfied.  

As for getting her to orgasm during sex, let her take control so that she can help herself get close to climaxing and then give her the hard and fast to complete her journey.

but...
I once saw a companion share a book on Twitter called, "She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring A Woman" and she recommended it highly.

I bought it. I've read it through 3 times. It has great advice. I think the best advice though is to remember that everyone is different and talking to your partner(s) is the best way to know what they like. Another bit of advice from the book that I love and wholeheartedly agree with, "How long should an oral session last? Answer: As long as it takes." If you get tired maybe bring toys into the mix. Anything to help get her off...and there is no rush. Sorry, like I said I am no expert. Just wanted to share. Amazing book. Definitely buy it. I have it on kindle, audio, and the paperback.

K that's all. Take care.

I suggest shaving--really close--if that's an option. There were some times that I'd be so close to climax, then the five o'clock shadow would hit my clit the wrong way, break my concentration, and I'd have to start all over.

I also second the slow and and gentle approach, with circular movements of the tongue (not that fast flicking motion--at least not right from he start). It's like a crescendo, you have to work up to the harder, faster stuff (with oral, anyway, lol). But again, as multiple people have said, communicate, and pay attention to her reactions. Best of luck!

A few gals I see get off with them, in fact two civies I used to see would get off with them all the time, and I loved watching them do it to themselves.

can be predicted with about 80-90% accuracy by asking yourself this one question from HER POV:  Did she "choose" you from all of the men she knows, or did she "settle" for you because she is tired of looking.  When a woman has dumped you already because you didn't measure up (no pun intended), and then takes you back, its most often out of resignation that she is not going to find the guy she REALLY wants, so she settles for the guy she already had, who was okay, but just not the total package she was looking for.  This makes the relationship "temporary" in her mind, because if Mr. Right (I won't speculate whether really wants an Alpha-male, or a guy even more beta than you) shows up at the grocery store standing next to her at the cucumber counter, she may throw you away in a heartbeat and go after what she would prefer.  The fact that you are both "waiting" to have sex would militate in favor this being the case, IMO.  If she was really hot for you  and decided you are everything she wants, and is CHOOSING you over all other men, she would have already fucked your brains out before you even had a chance to post this.  So you have to ask yourself if she is SETTLING for you . . . . . for now.   Tread carefully, young man.  

 
As far as technique, you can either ask specifically how she likes it, or if you are uncomfortable with the direct approach as many beta-males are, you can try many different things the first time and see which techniques she responds to best.  Some women can only have vaginal O's, while others can only have clitoral O's, while others will prefer a combination of dual stimulation of their clit AND G-spot to achieve an O.  Experiment, but pay attention to her reactions.  If you're shy, just tell her you're going to tease her different ways and to give you a thumb up if she likes it, or a thumb down if she doesn't.   OR . . . . . you can do what I did and learn how to give oral sex to a woman from a Lesbian.  They're the best, so they are the ones we ALL should learn from.  Just my opinion based on the feedback and oft heard phrase I get . . . . . "You eat pussy like a woman!"  I always say thank you very much for the compliment.  

 
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well the fact that you are here asking means a lot!! thats the first step, ambition.  however, this is going to be an ongoing conversation between you and her. you can read all the guidebooks on earth and learn new tricks, but the most important thing is to learn her personal quirks & preferences!

you said she likes it hard and fast.  but you dont want to do all that work for as long as she needs?  well it sounds like u know *what* to do, but you just don't put in the work it requires.  imagine how much work a BJ is!  that's lots of neck, jaw and mouth strain sometimes.  a careful balance of paying attention to cues of his pleasure, keeping my teeth away from his shaft and preparing what to do when he blows his load...   but I *persist,* because i have an end goal: making him cum!   maybe a little endurance training will get you some new muscles right where u need em to get her off!  Time to be her superman, don;t lose faith,  practice makes perfect!

#1 is just asking her what she needs as you go along, ask her for verbal cues and instructions.  sometimes when you are receiving pleasur it is hard to find the right words at the right time, yo know? ask her to demonstrate on the tip of a strawberry or something cute like that.  watch her masturbate.  good luck!

First ..... maybe you ought to reload on the oral:  Treat her whole body as a potential erogenous zone and explore with your lips and tongue.  Look for non-verbal (twitches) as well as verbal responses.  You may discover places to get her motor running that you never would by diving directly for the clit.

Second .... take your time.  A blog entry by a massage parlor girl drew a parallel between a hand job and driving a stick shift: you start off slow and wait for the right time to shift gears.  Shift too soon and it stalls.  Shift too late and you wear it out without making any progress.  I think the same holds true in oral for both genders.

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Be gentle with her, dude.  If she said you were too rough, tone it down.