Four emails in one day is a bit much. I am assume none of them was to actually set the date up but were 'additional' once the date was set, correfct?

You should still be able to have a good date, but no more emails

Deep, if this is not a put on,should change your handle to OCD

A bit of advice from a hobbyist who likes to be "prepared" himself------after you make the initial advanced booking, ONLY make an additional advanced contact the day before, to confirm-----otherwise, she'll think you're an anxious nut & you'll blow the whole thing.

...compared to a former client. He emailed and texted messaged daily for approximately 7 days for a one hour appointment. I'm talking back to back emails/texts. If I didn't respond quickly via either source, he tried the other. I highlighted that it was a one hour date to emphasize how overkill this was. Had it been a longer and more creative date that required more preparation, it would not have bothered me as much, but still would bother me.

Ive also experienced something similar from another client. It's not good for the success of the date and it strongly hurts management of time! Which can make a provider resentful for lack of better words.

My question is, why all the communication? I wish I could understand, but I suppose we get spoiled by those that keep the entire booking process short and sweet.

On the provider and the tone of your emails. Personally, It would not bother me unless your emails were explicit.  Every provider has her own take on communicating between appointments.

DSD  "She may be busy.  But I hope she didn't get annoyed by 4 emails I sent yesterday."


If you text once and she doesn't text back DO NOT text again, or she will think you are a Groveling Loser.

Emails are sometimes allowed twice without response, if the subject line is changed the second time.Email the third time without a response, and she will think you are a Groveling Loser.

NEVER leave more than one voice mail per 30 days without a response, or she will think you are a Groveling Loser.

Always remember popular people don't have  much time to spend with all their popular friends. They sure won't waste their time corresponding  with Groveling Losers.

Stud diver..I am not saying you are a Groveling Loser but merely excited with a lady you had seen, and evidently uninformed of the rules..Lets look at it from another angle.If you met a civvy lady at the Beach, and took her out to  dinner, and all you did was exchange emails and numbers and a fleeting kiss goodnight.  Unfortunately she was leaving that night, so you had no time to get to know her . When you arrived home two days later,  there were four emails from your new beach friend, wouldn't you wonder if she might become clingy or maybe much worse, if you pursued her affection?

ONE, before the meeting, to add a LITTLE something about yourself.  Then stop.
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One email the day before to confirm, that is all is needed.

If it would be beneficial to your date, then that's not too bad. In the future, you should probably try to be more concise and only send one email. Personally, I love getting the "Can't wait to see you [day of week]!" emails from clients, but I usually don't have time to answer them.

You'll be able to judge if you've annoyed her when you meet for your date. If your first appointment went well, I doubt it will upset her.

shes not responding because, well guessing here, cuz she does not want to encourage you.
Let it go, wait till the appt go have fun and be done with it.
you are not her only client, can you imagine what it would be like if all her clients behaved this way?
You are a bit overbearing. You need to back off.
4emails in one day, just about BS? find something else to do, you look high maintanance at this point, thats not the ideal client.

What on earth were you talking about for 4 emails in one day? I would get a little wary and if you sent anymore, I'd cancel the date. Sorry but that would scare me. One decent email before the appointment to give some idea of who you are etc is great. $ is overkill IMHO.

Now I know she does not communicate Sunday, since she leaves that day for herself.

So I got three emails from her today (Monday). Hmmm. Maybe I just overreacted.

Dont' be Clingy Bro!

Well if you knew she was off on Sunday's why bother sending her e-mails like that?  I would have just waited until Monday morning sent her a text, or e-mail asking if we could speak later on during the day when we both are free to talk about the your date, to set things up.

Sending that many e-mails you're going to come off as clingy or worst stalkerish, and she'll igg you. Remember she's an escort so her phone probabaly rings a lot. If she's always seeing your number popping up, and all you have are simple questions that you could have asked in a single telephone convo, but you're spanning them out the whole day, it's not a good look for you.

My advice is don't text, or e-mail, just call her until a few hours of the actually date to A. confirm the dates still on. B the location of the date, C. How long is the date, D. Will you be picking her up? and D. reconfirm the donation?

That should be a simple 2 minute confirmation phone call.

Recently, I made an appointment well in advance. I got the phone number and general location. I don't need to pester or annoy anyone (too much) so I didn't email or phone until I was there, on time, and ... the phone was out of service!! I'm calling every 10 minutes but no change so I leave. I find a place to send an email and say I was there but there was no answer, I am NOT a NCNS, what happened, I can show you my phone log, etc.. About 10 minutes later, I get a phone call: she had changed her number and forgot to notify me. I still had time on my schedule and she on hers so we were able to meet.

Next time, I think I'll test the phone number the day before just to confirm the date and that the phone actually works!

I just remembered another screw up. I called, as agreed, about 30 minutes early to confirm that I was on the way and would be there on time and we chat briefly; no problems; see you soon! I get to the location and start calling for final info. No answer, no answer, VM, no answer ...  Waited 45 minutes, had to leave. Later, that was explained to me as a change in cell phone companies. She had her old phone with her when her service got switched to the new company but she didn't have her new phone with her.  

What are you gonna do? I don't know.

might get annoying. Once a day...not so much. We have so much to keep up with as it is that sometimes we can't email back immediately or even sometime that day. If you are discussing details of where you are going to meet and giving the lady extra info to help her screen then your emails are totally acceptable. If you are emailing me giving me step by step instructions on how to blow your mind....save it. I am a smart lady...I promise I will figure it out. Those emails get deleted immediately and depending on how graphic....you might get deleted out of my schedule.


Short, sweet, and to the point I always say!

Fustrating Communication

I too have experienced the lack of communication syndrome! I really am beginning to wonder why they advertise. Do they figure everyone will be a no show so why bother. One provider told me that when they get a few emails before the meet it gives them a good feeling it will happen. We live in the techno age and email is a main form of communication so USE IT! We have the $$$ the ONLY way to make it yours is to answer the email! Those who do will be rewarded!