by a lovely lady.  And thanks for the comment, but the guys aren't really hammering the OP, whom they know far better than I do.  Thanks for standing up for him, though, but it's not necessary.

I am using an alias to hide. Yes, I am a coward. I am embarrassed of my current situation.

I have been out of this game since July because of of health concerns that have resulted in my unit not working properly for the last little while. I am healing, and the last few days things have been looking up down there and standing up if you get my meaning. My retirement from this game maybe coming to an end after I recover from this next surgery coming in a few weeks.

Now you have a bit of the background I will give my questions.

How much should I inform you about the complications that may rise up or more persistently may not rise up if you get my meaning?

As it is there is it is hit or miss if things will stand up and even if things get up, there is sometimes issues with things ending happily. Medications have not proven effective at this time in helping things. My health also will not be at it peak in other areas as well, I am far from out of the woods.

When should I inform you of these issues?

My references are at least six months old at this time and will be even older by the time I recover from this next surgery. I do not feel comfortable asking for references from ladies I haven't seen professionally in half a year but I feel I may have to do so. I do have some P411 OKs but they are old as well.

How long are you willing to reference a guy for if you knew the situation of his getting sick and not being able to play?

Would you take such references if he explained why he doesn't have any that are current?

Thank you for any feedback.

1) It sounds like you are rushing back.  If you must, that's fine, your call.  But you might be better off waiting for nature to take its course.
2) If you choose to go ahead, don't worry about it and tell the lady what the issue is.  I've had occasional minor issues (nothing like yours) and I still let the lady know in advance I may have trouble finishing (not lately, though!), but that I'm a one-pop guy.  I just like them to know what to expect from me, so I add that I've got lots of stamina and they should expect to be highly "active" for the entire hour.
3) As for references, I doubt you'll have any problem.  I have several that are more than six months old and you can always explain why you have none that are newer.  The P411 OKs help, too.  Beyond that, if you tell them your TER handle, your reputation as a good guy will reassure them.
4) Mainly, just relax and enjoy.  Don't put unrealistic expectations on yourself and have fun.

...and instead he gets hammered by the guys. Except for inicky who, from what I can tell, is an upstanding person.

And the OP knows I'm fucking with him and what I'll tell him later.

what happens in 18 months?

Explain why you have no recent references.

Email a few of the women you've seen in the past (preferably anyone you've seen multiple times) and ask them if they could act as a reference for you. Explain why. When you email them give them as much information as possible, refresh their memory if it has been a long time. ie: the date you met them. Which hotel. The email or phone number you used to book. Your TER handle. Your P411 handle. etc etc etc

If someone explained why they didn't have recent references, I would consider taking a few old references.
Every woman is different, but I don't think you will have too much of a problem. I could be wrong.

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To be honest, i don't think they really care if u get it up or not.
They are there for you!!

As a provider who screens, I have no problem doing references for mutual clients however if it has been longer than 18 months since the encounter, I will tell this to the other provider so she can take it into consideration when booking.

but i planned well in advance.

i had some surgery that put me out of action for quite some time. what i did was arrange well in advance a "return party" with a local lady that i have seen all too infrequently. she was very sweet about it and when my recovery fell behind schedule due to complications she was kind enough to reschedule. my 4th review memorializes that encounter.

i had some DC okays and that worked well enough for the lady's comfort.

Usually not very much..... But... If I am being used as a reference for someone I saw over 1 1/2 years ago I would assume it's either because 1: he has not really hobby-ed much since our meeting or 2: perhaps there were some issues with other providers he saw in the meantime. If it's the latter, than the provider has the option of researching his info, whatever she may have been given, to determine for herself if she'd like to meet with the client or not.
This is just what I practice, other providers may view it differently....