I have always been curious about Vasectomy's actual effects.  Does a man who has had vasectomy, ejaculate externally anything, or it is just a dry orgasm?

I assumed the sperm is somehow directed internally, and goes somewhere inside the body.  Then, when reading the board, saw those messages that all feels normal.

Indeed, I remember reading that the balls tend to become smaller over time.  True?

After a vasectomy (I had mine done about 25 years ago) men still ejaculate the fluid that used to carry their sperm. Looks and feels the same as before.

Balls don't get smaller, as they continue to produce sperm (which goes somewhere inside the body, as you said - I forget exactly what the doctor told me.) Good thing balls don't get smaller - after all these years I wouldn't be able to find mine!

A vasectomy just cuts the tube which brings the sperm from the testicle to the rest of the seminal fluid.  Assuming you have 2 testicles that is why there are 2 incisions.  You still ejaculate fluid, it just doesn't have any sperm in it.  The standard technique is to take a portion of the tube so the 2 ends can grow back together again.  People tend not to like that outcome.   LOL Grin

Having a portion of your prostate removed is a different matter but that is a story for another day.

Your prostate produces the semenal fluid that is ejaculated, and so you continue to ejaculate after a vasectomy, with the same or nearly the same sensation, volume, etc. (it does vary a bit by person.)  The flavor and consistency changes, though - at least according to my wife. *LOL*  It's been 15 years since I got mine, and I've seen no reduction in the size of my balls. The sperm are still produced, but are absorbed back into the body.

A lot of legend surrounds the subject, but I experienced no change other than girls thinking I gave one for the team (which I never played down) and gave of themselves that much more, which always was appreciated.  Frankly, it was a non-event in my life.

It amazes me how little formal education is passed along out there in regards to vasectomys. Considering this procedure has been around for decades the general male populace is kept in the dark unless one takes active measures to educate oneself.
  FYI- In California as well as 30+ other States a married man wanting a vasectomy needs written(signed)permission from his wife to his doctor to perform this procedure. (women on the other hand have COMPLETE reproductive rights over THEIR bodies).
          So much for equality... eh' guys??

It has also been my experience that the medical community is very very VERY cautious about performing a vasectomy on a patient under 30 years of age. (married or not!!)

 Lets see;
Fatherhood=responsibility =support =Child support =MONEY.
Vasectomy =No fatherhood =No responsibility =No child support =NO MONEY!!!

 Maybe...
It's all about the money!

   Cm.

I've tried for several years starting from the time I was 22 to get a tubal ligation (tubes tied) with no success. I don't think it's fair to say that we women have complete control over reproductive issues. Maybe we don't need our husbands or parents permission, but the doctors that I've seen wouldn't even consider the surgery because 1) my age - they all seem to think I'd change my mind about having children somewhere down the line (aint gonna happen buddy!) 2)I didn't have any children so they wanted me to populate the earth before I could have the surgery and 3) I was just too young to know anything. Now I figure that I'm 29 now and have a clear idea of where I want my life to be in the next 20 years and children still aren't part of that, but I'm still getting flack about the surgery.

I don't think it's as strick in Arizona to get a vasectomy, but I could be wrong. My thoughts are we have so many unwanted and unhealthy children out there as it is born to unfit parents that we should all have they say over whether we want to be parents or not and take on that big responsibility.

Thanks for listening

I think it is ridiculous that you are having trouble getting a salpingectomy.  I suggest you find a female ob/gyn who will hopefully not have such a paternalistic attitude.  Now if I can just figure out an excuse for why I need a vasectomy since my wife has already had her tubes tied....

I am 34 years old, and I remember asking my doctor at age 21 to get my tubes tied. Of course, I was also denied, and told that I might change my mind. Well, I am 34 years old now, and if I were to have had them, I would have had them in my 20's. Btw, I am still considered too young to still get them tied-mind you. I know that motherhood is supposed to be a wonderful thing and all, but I am not a mothering type of woman (although, I get asked alot if I have kids, because of my big boobies lol), and always felt that way. It's bad enough, that I have a niece who is 11 years old going on 21, and she reminds me of that everytime I visit (but I love her dearly) lol

Mel

When I was having my son, we agreed at the very start of the pregnancy that I was to have a tubal at the same time. The papers were signed and all in order. The day I delivered, and he lifted the baby out, the doctor came to my side and said, I've decided NOT to do the tubal, and tore up the papers right there. I was pretty ticked, but was too interested in my beautiful new baby to think about it!
So, down the road my ex-husband had a vasectomy, which I loved! Such freedom not to have to worry about getting pregnant!
Now, my SO, who's young, is having one this month. They gave him a rash about his age but could see that he REALLY knows he does not want kids (and shouldn't). I'll be curious, Hazeleyes, if I notice a change in consistency and taste, as I don't recall from before.
As far as Cynicalman pointing out that the man needs the woman's permission but the woman doesn't need the man's permission, I found that very interesting. I didn't know that.
I've often wondered, on a different topic, what a man's rights were if the woman wanted to have an abortion and he disagreed? Or she will have the baby but put up for adoption and he disagreed? Or the grandparent's rights? Like, supposing my son got his girlfriend pregnant, and she wanted an abortion, and he didn't; and we felt the same and would raise the child...
Sorry, getting off track, I know, but you suddenly made me wonder about that, Cynicalman..


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"In California as well as 30+ other States a married man wanting a vasectomy needs written(signed)permission from his wife to his doctor to perform this procedure. (women on the other hand have COMPLETE reproductive rights over THEIR bodies). So much for equality... eh' guys??" -- Cynicalman



that's freaking outrageous! ... [gasping for air] ... are you sure this is in Kalifornia/etc and not on Planet Barbizon!??

i'm all for women's "reproductive rights" but it's just totally ass-backwards and warped that a married/commited woman can just secretly run off and abort her and her husband/BF's unborn child/fetus without any legal sanction or even approval from him!

another day, another blow .... live and learn, eh?

No change really in anything other than the volume of ejaculate. That seems to have decreased a small bit.

Psychologically however, I feel "free."  I don't have to worry about getting a woman pregnant, ever.  If there was just something they could do about those STD's..............

Reebbie, you sound just like me! lol

Again, I am flabbergasted that a woman cannot have her ligation if she wants it.  We can be stapeled, implanted, liposucted, debrided, dyed, tatooed, pierced and have our genitals removed or switched but a woman can not get her tubes tied on request?
Something for the ACLU, I think.  This is the medical community deciding what is "best for you" or paranoid about being sued when you regret the operation.  Unless you show some signs of mental impairment, and if you are an adult, this should absolutely, positively be your decision to make.

A vasectomy is different for every man. Some have several days of pain after the surgery, while others are working the next day. My ejaculations look and feel the same prior to having the boys snipped. My cords were cut and burned at the ends.  Also, my balls still don't fit inside a providers mouth, so I guess that they have not shrunk. LOL

Just Kidding!!! I love the boy dearly too, but when I'm around him it just further proves my point that I'm not mother material. I have been to women and male doctors that have all denied my request for a tubal ligation, so I guess I just have to play the waiting game and keep taking those birth control pills. There's a new birth control method called essure that's been really big in Australia and now is being offered in the US that I'm thinking about undergoing. It's marketed as permanent but it may be able to be reversed down the line if a women decides to have a baby in the future. Maybe my doctor will agree to that.

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What do you mean? Do you have any STDs?

Their personalities!! (lol)

I understand their point of view also.  I was in the same boat.  I had three pregnancies that ended in miscarriage, the last one I almost carried to full term...needless to say, I almost had a nervous breakdown over that one.  My final pregnancy gave me a son, but I did go through hell to ensure that he would survive.  My brother didn't fair to well either and lost a daughter shortly after birth...something to do with our gene pool, but even after all that the doctor still did not want to give me the procedure because of my young age.  

I finally found one willing after all the hell I had gone through to find someone to do the procedure. He said to often young ladies had come in only to come back years later to have the procedure reversed and many times are unable to concieve after the reversal.  There have been incidents in which the doctors had been sued afterward claiming that they were told it was reversable, so doctors tend to shy away from that.  

The only reason he agreed to mine is because of the medical history surrounding my miscarriages and the family file that he read concerning my brothers children and their medical history.  It just isn't in the cards for me and if I did want more children, the best advice would have been adoption from any doctor.  The only reason I got so lucky, but do understand the other side of the coin.  Women such as yourself are rare and most decisions made of such magnitude at such a young age are more oft regretted in later years.  

Lauren

 

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Just would like a pill or something that would PREVENT STD.

In every state, once the baby is born, the father has rights with regard to what happens to the child - the mother cannot unilaterally put the child up for adoption, etc. (unless a court orders it.)  Prior to birth, the mother has control over her body, and the father MAY not have any say - how far prior, etc. varies from state to state.

The radical religous right, wrapped up in the neoconservative majority of the republican party, wants to remove that right from you.  You have to fight to keep that right, and the way you fight is at the polls.


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