A: I only see someone more than once if I enjoy their company and I think I could be friends with them in civilian life. I suppose you call that "chemistry".
B: I have taken several women out for a nice meal in public after repeat encounters, but only after they suggested it with the understanding it was off the clock, but that the meal was my treat.
C: Never had an issue with other patrons "tsk tsking" me or my date when in public. I suppose this is because my friends were casually or well dressed and didn't look the part of an escort.
Not every encounter has to start and end between four walls. I’ve had a few moments where the best part was taking her out grabbing dinner, sharing a bottle of wine, walking back through the city. There’s something about sitting across the table, hearing her laugh, and watching heads turn as she’s with you. By the time we made it back, the connection felt completely different, almost like the evening had its own story.
curious if anyone else enjoys this side of the hobby as much as I do?
And end in private. I offer special incentives for longer fun dates outside of the bedroom. October is my Birthday month, so I offer love ❤️ for those who prepay in full at the time of booking. I prefer to entertain outside of the bedroom and in private behind closed doors. Overnights, and getaway’s are my all time favorite play dates!
But there are times that I can't partake of this.
For one, if the provider is on the pricey side, and charges per hour regardless of the activity, then I just can't afford it.
Then there are some providers that have a prohibition against this because they want to segregate their business side of things from their social life. i can understand this as sometimes misunderstandings start to crop up as a result of spending lots of social time together.
For the most part, things have always worked out well by socializing.
I share your reservations about paying a lady's rate of $500 - $1,000 an hour for dinner, especially when the meal is going to be another $500. No thanks!
On the other hand, I had a great provider relationship with a 6' Asian beauty who offered a special rate of $100 /hour for time outside the bedroom. She's down to earth and fun to be with, so the $100 doesn't bother me at all.
I took her to dinner in an upscale neighborhood. When she entered the room wearing a tight leopard skin miniskirt you could hear a pin drop. After we were seated, I delighted in hearing the old hens clucking away saying things like "While I never...!", "In all my years..!. and the best, "Howard! What are you looking at?" I loved every minute of it!
Sadly for me, good for her, she's left the business. If a similar opportunity arises, I'll jump on it.
I deeply respect your position!
For me, the fact that I *never* upcharge for a particular activity (bdsm, Greek, talking about politics, etc) is a what instills a sense of confidence that I am operating on the right side of the law. (Yes, I understand it’s a grey area). But for me, knowing that I am truly exchanging money for time and nothing else helps me relax and just actually enjoy myself. To actually submit. To actually let go. To — often — have great fucking sex. Not all the time. But let’s be real, often.
What this means is that I **cant** give a discount for going to the movies. Because what that would mean is that J would be up charging for having sex or getting whipped or facefucked or whatever delightful devilish or innocent thing me and my lover for the day truly get inspired to do.
It’s a double edged sword, to be sure. To each their own.
But for me, it helps me feel present. Real.
And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I respect your opinion as a thoughtful, intelligent and highly-qualified practitioner of the amorous arts.
I also understand your position vis-a-vis "What this means is that I **cant** give a discount for going to the movies."
I don't see it as a discount but, rather, an entirely different service. I, in fact, have had dates with her that were purely social. Perhaps relevant is this goddess lives within a 5 minute walk from my home, allowing for more spontaneity.
ATTB
I had a great session with a hot Korean-American girl (so not a K-girl, technically) and then took her out to dinner at a top NY steakhouse where we met another monger and his escort date. Unlike your story, I was simply paying for her dinner and not to watch her eat it. My adorable, sexy, ingenue was perched on a pair of wedgies and sheathed in a skin-tight faux-leopard mini dress. All eyes were on us, the men licking their lips and the ladies shaking their heads. I heard one of them say, "You should be ashamed of yourself! She's young enough to be your daughter!"
I replied, "Oh, no, madam. She is FAR too young to be my daughter."
Sorry, I don't get: "Unlike your story, I was simply paying for her dinner and not to watch her eat it."
It sounds like the throwaway comment of an A-hole, but maybe I'm reading it wrong.
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I am happy to pay for sex. I am happy to take a girl to dinner and pay for her meal. I simply don't pay for her time while she's eating it. Since the poster above me made it clear he DID pay for her time during dinner I thought it reasonable to point out this distinction. If that makes me "an A-hole," so be it.
Personally, if you're not able to come here and actually write "asshole" I find that odd on a fuck board.
Claro?
Paying for social time is quite common and it's telling that you seize on it your attempt at one-up-man-ship. Somehow you take it as a source of pride that you don't do it, while shelling-out big-bucks to get someone to sleep with you. That's funny!
As far as "A-hole" vs. "asshole": Your opinion not important to me, so I'll stay with A-hole.
1) Someone who responds in a needlessly combative way to a fairly low-key post.
2) Someone who ascribes negativity or "pride" to a simple distinction/clarification intended for someone else.
3) Someone who needs to make a pointed reply but then claims the opinion with which he differs is "not important to me."
Now THAT'S funny!
Wow, I guess it's true that a hit bird flutters!
Closer to the truth is you tried to bully someone and lost.
BTW: What's with all the anger? Does it have anything to do with your last review being from 2015?
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I "tried to bully someone and lost?" LMAO. Your stupidest comment yet. I certainly didn't try to bully anyone with my original comment on the branch. Hell, I didn't even try to bully YOU. If you think what I wrote is bullying you are a World-Class snowflake.
And thanks for another "cheap debate trick," calling someone you're pissed at "angry." I am actually doing what everyone else reading this is doing: laughing. At you.
As for 2015, I guess you don't get around much. It's well-known to many here that I've been doing most of my playing in Costa Rica and Panama. Also Sydney and Singapore.
This is what happens when you....
Maybe no one noticed but there USED to be a snarky retort from our hero right here. Trouble is, the Bozo posted it with his handle, thus outing his alias. Don't ask me what it is cuz I won't tell. When I pointed this out he pulled his post and my response went with it. I assume he's changing his alias as I write this.
What a tool.
Saw it, noticed it. Guess trying to keep which persona you're using straight is a negative of using an alias.
I love to hit it off with a friend and see what happens beyond the bedroom. Part of having a good connection is mixing it up and having fun outside. Not just meals or shows, they are great too, but think about bowling (!), taking a cooking class or —right now— going apple picking. My friends are usually pretty interesting and I love to learn about them and from them. And whatever happens after is between consenting adults!
... I agree with those who say that the time they pay for is primarily focused on bedroom intimacy. And I don't lack for civilian women friends with whom to have dinner, etc. But if a companion says to me, as a few have, that they would like to have dinner and hang out OTC, I am delighted for the company.
I have had a few providers that wanted to spend time with me outside before hitting the sheets. I don't have the means to drop thousands on those who offer it as an option on their menu. But on these few occasions, they offerred it off the clock. Usually, it's because they have no other plans and they're bored sitting at home. This has always been somewhat last minute, perhaps because they were waiting/hoping for another booking. I can't say I know for sure. But it's always been a fun time. I pay for the date, food, activity, etc... I can swing that, and I enjoy spending time and getting to know them. If I had a fatter wallet, I would probably pay for some of these fine ladies to do it more often.
So, no, it doesn't happen every time, nor do I want it to. But if she's been really good company during a session I'll pop the question and the answer is almost always, "Yes," especially if it's around dinner time. There''s nothing better than a nice dinner with a beautiful girl and the look on guys' faces at neighboring tables.
This was the case one night in a fancy restaurant that my lovely date and I ate at. The woman across from us could tell exactly what the deal was between us and she left no doubt that she wanted to convey her disgust with us by her expression.
I just lapped it up, and flashed her a big grin, causing her even more indigestion.
It was a transcendent moment.
Reminds me of an afternoon I was with two providers both with great racks. Was introducing one to the other over burgers and beer.
Being 30 plus years young then me was drawing some interested looks from a couple at a table nearby. Talked the providers into embracing well landing some wet sloppies.
The look on the faces of the couple was priceless as they could not get their bill to leave fast enough.
I've been in your situation, with the old buzzards circling, huffing and puffing. It's funny to briefly nuzzle your date's neck and really get the feathers flying!
Have champagne delivered to the table and improvise theatrics while pouring her glass, saying, "Oh my dear, nothing's too good for you!" This will get the old battle axes squawking!
ATTB
falls into two classes; 1) girls you see regularly for an extended period of time, and 2) those where there is an electric attraction during the first meeting and they almost want you to move in with them the coming weekend. Both of these reasons have combined to provide me with all of the OTC time I that I could fit into my schedule for the past 15 years.
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Young lady called me out of the blue and wanted to hang out. So we went grocery shopping. I remember we had cereal in the cart. She loved that shit
Footnote: I had seen her the night before so I guess she liked my company,
.. in the SB world....
What makes you think smart guy like me wants to watch you eat burger and pay for it..
I will pay to fuck you, or even better will pay you to leave after we have fucked.. If you want to hang out because you like my company, it better be for free..
I will happily pay to fuck you.
I will happily pay for your meal but not to watch you eat it.
I will happily sleep with you but not to watch you sleep.
…i would find some gold digger and date for real!
a gold digger, you need to change your username. Lol
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Hmm.. First of all, even the nicest of gals won't date a BrokeLoser guy -- let alone a Gold Digger. Trust me....
Secondly, why would you want to find a gold digger. You like someone taking advantage of you? I would rather hire most expensive provider who will leave me alone and won't take advantage of me than even have a coffee date with a gal with gold digger tendencies.
Life is really....reallly....really hard when you are broke, a loser and......not smart.
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For those that want to spend time OTC, that’s great for them.
I’m talking about something different – time on the clock but out of the bedroom. Time that involves being together and developing a genuine connection – not a love affair -- but perhaps a fling, or a compassionate port in a storm, or a simple, fun evening with a lot of laughter. Clients usually come to relieve stress, but they often stay to have fun … so why not make the best of it?
As for any risk of emotional ties, I think most experienced providers can manage boundaries and expectations responsibly.
Oh, btw the apple picking was lots of fun!
Xoxo
Jenny
So like, a date but a paid one? And with sex after going at a regular rate?
I'm sure there are takers but def not for me.
Yes, but….lt should be a lot less stressful for the guy. First, he knows where the evening will end (or begin) . But also, he doesn’t have to impress …..it’s my job to make him laugh, to feel young and alive, to be excited in that moment at that time — even though we may be just feeding ducks in a pond or checking out dim sum
And I have packages that include social time, including dinner. These have been working well for quite some time now. I'll be seeing one of my favorite people on the planet at the end of Oct. in Boston. We do this two evenings in a row.
Spa dates are divine as well. I still enjoy a 2 hr tryst that leaves me flushed with excitement.
Steph XO
Finding a civie to hang out with is easy as pie. I have no interest in paying an escort just to hang out. I pay them for quick and easy sex. But hey, nothing wrong if others decide otherwise.
"hanging out" with a civvie does not give you access to her "pie" so you pay for sex with others. The only attraction for me in P4P is the NSA aspect. It's easy for me to get civvie women into bed, but it often comes with a maintenance factor that includes texting, calling and expectations on their part of a broader relationship. When it comes to civvies, I look for women that are more interested in a good sexual component and are not looking for a boyfriend or soulmate. This cuts back on the collateral time-suck of dating civvies. It's classic FWB, and we both get sex with neither one paying the other for their time. If they call me, they pay for any food we consume afterward, if I call them, I pay. When you get a little more game with women, I suggest you try it.
Do providers enjoy long appointments say: one 6-10 hrs or multiple short in a day with different guys? Everyone is in this hobby for different reasons so experiences and needs vary. I travel and vacation for pleasure 8-10 times a year, during that time is when I am active in the hobby. I have a very busy and active dating life in my home state. So the behind closed doors activity is lower on my concern list, then it's the social part.
I always do longer appointments when I travel for pleasure, I like dinners, a show, concert, shopping or a sporting event etc.... in the location vacationing. I choose he provider route since I've tried multiple times over the last 12 years single brings a girl I'm dating with me. I hated the dynamic shift it causes in the relationship, for some reason they have, all "except one" have taken that a vacation or a long weekend in Vegas as we are taking the "next step"or different level".
My experiences during long appointments have all been exceptional and some even have been very incite full in my business life to hear the mind of the female consumer.
Is it hard for a provider to be interested in the conversations? Is it tough listening to someone that you may think vastly different from? I have the Michael Jordan view on politic and business so it's the only topic I will always avoid.
I think it very much depends on the provider. I do enjoy extended dates but that’s my thing. I genuinely appreciate the human connection and the experience of being with others. I have been blessed to have had many amazing experiences with wonderful gentlemen over the years.
I definitely prefer taking my time in enjoying the company of one person as opposed to rushing multiple encounters.
While they don't seem to think so, they're just running around with amateur hookers. The Erotic Highway board is a hotbed of self delusion and (mostly) fantasy.
A: I only see someone more than once if I enjoy their company and I think I could be friends with them in civilian life. I suppose you call that "chemistry".
B: I have taken several women out for a nice meal in public after repeat encounters, but only after they suggested it with the understanding it was off the clock, but that the meal was my treat.
C: Never had an issue with other patrons "tsk tsking" me or my date when in public. I suppose this is because my friends were casually or well dressed and didn't look the part of an escort.
Saw a very highly reviewed lady. Had fun one day. The next day she said she wanted to hike Torrey Pines State Park and see the views. Once we got on the trail she stripped down to her very revealing micro bikini. She wanted to pose for pics wjile families are walking around. Was very happy to get out of there.