I know Im not the only lady who feels this way:

Guys...  So you have an ATF and you just adore her and can't stop thinking about her...  Thats just wonderful.  It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

But before you email 6 times in a week telling her how much you miss her and going on-and-on-and-on about your sexual fantasies (or texting her 4 times a day to say hi), please keep in mind that she is not only your ATF, shes many other guys' as well.

So not only are we dealing with your emails and constant texts, we are dealing with yours, Bob's, Phil's, Jim's, Joe's, Doug's, Bill's, Sam's, Juan's, Jose's, Carlos's, Lionel's, Rufus's, Tyrone's, LeBron's, etc etc etc.......

Now we are no longer providers you hire by the hour.  We are your *free*, full time pen pals and phone sex operators.

Enough!

Save the lovey dovey talk for your session!  A lot of ladies have other full time gig's (work, school, family, etc.)

Unfortunately, I think a lot of guys imagine that we are these one-dimentional creatures who live in hotels, fuck 24/7 and have no lives.

Guys, give us a break, please.  Before you pick up the phone and text, "I miss you so much!" just take a deep breath, stop, and book an appointment instead if we are really so wonderful and special to you.

Also, if your appointment is in a week, please don't text daily saying, "6 more days!", "5 more days!", "2 more days!", 16 more hours," etc.

Rant complete.

Thank you for your time.

*disclaimer:  I am not really an ungrateful bitch.  Im just having a bad day.  Lol

I adore one specific hobbyist. Hell, its pathological how much I love this man! But he calls me 3-4 times a day and emails! I hate rushing him off the phone but I CAN'T TALK TO HIM ALL DAY! Then another hobbyist comments on my every blog post. I've stopped replying. And what I really love is men who expect me to have time to instant message all day. Just because you have a job where you can IM all day, doesn't mean that your ATF or future prospect does as well. And the men who get offended when I can't IM within the hour, are PRICELESS!
The sad part about it is that I ADORE AND LOVE each and every one! I just can't be there 24/7 even when they pay for one (out of 168hr) hour a week. It makes me feel bad that I can't do all that I'd like to do for them. Moreover, men who you give permission to write you, only want to write replies. WTF? There's a gentleman that I'm lusting for but he will only respond to emails.
You're not ungrateful. You're human.
Hope you feel better.

Providers such as Honestprovider need to give me a break too with the constant txt/email harrasment. Gosh. I have too many to answer everyday as it is.

Just kiddin', keep em cumming.

I'll ignore the other providers but will respond to yours. lol

DA

WTF is your excuse when you and your 'sisters' do the same?

I get fucking calls, texts, emails, PMs, all sorts of shit. I think it's flattering as fuck!

Yeah, there's an 'underlying' agreement that it is what it is. But if you're the only provider that doesn't call, text, PM, WTF-ever, you're in a distinct position.

Tell you the truth? I've made friends with some ladies here. Some we've fucked each other, some want to, some won't. Coool fucking ladies, no matter the outcome.

The point is, they can call me at their leasure and bitch and moan about WTF it is that got their panties in a twist.

And just the fact I can make a statement like that, they know.

I dig you ladies. Really do, believe it or not. You're fucking crazy. I love crazy! Makes life more exciting!

What's more exciting than being with a crazy, hot as hell lady?! Just strap on, and enjoy the ride!!!

Honestprovider, you won't get that shit out of me. The countdown. We make a date, I'll show up. Don't need to remind you. You're intelligent, respectful, and thoughtful enough to commit to your business at the very least.

I get your frustration. I do. This should be cut and dry, and it's not.

Just think this thread of your's is kind of a 'wake-up' call.

Keep the personal shit personal(which I'm guilty of), and do WTF it is we're here to do.

Mine? Ultimately get my dick wet.

But I'm not going to discount the friendships I've made along the way, if that makes any sense...

That ain't me, miss alias lady cuz I ain't no gentleman...

Thank you!

Oh, SumDumDrunkAsian you are the exception.  You are a Lifetime Platinum-Status PussyPass Card member and you can harass the shit out of me whenever you want

I have two phone numbers. One is listed in my ads so obviously it gets a lot of junk calls and texts. It stays off during appointments, while at home, at night, etc. The other is the "sweety line" I only give that number out after I've seen someone a few times and I know that they are not obsessive and won't text every 5 minutes and can respect my boundaries. When that phone beeps I always get it because only my 7 best clients have that number and I love hearing from any and all of them. Give it a try girls. Have a general phone and a sweety line, you will love it.

Before I implemented that practice I had similar problems. One guy regularly called / texted me at 5 am (8 am his time, but how hard is it to calculate the time difference?) Another called regularly and if I didn't answer he kept ringing every 5 minutes. I answered once to say "Joe (not his real name), I'm sitting on another guy's cock, do you mind...? hehe Those things made me get the second phone. Yes, it's not convenient to carry 3 phones but better than being interrupted when in the middle of a session.

my ATF. I keep all communications business oriented I wouldn't want to get flirty Little txt's or email distractions all day.

I sure as as hell wouldn't send them, that shit makes me sick in real life. Now what do you mean your not up in a hotel room 24/7 WTF that is my fantasy. LOL


LOL @ the gentlemen who have already replied

Oh and Mr. no.6 is a client! LOL

Lol.

Turn it off and turn it on when you want to.

Email filter shit you don't want, ignore text messages when you're busy, and "check out" of contact when you don't want it.

They'll still be there when you come back...and occasionally indulging makes regular clients feel very special, makes you feel like less of a machine.

Just one girl's opinion.

Do I know MANGINO??  

Of course I email/PM out of the blue.   I usually do this if I especially like the guy.  

But even if I'm crazy about him, i'm not going to say "Miss you" throughout the day, or write long ass daily emails about f*cking him.  Simply out of respect for his busy life.

Thanks for your understanding.  No doubt, I like friendships as well.  Not trying to be completely antisocial.

I read this thread and was a bit perplexed. Then I was confused. Finally I figured out that the while I knew how I would react if I were in that situation, however I just don't have that problem.

I keep a hobby phone and a personal phone. And never the two shall meet. I don't advertise my companion phone number, and that method works just fine for me. All of my advertising tells you to contact me by email. This allows me to only turn my companion phone on when I am actually working. All of my clients know how I treat my phone so the issue is limited to begin with. We tell the men on this board all the time that they should have two different phones, the ladies should as well.

When I do get email or texts from clients and I have the opportunity to answer them I do. But honestly I don't have a single client who floods me with txt or email. In fact I may have the most polite group of clients. I am never burdened by them. Honestly there are a few I wish would txt me a little more often, as I have a keen interest in their lives. I own and run a non-adult related business and raise a child in addition to being a provider. So gauge for yourself what minuscule level I must be getting contacted at for it not to bother me. Its very infrequent.

With all that being said, I cant help but think of what I would do if were in HP's position. I would just tell the client to move on. You don't choose to be an ATF, you get chosen. But you can certainly choose to loose that ATF status easily enough. Just tell them to leave you alone. Your choice is to decide between the correspondence or the revenue. You can just as easily end every aspect of your Rant by ditching the client. Or you can choose to put on a smile and answer their correspondence while you wait for the next appointment.

Simple Disclaimer:

I have my cake and eat it too, my clients are the best and never over-reach emotionally or time wise. I guess I am just lucky.

HP, I hope your day gets better!!

I just us the PM to chat with a lady.  Her email and phone are business only in my mind unless she asks me to call.  I never make a date over PM but may start the wheels going there.  If she doesnt answer my PM I assume she is busy and gets too many.  Of course the lady that answers my PM will probably get my attention.  Of course it doesnt have to be right away.  When it comes to setting a day and time then I usually opt for the email.  Gives her a chance to look at her schedule.  My  phone doesnt get used much until the day of the appt.

While I have a couple of providers that I am very fond of, I never forget that this is a business and take care to respect boundaries. It is a matter of respect which they seem to appreciate. But what do I know?

The nature of this business is sex, remember?  It's about guys buying sex for lots of reasons and women who get into it lots of reasons.  Hence, it attracts more than a few weirdos on both sides of the transaction, resulting in stalkers, obsessives, and women who backstab or go after men in many odd ways.  Human nature being what it is, that's the way it is and always will be.  So why expect anything else?  Don't get too involved and keep your antennae up at all times.

A gentleman gave her my private number for a reference. I was out of town helping a family member with breast cancer and she used the number to reach me for a number of references after I told her to stop calling and use e-mail. I had to tell her off to stop the calls. Now I am very careful who I give my private number to.

I have many old friends that have had that same phone number for up to 15 years and always happy to hear from my old friends. I always figured if someone bombed my ad line then they would do the same with my private number so I would never give them it. Most of the time the gentlemen understood it was a personal line but a few didn't.

Kisses Haley

A response was not something that was automatically assumed to be guaranteed by contacting a provider!

If you respond to the texts, e-mails or whatever then this unfortunately falls back to you in my mind. By responding, you inevitably set the standard of expectation moving forward...

Just My .02...

Fog

It does not take a genius, just some good customer care.  Flirting is part of the simple things that can be increadibly effective to getting us to come back.

Once you realize that, things become easier to figure out.  But I guess some guys just never get it.
One of the main reasons I hobby, is so they don't call/text me afterwards or between sessions and I don't have to call/text them either. Pretty basic, don't you think?

I had one that thought he could stop by my incall "because he was in the neighborhood".  That is rude and inconsiderate behavior.

Explaining yourself does not make you ungrateful.  Services have been rendered and he is taking advantage of your kindness.  It does not matter if he thinks you are friends.  If he treats all his friends like that then he must be lonely.

I have had to stop seeing a few "regulars" in the past as they got to clingy or needed attention I just could not give outside the hobby. I do not IM , I do not text much in the hobby and I do not call to chat EVER! I have a busy life outside my hobby and althougth I LOVE my dates - I expect them to know the rules of engagement unless I have any otherwise indicated that it was OK to reach out for a specific reason other than an appointment. On the flip side I am always asked to email, text etc for when " I am back in town" and it still feels awkward and indiscreet so therefore I rarely do that. Ok this is my post for the week....lol  carry on

Can I really harass the shit out of you, Show up in front of your house at 3am piss-drunk, shitfaced, and un-showered reeking of smoke? lmao

I can imagine that providers would get tons of 'i miss you' txt and 'can't wait' txts being surrounded by so many guys.  Maybe there's a mobile App that automatically sends out a canned responses?

"i miss you babe" -> "I don't, so go away"
"only 4 days left" -> "ask me if I care"
"you look great" -> "tell me something I don't know"
"do you miss me" -> "umm, my dog misses you, I think"
"what are your rates" -> "don't you know how to surf the web"

lmfao

I text, email, call and IM my ATF several times a day!

Of course, she's also my girlfriend. LOL

But, true, I have no doubt that she is most of her clients' ATF. At least, she is if they have any taste.

"Don't be pussy whipped! Whip that pussy!" and, uh, if there is a dick version, then...that too.

The bugaboo is beyond annoying, forget escorts, P4P, business blah blah, that shit is just not ok period.

Constant texting, calling, e-mailing, for fuck sake; if a chick has nothing better to do than find excuses to contact me all day, it ceases to be flattering when the reality of her desperation sets in.

One of the gents who I trusted with the number took advantage of it and started to call 4-5 times a day. Texting would have been fine but not calling so I had to change the number. But because only 6 or 7 gents knew that number at that point it was very easy for me to let them know about the change. If someone gave out my number and the provider kept calling I would change the number and tell her that I cannot give her anymore references. It costs $15 to get a new phone number.

I just liked your post...

Changing such a number isn't that easy since some men call me once a year when they come in town for business. Many of my friends I never call but wait for them to call me. The gentleman who gave my number out I refused to see the next time he called. I did exactly what you mentioned to the lady but did say my e-mail is on my website for any references.

Kisses Haley

Being a top rated hot girl cums with consequences.  

Try gaining 50 pounds, don't take shower for a month, and stop going to the dentist... I'm sure those phone calls/txts will subside drastically. lol

Trust me I know. Being a handsome drunk asian came with similar consequences, Constant emails and txts, most of it from ladies who are trying to get in my pants, so I stopped exercising and brushing my teeth to fend off the ladies with my dragon breath of fire.

I really didn't mind the ladies if they are hot, it's when guys like MP try to get in my pants that scare me. lmao

When I am not living my voyeuristic life of stalking this site and it's various boards, or spending time with all of you beautiful young ladies, my other life involves me running a professional service firm. A large part of my role is business development - feeding the pipeline so to speak. It would be incredibly naive of me to think that once I landed a client, and did a great job, even exceeding that client's expectations, that he would show up again with more work, unless I make a concerted effort to stay in touch with that client. In my industry that involves taking clients to lunch, events, dinner, boondoggle trips, email blasts, press releases, periodicals, gifts, birthdays, anniversaries, kids birthdays, favors, tickets, the list goes on. 

So I find it interesting as I speak with ladies in your line of work that after a first, great, amazing encounter, the expectation would be that your client should go away and wait patiently for the opportunity to spend money again on your service. Websites that you see which state matter of factly "don't ask me to go to dinner, a movie, hang out etc without compensation for my time."

I understand the premise, and the tendency for abuse, and the tendency for Clients to blur the lines. I just wish in my profession I could put up a website, and through sites like this and word of mouth have the work just walk in the door. Now, much if not all of my work is based on hourly rates, so I more than most can understand the potential for huge amounts of revenue to be bled away by clients just looking for free up front service but never following through with any actual revenue of substance. But really, if someone is a source of repeat business, it's too much to stay in communication with them between appointments?

I know you are describing one extreme of the spectrum - but there is another side to that equation. Then again, what is often said about my profession is "the only difference between us an prostitution is we have less fun and keep our clothes on."

I do not really disagree with you.  I think it comes down to one of the most basic customer service skills in any service job:  being able to read and analyze the client.  Some want no contact unless they initiate it; others want to have theri ego stroked with a flirty e-mail.  Read either one of them wrong and it reduces the liklihood of repeat business.

I suspect those who do well understand what subgroup of us men they apeal to, know how to read our personalities and our preferences, and they act accordingly.