A handful of guys and providers got together for dinner & drinks. One of them - long since retired - got completely plastered. I took her home, carried her upstairs (my knees were better then), and hung out with her for the rest of the night, staying around after she passed out to make sure she didn't vomit in her sleep (I was kind of stuck, though, since I'd driven her car back to her place). I eventually fell asleep on her couch, and woke up the next morning and went home. She sheepishly thanked me for bringing her home and keeping an eye on her. She gave me a ride back to my car and that was pretty much the last I saw of her.
was visiting one of my favorite providers recently. 2 hour date. whole evening was during severe weather in the area. provider asked me to stay a little longer as she was bothered by the storms (potential severe weather) and had no other dates for the
evening. hung around for a while watching tv and just chilling out. finally left after a midnight. she texted me next AM to say thanks and added "I owe you one"
The severe weather passed. Were you at her residence or her work location. I am only used to seeing providers in cities so am not sure why she was concerned about the weather if she was in a safe building. Maybe she just wanted company or she felt an attachment toward you. Will you see her again.
...a free overnight. That's one of the first OTC scams Prof. Dunphy teaches at JDU.
even sometimes, you've got beginnings of a new thread;
"what's the strangest/oddest reason providers stay OTC?"
after our session (both fully dressed) because she wasn't feeling well. She had used her inhaler but it did not seem to be working. She said I could leave & she just wanted to lay down & rest which I was fine with but I did not think she should be left alone in case it was more serious than she thought. As soon as she was fit to travel... perhaps an hour... we said our goodbyes.
Considering I'm in New England, I'm surprised it hasn't happened more often.
Anyhoo, both times I ended up paying extra for the time, but it was well under the usual overnight rate, and we did fool around
There's such a delicate dance around two people spending time together like it's the most unusual and unnatural thing we've ever done. We enter into a business relationship for a little while and the moment it ends I say we're free agents and whatever happens is between two normal consenting adults who for whatever reason want to share the same oxygen just a little longer. Stuff happens. I think it's called life and life is short.
I think too, it's nice what the op did, but it's called human decency, and it shouldn't seem so unusual. One person does a nice thing to help out or comfort the other; it's what people do - at least on a good day lol.
I wonder what the hobby would look like if we saw each other as people first and a business relationship second. I dare say some of us do that, and I dare guess those are among the most enjoyable arrangements - at least they are for me.
"I wonder what the hobby would look like if we saw each other as people first and a business relationship second. I dare say some of us do that, and I dare guess those are among the most enjoyable arrangements - at least they are for me."
Wouldn't that be something?
that just like to fuck as much as us. That's a woman I'm always looking to meet. We both know thus is not the case with the professed mongers amongst us. No judgment made about that tho
It's just my personal style and it serves me well. I like the connection and most ladies enjoy it too. And I'm not talking about falling in love.
But I'm sure I could ... I can because that's not what I'm looking for and that's when it could creep up on you.
I respectfully and courteously (try to?) fall in lust.
But your point is probably how you function IRL. Yes, the world and hobby would be a better place. Thanks ladies, you make this all worthwhile.
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And beautifully said! Thank you. xo
People first and a business relationship second...sounds like me and my ATF
I used to have outcalls come to my hotel and
some would stay too long, I assume until their next date.
if you have family to call or ,,,... whatever it's not always easy asking them to leave.
wasn't feeling well. I offered to take her home and she asked me to stay with her for a little while until she felt better. Long story short, after she was feeling better she said "I want to make love to you". It was fun.
I don't see how it is any different than seeing anyone else in a business relationship as a person. I care if something bad happens to say a cab driver or a cashier. I don't act like they are a broken stapler if they have a heart attack while I am waiting in the checkout line. Of course there is a lot more nuance. People can fake certain things to scam or take advantage of others. Just because I don't care to know about the coat check ladies likes and dislikes does not mean that I objectify her.
In any case I would not demonize the OP if he made the other decision to leave. It is his choice.
I used to work in San Diego quite often
When I did I stayed at one of the major hotel chains there
I started seeing a very low volume provider who was driving down from quite a ways
She said she'd rather not bump into people she knew because she had a regular full time job
It just got to be a habit that she'd stay over with me every time she was down that way
I'd take care of her for our session and she'd just cuddle in for the night, leave early in the morning. Was way too far for her to drive home and we always had some wine and snacks anyway. Whenever she wanted I bought dinner and breakfast or just coffee for th road for her
Was a great arrangement for us both.
evening. hung around for a while watching tv and just chilling out. finally left after a midnight. she texted me next AM to say thanks and added "I owe you one"
A handful of guys and providers got together for dinner & drinks. One of them - long since retired - got completely plastered. I took her home, carried her upstairs (my knees were better then), and hung out with her for the rest of the night, staying around after she passed out to make sure she didn't vomit in her sleep (I was kind of stuck, though, since I'd driven her car back to her place). I eventually fell asleep on her couch, and woke up the next morning and went home. She sheepishly thanked me for bringing her home and keeping an eye on her. She gave me a ride back to my car and that was pretty much the last I saw of her.