I just had an amazing phone coversation with a well known provider. I rarely talk with other women in this business. I always felt that the women in this profession would be like the women outside of this profession, and they are not. We are a different breed altogether.

One thing that struck me is how lucky we are. We are lucky to be able to do what we do. There are many, many people out there who can't do what we do. There are many people out there that have a lot less than we do.

Never believe what people tell you.

There's a world of psychological and cultural difference between providers and non-providers. I'm more relaxed with the former, and it relaxes me more about the latter.

Yes, most the myths about you are wrong or questionable.  In this society, independent providers are non-conformists, and therefore, admirable.

/Zin

told by authority figures, and made up my own mind about things.

I find that a lot of the independent providers are also like that, and that appeals to me.  There are many very interesting women among providers.

or creative in some way. They have mostly been very independently minded and individualistic. You, Michelle, seem to be more so that the vast majority of the rest. I love you for knowing who you are, and what you do, and being comfortable with that. BTW, I like the new pic. on your home page. Not sure what look you were going for, but I like it!

NM, you are so right!  Most ladies in the biz appreciate us guys a whole lot more than regular dates where we are often taken for granted--i.e. a free meal at a nice restaurant in trade for a little smuchie but only after several dinner-dates does one have the opportunity to sometimes do the deed.  Providers are also very more worldly in regards to everything, not just the physical attraction thing.  Hobby safe.

She said that most of the guys she has dates with treat her far better than "civis" she has gone out with.

I thought that was a rather interesting comment.

So true, so true.......

Perhaps that is why I have NO desire to be in a relationship.  The gentlemen I meet treat me so kindly.  I still find it mind-boggling.  Have no idea why......

The reason is...we are treated with respect in return. I'm sooooooooooo done with relationships. I've been lied to, stole from, my heart has been broke so damn many times, I doubt that I can ever trust again. Never any good at the damn head games. I say "yes" when I mean yes and "no" when I mean no...and expect others to do the same. It seems that is asking way too much for the civi woman I meet.....

Enter the provider

I seek out and find those woman who I find attractive. I call to make a "date" and they are on time, kind, look great, and above all....providers know how to TALK to a man. I'm put at ease, my need to talk to a woman is met, then my sexual needs are met within reason. I wind up spending a lot less time/money in this type of a set up, then a "normal" one...and I'm treated with respect. No head games...communication is upfront, and valued, and I get to treat these woman as a man wants to treat them.....kind, soft, gentle...and they respond in kind.

Why in hell would I go back?

hugs,
Oz

A lot of hobbyist are well-educated, well traveled and cultured. And lets' not forget ... makin six figures. It's no reason why we guys behave like perfect gentlemen

Providers and Hobbyist are made for each other.

My life has been enriched immeasurably since I have become a hobbyist, I have been very fortunate to have had the honor to meet and spend time in the presence of such unique individuals as these ladys have proven to be. I can only hope to bring a small fraction of the happiness and warm to them that they always provide for me. The ladies I have been lucky enough to spend time with have all been amazing in their depth and ability to make you feel comfortable and welcome from the moment you meet them until you regrettably walk out the door. Enough can not be said about these classy and addicting ladies, how lucky us hobbyist are.

The Provider/Hobbyist connection is a very healthy one in my opinion because a mutual exhange takes place and if both the P&H are "into" the situation, it's easily the most "win-win" scenario I know. I met one of my ATFs recently as she traveled to my city. We missed each other on several trips to the left coast for one reason or another and though I was short on time, it seemed to be the longest hour I spent with someone as a hobbyist in a long time. No only did we pick up where we left off (I had not seen her in over a year), I left her hotel and as I was driving home, I had to restrain myself to not turn around and stay the night (the subject did come up). But that's the beauty of the P&H relationship. I get to anticipate the next time. In my own mind, I have decided to spend a weekend with her this Fall in Monterey if all the stars line up. When it came to the hobby, I sat on the edge of the deep end for a year before I jumped in. Now, I can't imagine what I might have missed if I remained a chicken. Thank you ladies.

I think I can speculate on the reason.
Guys in this hobby are looking for a GFE therefore they know that we would like the BFE experience along with a great, hot, sensual...roll in the hay.  Comfort, communication, sexual attraction, personality....are just a few factors needed to accomplish this.  "Regular" guys are sometimes not in tuned with the above in order to have a great encounter, they do not appreciate us the way you boys do.  To them we are just another. I hope this makes sense.  You boys on the other hand....do I have to spell it out?  I am sure you can read between the lines.  I always say that I am so lucky to be able to do this and meet great guys.  I sometimes think back on certain things that were done and said in an encounter and it brings a smile to my face.  I am a people person, and everyone that I have meet has touched my life in a certain way.  Whether it was something they did or said to me.  I am that squirrel Net Michelle is refferring to, and I love yah guys for letting me play with your nuts.
All I am trying to say here is that I appreciate all of the guys I have seen and will eventually meet.
To the guys that I have meet thank you for supporting me on these boards or just by sharing some time with me.  To the few that stay in contact with me thank you I need some "real friends in this Industry".  To Net Michelle, you are a great person and ladies should always support each other no matter what, I know we will talk again and some day soon we will meet. To the guys that I have never meet, for all of the ladies thank you for being individualistic and supportive of all of us in different ways...who knows our paths may meet one day, if not this ones for you XOXO get 'em yet?
XOXO
GINA



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