I hobby for the sex. I hobby for the companionship. And you're a loser.

Just fucking withya! lol!

Do you hobby for..

1) The companionship.  Sex is the cream on top.

2) The sex.  If the provider is good company, that's even better.

At the risk of sounding like a loser, I think I hobby because I'm lonely.

Don't get me wrong. I enjoy the company of a fine lady, but I would never pay simply for "the pleasure of her company". If I in need of company that badly, I will buy a dog. lol

OTOH NSA sex with a beautiful woman is something well worth paying for, and having the freedom to tell her when to leave makes it doubly worth paying for.

and the variables are the gal in question and also my age.

So, to all those of a nerdish bent, here's the equation:

I = H of M/ A + P X A

Where:

I = my interest

H of M = heat of the meat (The gal's, that is.)

A = my age

P = gal's personality

There are a few constants that have to be worked out, but this is the basic outline.

In terms of my present balance between the sex and the companionship, I'd say I passed the midpoint a few years ago, and am just starting to descend the slippery slide.

a canine not a 2 or 3 rating on appearance.

and I sure as hell would never pay for it.
Maybe some day I will be old, wrinkled and pathetic, but if the day comes that I am that lonely I may as well shoot myself.

Having sex with a new hot babe every week is what the hobby is all about for me.  

defines a GFE experience.

I need to have some "connection" with the woman, in order to enjoy sex.  But finding a true companion takes a lot of time and effort, which is not something a married man can do easily!

It's definetly the sex. That's why I like to find out if the pix are real. I really like hot escorts. If she's a great companion then that's cream on the top.

I am unrealistic and horny

Thinking about this GAs way, it's not so much companionship, as I want to at least like the girl's personality.  It's more whether I want her to leave pretty fast, or I like her and feel like sharing a couple of quick thoughts with a hot stranger that just fucked me silly.

But both the sex and the companionship are definite perks that I deeply enjoy.

The main reason is that it shows my wife I accept her choice in having us in this game and to help maintain balance in my own head when she is at work pleasing other men.




Edited to make the post make some sense. I need to learn how to write.

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In my civie relationship, number one is not lacking. Its the second reason that I find the need to hobby.

Sometimes I want companionship and a connection.  Othertimes I want sex.  Both are part of the appeal.

Personally I like a variety of women and this enables me to experience it.

I hobby for the sex. However, sometimes #1 happens without even trying.

I need the sexual intimacy.  I don't get it at home so I hobby.  Simple as that.  However, I prefer being with women that I would spend time with if I met them outside the hobby.

...or fantasize about having sex with scoed's wife.  Or maybe even scoed.  Or both of them together.  Do you guys also have a dog?  A cat would be OK too, if it's declawed.  

But seriously, scoed -- what kind of rationale is that for sleeping with other women?  What if your wife chose to be a waitress?  Would you feel a need to eat out incessantly?  God forbid she becomes a colonoscopist or sex change surgeon or state executioner.

I think you like hiring prostitutes for the same reasons the rest of us do.  If I were your marriage counselor I'd get you both drunk and make your wife sit on your face and fart until you admitted it.  The first step in reconciliation is admitting the truth.

And then #2, of course.  Good companionship is often just foreplay to better sex.

And this comes from a guy who had previously belonged in the first category! I have no problems admitting when I have been incorrect and I will stick by this belief:

If you hobby for mere companionship and pay for every minute of that companionship, you are really wasting a major part of your $$$ funds, plus you are actually diminishing and under-cultivating your skills when it comes to true companionship.

One proviso: I do not wish to disqualify all the other extra curricular activities, namely foreplay before intercourse. To me, LFK, DFK, cunnilingus, flatio (as the recipient) and sensuality in general is still considered as important components of the sex matrix.

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As a hedonist, I am a firm believer that it's not material things that bring us true joy but the pleasant experience in life that do.  And I can think of very few things more enjoyable than the company of a lovely lady whose intention is to please me.  

I am happily married to my best friend and have a satisfying sex life, so I don't NEED the sex or companionship.  But I do WANT and appreciate those things in the context of P4P. As my wife says, "Honey, you have your cake and you eat it, too!"

So, I hobby to be happy and bring joy to my life.  I hobby for the experiences. These experiences may or may not include actual sex or be more than superficial companionship; but they are definitely fun.

From what the brothel owner and my wife both tells me my wife is quite popular. Now as for me, and my cat we don't swing that way, but thanks for the offer. I am flattered, but my cat, not so much.

I do like to see escorts for the same reason the rest of you do. I love sex. I love to talk to interesting people. I enjoy it. And yes if I did not enjoy it, I would not do it, at lease I would do it a lot less often then I do.

Yet it is not why I do it. In fact when I first started to see escorts I didn't enjoy it. I felt a like I was losing some thing. I felt a great deal of guilt about having sex with others besides my wife even though my wife pushed me to do so. More then a few times I vowed that it was the last time, then my wife talked me in to doing it again as it made her feel better about her choices.

At the same time I hated my wife's job. She is not doing it for the money. She is doing it because part of her needs it. This made me feel like I was losing everything.

In short there was no balance in my marriage or my life.

When I realized I was not sneaking around behind my wifes back and developed boundaries that worked for me. Boundaries that kept something special reserved just for my wife. I started to enjoy it more.

When I realized my wife still wanted me, and I started to enjoy seeing the ladies. I was able to really accept my wifes choice on her profession. I seen you can separate sex from a real relationship. I realized just like I may have sex with others I am coming home to my wife and while she was having around with others as well she is coming home to me.

Yes I enjoy the sex. I enjoy it quite a lot. Yes I like the companionship of beautiful women. I enjoy that a lot as well. Still both in reality are empty and fail to satisfy. As I get sex regularly from a lady that loves me and I have real companionship from the same lady at home, I do not need the hobby for those things.

But the hobby does ad something to my life it adds balance and prospective. I am not as near as jealous of my wife's clients as I have learned that while she may enjoy their company it is not real. Just like my time with escorts while fun is also not real. It brings balance in that way.

In addition as I no longer fight with my wife over the hobby and play by her rules, it has shown I really have accepted what my wife does. I know it is not orthodox but it works for us. A year ago this May I had divorce papers drawn. Now, things are better. I feel my marriage is going to survive.

Part of me still hopes my wife will quit her job and forbid me from playing. I think part of me always will. But until that time I will enjoy what many of you guys wish your wifes would grant and see the ladies I wish to see, with my wife's blessing.

P.S. You would not like drunk scoed. Sober scoed is a nice guy, but drunk scoed not so much. Dumping a bunch of booze in me is not a good idea, trust me on that. I don't handle my liquor well. Your therapy would likely backfire on you.

Anther thing My wife's job as we do not need the money is different that those other things you brought up and you know it. Her reasons are far more personal than money.

One last thing. This will be at least the fourth time you called out my marriage. Why can't you just accept that we are both OK with it as it is? Why, do you care? It is not like I am sneaking around on my wife, she OK's every lady I see. She controls my hobbying. My wife made the rules in my wife and mine marriage. If she asked me to stop I would do so. So, what is your obsession with my open marriage and my hobbying?

I wish you and your wife all the best.  Really.

I was just giving you a hard time for what I thought was a slightly too thick layer of B.S. in that post.

#1 ....

Those ladies that know me, know that.  I have been hobbying long enough to have a circle of of friends that I enjoy meeting with.  That said, the circle is ever expanding and contracting, yet my ATF's endure, and the fun never ends!

For me its both.

I get neither the affection or sex I need at home.

I get both from many of the amazing women I've met paying for sex.

You can't hobby without interacting with another person. Sex is the first element, but interaction determines the satisfaction level. And, I suppose, the amount of the tip. Cold slam-bam-thank-you-sir sex gets no tip. An effort to touch base get's a lot of tip.