I am one of the many men on this board who absolutely love orally worshiping a woman's entire body, top to bottom, front to back, inside and out. Shit, it makes me hot.

Ever since I was old enough to appreciate the female form I have been hard wired with this oral fixation.

When I am sharing quality time with a provider I will always book for the extended time frame which will give me plenty of time to kiss, lick, nibble and suck to my hearts content. And that is provided I can find someone interested.

It is very important to me and helps to raise my own excitement level if I can bring about her complete pleasure and satisfaction as well.

I happened to stumble across this article that is a step by step diagram for helping a woman reach orgasm in the cunnilingus sciences.

          Give her great oral

The following tips will help improve the act of pleasing your partner orally.

1- You must want it
Encouraging sounds like "mmm," "ooh" and "aah" will make her feel like you're enjoying the act.

2- Move slowly
Nothing heightens a sexual experience like taking things slow. Start out with small, slow strokes of the tongue and gradually make the strokes longer, covering the labia.

3- Use a strong tongue
Instead of keeping your tongue relaxed while tickling her pink, opt instead to give your tongue that razor's edge by making it pointy while licking all over the area. Soft is nice, but hard can be fantastic for her as well.

4- Use a finger or fingers
While the tongue is great and, well, necessary for oral sex, throwing a couple of fingers into the mix will definitely up the ante. Use a clean, nail-trimmed finger to manipulate her body from the inside, while your tongue continues to do its thing on the outside.

5- Play with her butt
While your index finger is finding its way inside her vagina, use your thumb to simply rub the rim of her anus. If she reacts in a positive way, flick your tongue across her anus as well and notice her reaction.

6- Massage while you eat
You are not restricted to the genital area of her body; you can periodically use your hands to hold on to her waist and hips, and you can always manipulate her nipples with your fingers while your mouth is busy at work below. As well, you can massage her butt cheeks, rub her thighs or even play with her ankles and feet.

7- Spread those lips
Use your hands to spread her labia apart and lightly flick your tongue against her clitoris. Also, lightly massage her outer labia with your fingertips periodically.

8- Penetrate her with your tongue
You've spent so much time catering to the outskirts of her honey, now it's time to move on in. Point your tongue and make it as hard as you can (like an erection), and slowly penetrate her with it, going as deep as you can.

9- Vary the positions
It can add varying degrees of excitement to both partners by trying different positions while eating her pussy and ass. Lying her flat in a spread eagle position can be both comfortable and satisfying however changing into a doggy position or having her sit on your face can be extremely  stimulating.

10- Suck that clitoris
When she's well on her way, take her entire clitoris into your mouth and slowly suck on it, all the while constantly rubbing your tongue against it. Remember to take your time and keep your ears open for her reaction.

11- Use a mint
Whether you opt for Altoids (the curiously strong mint) or Halls (the black variety), placing a mint in your mouth while arousing her love button will provide that cooling sensation we all love so much (blowing air is not necessary). Pop a mint into your mouth and get to work.

12- Alternate between mouth and manhood
Give her a piece of oral and penile penetration by alternating between your tongue and your penis. Lick up a storm for a while, then make your way up to kiss her while inserting your manhood into her. Withdraw after a minute, get back down there and eat some more, then penetrate again. This will keep her guessing.

Anything missing ???

It had great tips for pleasuring a woman orally.  Highlights included teasing the clitoris by working many of the sensitive regions around it that have nerve endings connected to it.  

In finger insertion play with the back side of the clitoris (G-spot) with one working to two fingers in a come hither motion.  

A hand under the buttocks with a thumb rimming the anus adds to the erogenous zones.

Using the penis like the fingers to tease the G-spot and deny more penetration adds to the tease.

This book recommends not allowing the legs to be spread more then about 9" apart for maximum effectiveness.

Always assure your lady she tastes great.  You love what you are doing,  and that she has all the time in the world.  This is about the journey.

I have read a lot on this subject and this was one of the better books I have seen.

-- Modified on 8/18/2009 8:50:20 PM

YES!

Yay! LOL

It is so frigging hot when the woman I am with utters those very words while I am doing my thing.

a favorite even when I go into a restaurant...I always order #12 without looking!  Got broiled goats feet once....yuch.

That technique is also good for you aerobically....up and down, in and out..etc.

Try asking the lady that you are about to go down on what she likes

I read the 12 "do's" and I can tell you that quite a few of them are a no-go with many ladies I have been with, including my ATF who has four or five orgasms from oral every time we get together.  

Some girls love fingers, some hate them. Some girls like you to suck and nibble, others want you to lick.  Some girls like a little ass play and quite a few don't.

Good oral is just another part of good sex. It's not you doing it to her, it's the two of you doing it all together.

After reading this board a while I am thinking of ditching the whole DATY thing when with a provider.  I greatly enjoy it with a civvie and am happy to go to lengths at it.

Okay, I get that this was addressed to the ladies, but I get the sense that lots of providers could do without DATY, that they tolerate it because the guy is into it (but are thinking, damn when will this guy stop poking me with his tongue.)  Well, I am not so into to do it under those circumstances.

If I asked something like "would you enjoy me using my tongue on you" (give me the best way to put it) -- would I get a straight answer or even a good response like "sweetie, why don't we spend the time instead doing "x" instead."

Seems like it comes down to that issue I am seeing here -- who is doing to serving and who is doing the receiving.  For providers who want to serve and not be served, I sense they could do without DATY.

Here is proof that every woman is truly different. I have no doubt that some of these tips work for every single woman. I also have no doubt that there is no woman on earth for whom all of these tips are accurate.

I speak only for myself with respect to each of these but here goes.....

#1: Mmmm, I dunno. Too much moaning on your part would probably get me to giggling, erasing whatever progress you've made up to that point. Some soft moans, yes, but don't overdo it.

#2. oh yes, this is a definite. Nothing makes an orgasm more powerful than a long slow buildup.

#3: Not so much. In fact, this is a bit of a pet peeve. That nice soft relaxed tongue will have me climbing the walls. Too strong, and quite frankly it can HURT. I really hate 'giving directions' cause I feel like it just kills it for both me and him if I am back seat driving so to speak, buuuuuut, 90% of the time when I do give directions, it is to say "not so hard with the tongue" LOL

#4: Fingers are great for building excitement, but I absolutely cannot cum while being fingered. It is just too distracting. And oddly enough, I prefer that my G spot just be left alone. It is just too damned sensitive. I'm weird that way.

#5. Please just don't. Not unless you use lube. Saliva is not an adequate lube, nor are vaginal juices.

#6. Please don't. Its distracting. I have a one track mind. Again, that's just me.

#7. Spread the labia, definitely. Just don't stretch them. What feels great about spreading them open just a litle is that all the attention is then focused on the clit, and that's wonderful. Just don't stretch. That really doesnt feel good. As to the flicking part, refer back to the difference between a hard and soft tongue. A soft tongue use liberally, a hard tongue use sparingly. Don't 'flick', circle and tease is better

#8. Well, if you enjoy penetrating with your tongue, I won't tell you no, but it honestly doens't do a thing for me. Sorry.

#9. Oh yes, definitely try out different positions. by the way, 69 doesn't necessarily mean one partner has to be physically on top of the other either. Mmmmmmmm, how about a little standing 69 with my head dangling off the bed at just the right height.....*smile*

#10. NO NO NO NO NO. Suction HURTS. A very little, emphasis on VERY LITTLE suction just to hold the clit steady while your soft tongue dances and teases is mind blowing. Anything more than just a little light suction friggin HURTS.

#11. Just make sure that whatever mint, mouthwash, or other item you prefer is sugar free

#12. OH HELL YEAH BABY. LOVE it.

Every woman is different, and all of these tips are going to be dead on accurate for some women while not accurate for others. Pay attention to her body, not the sounds she's making. The body never lies. Take note of what you were doing when you feel her thighs shudder, or when you notice she suddenly stops breathing for a moment, or starts breathing harder and faster. Her response will tell you when you are getting warmer, and when she's about to explode. That is the best diagram of all

Heyyyyyyyyyyy sounds really good EXCEPT NUMBER 10.

I have a hood piercing and anything remotely close to a sucking action while DATY will result in me flying across the bed.

There is no one method that is universally applicable. As noted by others, some ladies like some things that others don't. It is good to learn different techniques to have in your repertoire. Then, like tools from a toolbox, you pick and choose the ones you need for the task at hand... or mouth... or both.

is pleasing her and/or what you should do to make. her experience better.  We are never too old to learn.

... if I explicitly ASK what to do/avoid?

As you said -- every woman is different!

the lady's reactions to what you're doing, you'll find that they are indeed all different. Some of us read better than others, and a little guidance is a good thing, as long as the lady isn't a traffic cop, and she can turn into a traffic cop simply because you are not paying attention to her reactions.

Why do us guys always look for step by step instructions?  We don't ask for directions on the road, why do we need them in the bedroom?

As Bostonguy said, sex is a dance.  Two people involved and every dance is a little different depending on the music and the partner.

The basics to oral seem to be:

1.  No frantic actions.
2.  Work into it slowly.
3.  Read her cues, both aural and physical.
4.  Do what she likes, don't do what she doesn't.
5.  Keep doing it steadily until she doesn't want you to do it anymore.
6.  Have fun.

At least it seems to work for me.
And I guess it worked for the last dozen or so ladies I paid to say it worked for them

But c'mon...you didn't get the slightest bit turned on while reading that? I know I did haha

... especially for those of us who just found out last week that the clitoris isn't just behind the mastoid process. A little road map can be helpful.

(*grin*)

1,5, and 8 suck-for me anyway. Someone moaning and groaning while they're going down on me tempts me to kick them in the head a bit to shut them up. Rule of thumb-don't moan when no one's even touching you.

I've think I've heard that before, hope I was quick to learn

Wellllll......I'm sure I'll be happy to point you in the right direction but don't think for a minute I'm going to reveal all! After all, adventurers like exploring for the thrill of it. I couldn't possibly deprive you of the joy of discovery *grin*