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scb19 10 Reviews 298 reads
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1 / 40
LikeTearsInRain 363 reads
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2 / 40

....number 2 maybe. But I love my wife very much.
We don't have intimacy due to her low libido caused by medication.
I am hoping to set up a couples date that will re-ignite our sex life.
So I have held off (pleasuring my self and only being with my wife every 3 months or so) for about 6 years.
Finally, I tried this world. I need touch. Getting more intimacy has caused me to be 100% more attentive to my wife in all those little things that make a relationship better. I think she can tell the difference because her eyes are sparkling again.
Also, since I was a teenager my thoughts were that monogamy was too cruel a rule.
I didn't express this feeling with any of my significant others and that was my mistake, because if I had I might have ended up in a more fulfilling, open relationship.

ATLDAWG 247 reads
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3 / 40


END OF MESSAGE

Senator.Blutarsky 332 reads
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4 / 40

...sorry, I couldn't resist the set-up. 😎

I have to go with lucky 7.

GaGambler 376 reads
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5 / 40

I don't find myself fitting into any of these nice neat little boxes

What's wrong with doing this just because a man LOVES pussy, and how else can an "average man" lead the sexual life of a rock star?

I am not going to try to shoehorn myself into any of LG's limited categories, I see hookers because it's fun,  I don't go psychoanalyzing myself about why I like to drink, gamble, or play golf. I most definitely don't need to ask myself why I like getting laid. That answer should be obvious to all but the most incredibly obtuse

cuppajoe 372 reads
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6 / 40

Maybe 7.  Happily married, and pretty conventional in most ways.  Just find women attractive and I'm not going to my grave without having sex with more of them.

Posted By: nunya_buisness
I found this very interesting and insightful. It would be fascinating to hear any commentary on it from both escorts and clients.  
   
 The articles categorizes clients into these reasons for seeing escorts. I think this is a useful framework but I see myself straddling #2,6, and 8 rather than being solidly in any of the individual categories. I'd easily pick 8 if I had to choose only one, though.  
   
 Excerpt:  
   
 1- Some have difficulty finding a partner for a conventional relationship  
   
 2- Some are unsatisfied with their current partnered relationship  
   
 3- Some patronize sex workers in order to bolster their masculinity  
   
 4- Some seek to abuse other people and target sex workers because they are viewed as accessible and unlikely to report victimization to the police  
   
 5- Some are looking to fulfill a fantasy with a person who will engage in desired activities (such as role playing or sadomasochism), someone with a desired physical appearance, ethnicity, or cultural background (often based on stereotypes of other nationalities), or someone of a different sexual orientation (e.g., heterosexual men experimenting with gay or transgender individuals; heterosexual women seeking lesbian experiences, etc.)  
   
 6- Some buy sex because they find it risky, thrilling, or sporting (calling themselves hobbyists)  
   
 7- Some wish to avoid the obligations or emotional complications involved in a conventional relationship  
   
 8- Some seek a limited romantic or emotional connection in addition to or instead of a purely physical experience

vantheman666 11 Reviews 372 reads
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7 / 40
HookerWithAHeartOfTinFoil 392 reads
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9 / 40
AHappyCamper 9 Reviews 392 reads
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10 / 40

once said "fuck feelings" and lived happily ever after. I like that philosophy.

AlexandraMilw See my TER Reviews 223 reads
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11 / 40

When I do part take.... 1, 5, and 7.  

Not in a relationship and not hunting for one. Sometimes I just want to enjoy myself with someone who is going to make sure I have a good time with no strings attached. :D
Posted By: nunya_buisness
I found this very interesting and insightful. It would be fascinating to hear any commentary on it from both escorts and clients.  
   
 The articles categorizes clients into these reasons for seeing escorts. I think this is a useful framework but I see myself straddling #2,6, and 8 rather than being solidly in any of the individual categories. I'd easily pick 8 if I had to choose only one, though.  
   
 Excerpt:  
   
 1- Some have difficulty finding a partner for a conventional relationship  
   
 2- Some are unsatisfied with their current partnered relationship  
   
 3- Some patronize sex workers in order to bolster their masculinity  
   
 4- Some seek to abuse other people and target sex workers because they are viewed as accessible and unlikely to report victimization to the police  
   
 5- Some are looking to fulfill a fantasy with a person who will engage in desired activities (such as role playing or sadomasochism), someone with a desired physical appearance, ethnicity, or cultural background (often based on stereotypes of other nationalities), or someone of a different sexual orientation (e.g., heterosexual men experimenting with gay or transgender individuals; heterosexual women seeking lesbian experiences, etc.)  
   
 6- Some buy sex because they find it risky, thrilling, or sporting (calling themselves hobbyists)  
   
 7- Some wish to avoid the obligations or emotional complications involved in a conventional relationship  
   
 8- Some seek a limited romantic or emotional connection in addition to or instead of a purely physical experience

John_Laroche 471 reads
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13 / 40
John_Laroche 268 reads
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14 / 40

at some point in my life, I could, and have, used all of these reasons (and a few more).

Thanks for sharing this article. While I enjoy the overall read, I'm not big on "lists" as many responses have indicated, most people don't fall into just one box. It's kind of like reading a personality description based on horoscope signs.  That said, if I had to pick one, I'm currently mostly an 8.

GaGambler 329 reads
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15 / 40

I will never refer to myself as a hobbyist and quite frankly I abhor the term.  

and I most certainly don't get a "thrill" out of this just because it's, illegal, frowned up, or somehow taboo. I enjoy having sex with beautiful women every bit as much when it's legal as when it's illegal and I refuse to play any of the "cloak and dagger" games that many of you "hobbyists" play.

impposter 49 Reviews 291 reads
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16 / 40

But I guess I could go with some of 1, 7 and 8.

donbecker54 19 Reviews 294 reads
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17 / 40

with 9 being "paying to have sex with a hot young female who otherwise wouldn't give me the time of day".

jelloman42 10 Reviews 258 reads
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18 / 40
WICardinalfan 330 reads
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19 / 40
LikeTearsInRain 393 reads
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20 / 40

Thank you for saying this. I don't like the term either.
What terms do you use when writing about "the activity"?

coeur-de-lion 400 Reviews 414 reads
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21 / 40

what should be number 9:  We prefer young pussy over old pussy, and when you're over 50, paying is the easiest way to get started with a new young girl, but we both have enough game left that we can convert a good percentage of them to RL OTC girlfriends.  

If I have this wrong, he can correct me.  

GaGambler 352 reads
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22 / 40

Other times I will call it "whore mongering" or just "mongering" for short. Other times I just refer to it as P4P

I think the guys who call themselves "hobbyists" are not only PC, not only care what other people think, but many of them secretly or not so secretly are ashamed of what they are doing. I have no such shame. I like fucking beautiful women, and if they happen to be hookers BFD, it doesn't spoil my fun even a little bit.

lester_prairie 12 Reviews 202 reads
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23 / 40
TennGambler 20 Reviews 308 reads
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24 / 40
xtheory 2 Reviews 374 reads
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25 / 40

Which is the one I fit most into.  I work a ridiculous amount of hours running my business.  Some could say I'm a bit of a workaholic, but I'd really like to retire very comfortably by the time I'm 50.  Between the hustle I really don't have the time to date and have a sexually fulfilling life after working a 14-16 hr day.  I usually only take 2 weeks off a year to recreationally travel and normally have trysts on those trips, but certainly nothing sustainable with my work obligations.  

This gives me the outlet I need to not completely burn myself out to stress of my career while dealing with the drama of being largely absent in a traditional relationship.  Plus it's fun as fuck, isn't it? :)

John_Laroche 290 reads
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26 / 40

Have you ever submitted a review? Do you give full name and work info for screening? Just curious.  

for the record, I like "whore monger"  and "hooker" too, but occasionally throw in hobbyist and provider just because others don't like it.  

As far as "the thrill" goes, I also consider sex with a new woman thrilling, but just because you get a similar thrill with civvie sex, doesn't negate that part of you is doing it for the thrill.

No matter, if you say you're not a 6 that's fine too. As I said in a separate post, these lists are like horoscope personality traits, except that as a part of a study, these also have an agenda.  

keystonekid 114 Reviews 337 reads
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27 / 40
CorbinCandor 320 reads
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29 / 40

You either have it or you don’t (like, no money; no honey).

hljockey 2 Reviews 328 reads
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30 / 40

Looking to have sex with hot girls who would never have given me the time of day when I was a pimply faced teenager.  

Now I have pock marks which make me look manly in a Sean Connery sort of way and it drives the ladies wild.  

(See the definition of #5)

trex44 9 Reviews 291 reads
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31 / 40

I live in a small rural town with a limited pool of women; I tried for almost 2 years after the end of my last relationship to find another dating relationship and couldn't find the right combination of age/energy/smarts/physical attraction that would make it worthwhile to get back into a dating relationship.

Took an additional 2 years off from dating and hobbying (with one exception back in 2013) due to familial obligations (taking care of an elderly parent); now that my life has settled down a bit and I can travel some more (limited pool of reputable providers in my neck of the woods), I'm getting back into the hobby.

It's not the optimal situation for me but it's the one that works -- for now.

mojojo 1 Reviews 281 reads
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32 / 40

I fall into a couple of those categories from time to time, but here’s a list of some personal reasons that didn't make their list.

Making up for lost time coming from a strict upbringing.

Fountain of Youth. The hobby keeps me young. Spiritually, and physically. Nothing like an upcoming session to encourage a trip to the gym.  

Education-What they didn’t teach me in my sex ed college class, I learned from the TER ladies. Plus the lab work here is way more fun.  

Not only is the sex great, but everything about the hobby is highly entertaining.  

I have an open voice for sexual expression that doesn’t happen in the other real life.

The hobby gets me on the road to do things I wouldn’t otherwise do.  

Stumbling into fantasies I didn’t know I liked.  

With so many experiences, occasionally finding women with my exact tastes is sexuality. I didn't think it was possible.  

vantheman666 11 Reviews 387 reads
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33 / 40

Jesus H. Christ, I meant 5-8...I certainly am not in this to creep out or hurt anyone.  Damn, was that ever a bad mistake.  Oh, and the 666 in my name is because I used to be a christian, but am now an atheist.

herbtcat 6 Reviews 334 reads
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34 / 40

GaGa,  

You, like me, are a true hedonist.  

Fucking hot chicks in their 20's (and occasionally 30's) is fun.  I'm not ashamed of that and I don't care if they need monetary incentive to do it.  Getting my dick sucked enthusiastically is its own reward.  

"What?  You like to have sex with 20 year old college students?"  Duh!  Yes!

mrblond68 4 Reviews 282 reads
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35 / 40

Been burned too many times in conventional relationships, do not want to spend the time or emotion involved cultivating a conventional relationship, but still enjoy the physical pleasures a woman provides.

CorbinCandor 339 reads
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36 / 40

Do-de-do-do, do-de-do-do, do-do-de-do, whAhhhhhHHHHhhhhhhhhnnt

eroticspirit 28 Reviews 336 reads
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37 / 40

Those 3 are spot on for me. And honestly, a "dash", if you will, of number 6---there is something titillating about the "underground" nature of this life!! Deep down I think a lot of guys feel this way even if they won't admit it!!

TheApe 320 reads
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38 / 40

I believe that for mast married men this world actually helps the intimacy at home.  Monogamy is not natural.  Variety is what keeps your intensity levels up.  

Bigben68 10 Reviews 288 reads
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39 / 40

Single father with limited time off.
When I finally do get a break, I wanna fuck. (Preferably a young hottie)

I can't afford to waste time dating and chasing and playing games and drama.......  I'm almost 50 and would rather have 2..25's....  

Fantasy is part of it I guess.

I love the sound of the little knock on the door and the anticipation...
  I also enjoy the sound of the door closing on her way out....

mrposition 10 Reviews 309 reads
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40 / 40

...I LOVE FUCKING!...

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