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Bigben68 10 Reviews 2893 reads
posted
1 / 53

I had a friend recently tell me about a terrible in call experience.
The provider was shooting up drugs in her bathroom and started drama when he tried to leave.... He got out ok, but lost the $$$.
Should he post a negative review?

I looked her up and she has over 10 stellar reviews.

I'm guessing she's sliding down the slippery slope.

Any suggestions????

Thx

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 900 reads
posted
2 / 53

He should write a negative review, but TER won't allow him to mention drugs in the review. He can avoid mentioning that part or hint at it, but definitely can't say what you said here.
Does she have his real name and info?

impposter 49 Reviews 887 reads
posted
3 / 53

From your description, your friend (wink, wink?) can write a review. If he met her at the door, turned around and walked away (WITH the envelope), that would still be a reviewable meeting. However, I would wonder about other possibly relevant details.

Did he provide real name and work info or just P411 or similar anonymous info and hobby phone number?

Does she post to the boards or have other info by which to gauge her personality? My main concern would be about whether she has slipped into the BSC zone along with her (alleged) drug use. Is she likely to retaliate against your friend? If so, by what means?

Rather than or in addition to writing a review, he can post to the local board about his bad experience. He can post her name but many would recommend that he not use her name in his post but to offer "PM for more info."  I wouldn't be surprised if there were replies along the lines of "I think I know exactly who you saw. She did the same thing to me (but I didn't review or post anything)."  

To protect himself to some extent, he can submit a review using an alias. He can post to the boards using an alias. But using an alias exposes him to challenges. "If this was true you'd use your real handle!" and stuff like that.

As for her, does she have any duo partners or friends that your friend knows about? He could ask them to watch out for her well being or to tell her to get some help.  

With the info provided, I would say to post an honest review BUT make sure your (his) ass is covered first.  

EDIT: Damn. I was typing before perfectstorm's post was up! I didn't know (explicitly) about not mentioning drugs in a review. (I have read reviews with "she seemed to be on something" and similar, but I never read "she went into the bathroom to shoot up."  
Posted By: Bigben68
I had a friend recently tell me about a terrible in call experience.  
 The provider was shooting up drugs in her bathroom and started drama when he tried to leave.... He got out ok, but lost the $$$.  
 Should he post a negative review?  
   
 I looked her up and she has over 10 stellar reviews.  
   
 I'm guessing she's sliding down the slippery slope.  
   
 Any suggestions????
-- Modified on 1/8/2017 12:42:22 AM

ValuedCustomer 498 reads
posted
4 / 53

Really - the community needs to know and you don't need to get tied up in the drama.  And there WILL be drama.

Something along the lines of -

I went into her incall.  Took care of financial arrangements.  She excused herself to the bathroom.  Events happened that I did not want any part of.  She kept the money - I left.  Will not return - life lesson learned.

10/10 - LOL.

I don't know if TER will let you post it - but it's worth trying

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 631 reads
posted
5 / 53

Your "friend" is  
AFRAID
to write a BAD REVIEW.

Why?

Bigben68 10 Reviews 727 reads
posted
6 / 53

She has his phone #, but was responding to several
Other calls while he was there

Bigben68 10 Reviews 518 reads
posted
8 / 53

Retaliation.
She has his phone number.

She was responding to other txt
Messages while he was there, but he's  
worried she could find out who he is
and cause trouble or harm.

Thx.

Bigben68 10 Reviews 556 reads
posted
9 / 53
Jensen36363 58 Reviews 572 reads
posted
10 / 53

If the concern your friend has about writing a review of the event is that of retribution is your assumption that the provider doesn't pay any attention to TER? Or is it that you think this type of thing happens a lot so one person bringing it up doesn't pretty much tell the provider who is raising the concerns? (Maybe I live in a nice protected bubble in my hobby world but I would think what was described is not a daily or weekly event for this community)

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 472 reads
posted
11 / 53

add another incident to the Pile  
for reasons why guys that don't want to hand over their  
Real Life Information and Driver's License.

 
I wonder how many "Good" guys, as compared to "Good" girls,
Flip to "Bad"         during session

statson1234 131 Reviews 495 reads
posted
13 / 53

I had one lady that seemed like she was on heroi-  
That was long long ago . I gave her 6/4 review  
TER did not let me post the review with the drug part .

Maybe we should come up with some phrase  
that would mean drugs .

statson1234 131 Reviews 445 reads
posted
14 / 53

I haven't really been exposed to this kinda stuff in my hubby days either .
Only once when The girl seemed very fucked up . Which was not a pleasant experience.

Bigben68 10 Reviews 479 reads
posted
16 / 53

He is worried that she has his phone # and if the review
causes her to lose business, then she could find him
out and cause problems.

souls_harbor 606 reads
posted
17 / 53

As much as it would help the community, it is too much risk for him.

If she is in a downward spiral, she won't be long for this earth anyhow

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 552 reads
posted
18 / 53

I always thought that was the Importance of "Reviews",,,,,,

    to make sure the "Bad" does not spread.

RobbinYoung See my TER Reviews 477 reads
posted
19 / 53

It's a very serious accusation, and since there's no witness, except for the reviewer...I'm unsure if TER would allow such a review.

Posted By: Bigben68
I had a friend recently tell me about a terrible in call experience.  
 The provider was shooting up drugs in her bathroom and started drama when he tried to leave.... He got out ok, but lost the $$$.  
 Should he post a negative review?  
   
 I looked her up and she has over 10 stellar reviews.  
   
 I'm guessing she's sliding down the slippery slope.  
   
 Any suggestions????  
   
 Thx.  
   
   
   
 

tawny777 See my TER Reviews 632 reads
posted
20 / 53

You might save some other poor soul an even bigger disaster! Just write it in a manner that ter will approve...im sure you can figure out
how to word it so its not derogatory.

Posted By: Bigben68
I had a friend recently tell me about a terrible in call experience.  
 The provider was shooting up drugs in her bathroom and started drama when he tried to leave.... He got out ok, but lost the $$$.  
 Should he post a negative review?  
   
 I looked her up and she has over 10 stellar reviews.  
   
 I'm guessing she's sliding down the slippery slope.  
   
 Any suggestions????  
   
 Thx.  
   
   
   
 
-- Modified on 1/8/2017 12:46:11 PM

Bigben68 10 Reviews 559 reads
posted
21 / 53

That's what I told him.

He said she was one of the hottest providers ever.

And feels sorry for her.

GaGambler 435 reads
posted
22 / 53

I have often wondered why more providers, especially the goods ones, aren't more in favor of having the bad actors that make it tough for all of them/you exposed for their bad behavior.

To me it makes just as much sense for the truly beautiful and talented providers to be the ones most against "grade inflation" as every 10-10 review of an undeserving woman cheapens the hard earned 10-10 review by the true superstars we have among us.

Good for you, I am happy to see more women taking a stand against the bad actors within your ranks, just like the guys tend to denounce the unwashed, abusive, cheap, manipulative "hobbyists" on our side of the envelope.

I completely agree, it's the bad reviews that serve to warn the community, not the "rubber stamp" reviews that have become the norm around here.

Bigben68 10 Reviews 557 reads
posted
24 / 53

He got freaked out when he saw the needle.

Then, she was all over the place and on her phone and went downstairs while he was upstairs in the bedroom.

He said he thought she was stalling and someone else might show up to rip him off or beat him up.

She said he couldn't leave and was almost blocking the door

MatureGFE See my TER Reviews 594 reads
posted
25 / 53

Really?  

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perfectstorm 19 Reviews 378 reads
posted
26 / 53

But he can still write the review. Just leave out the drug part. There are ways around it. Someone wrote a suggestion about half way up in the thread.

ValuedCustomer 391 reads
posted
27 / 53


END OF MESSAGE

GaGambler 624 reads
posted
28 / 53

Up to a point that is, and for me that point is "needles" Pot smokers, pill poppers, coke snorters, I can deal with all of them, although I prefer not to deal with people that overindulge, but I do draw the line at mainliners. I will never "knowingly" have sex with a woman that is an IV drug user, although I will concede most likely I have had sex "unknowingly" with many over the years

bocabuster 19 Reviews 484 reads
posted
29 / 53

Exactly.
But evidently you have more cajones than some of these "men"

GaGambler 492 reads
posted
30 / 53

I agree she has a lot more cajones than some of these so called "men"

darmody 22 Reviews 504 reads
posted
31 / 53

"It's a very serious accusation, and since there's no witness, except for the reviewer...I'm unsure if TER would allow"

TER doesn't allow it, but I've never understood the rationale. Armed robbery is a more serious accusation than illegal drug use, but they allow you to throw around accusations of that in reviews. Plus, the whole business is illegal. If TER actually didn't want us discussing illegal activities, TER wouldn't exist.

They don't even let you say "she was on something," when the something that she was on could have been perfectly legal. Booze, prescription drugs, etc.

JakeFromStateFarm 511 reads
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32 / 53
VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 601 reads
posted
33 / 53

in the Creative Review Writing Department.

Have your friend do his best to come up with some words  
that will warn others of a Losing Proposition.

 
Think:   "shooting up drugs"
               seriously?  

the next guy may be filling out a homicide report,
              not worrying about $$$ he parted with

MassMan 202 Reviews 660 reads
posted
34 / 53

I saw a young lady some time ago. She was highly reviewed and she was on my to-do list. Read my review and use that as a template. There is no reason to destroy her reputation. If she is fighting demons and a close friend reads the review, there is reason to believe her friend will help her gets the help she needs.

bocabuster 19 Reviews 593 reads
posted
35 / 53

I agree.

The entire review system can't be full of 10s but yet there they are.
And the ripoff section doesn't have nearly enough entries.
In the case of the OP why would she have his real cell number?
He's not new so he must be naive or stupid

bocabuster 19 Reviews 503 reads
posted
36 / 53

Great point.
And here is another: as a former detective I can assure you she is not buying her drugs from a Boy Scout
That dealer has a vested interest in protecting his identity. And drugs that heavy aren't peddled by the lil small timer alone.  
Some will take drastic measures to protect themselves and their business.
You don't need to be afraid but you DO need to pay attention and protect yourself.
Don't be a victim...be a man.

VelvetVacation See my TER Reviews 326 reads
posted
37 / 53

he Pressure is ON  
to collect Real Life Information on a guy, before seeing him.

This would be a big motivator, when it comes time to type in that "Number"

Jensen36363 58 Reviews 363 reads
posted
38 / 53

I got that. My point is that unless something thinks posting the details here will be lost in the mass of other such events hasn't that problem already be created? If she's shooting up (not sure what but a number of the drugs that go in via the vein tend to produce more paranoia), is getting paranoid or is just BSC/naturally vindictive and paying any attention here I would guess the cat is out of the bag already thanks to this helpful friend.

Bigben68 10 Reviews 623 reads
posted
39 / 53

Thanks, my friend did say he would like to see her get help.

Great info!

Jensen36363 58 Reviews 575 reads
posted
40 / 53

Well the prostitution is what this is about so kind of pointless to drop that from the site. Armed robbery is a significantly different issue than drug use by a provider. I suspect that's why the allegation of the one is allowed but not the other. It's not about the legal status but other aspects.

You might not be able to say "she was on something" but you can certainly say, she was "uninterested, distracted, inattentive, not engaging, lethargic...." and give a bad review. I think you can also mention that you didn't feel comfortable with her behavior and started to leave and she attempted to prevent you from doing so. (at least in this case). You simply don't need to mention drug usage to accurately report the event.

TheAyanaEffect See my TER Reviews 600 reads
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41 / 53

As long as the review is truthful, he should post it. Its unprofessional and it should be on the record.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 476 reads
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42 / 53

Your examples would work. So would the statement that valuedcustomer mentioned in his reply above, as well as what was said in the link massman posted to his actual review. I have read many reviews that hinted the provider was on drugs without saying "she was on drugs."

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 568 reads
posted
43 / 53

One of my worst experiences was with the same provider! That shit sure does weird stuff to people. I would not knowingly have sex with an IV drug user either. The one I mentioned, I found out well after the fact.  

Edited for typo

-- Modified on 1/8/2017 3:39:16 PM

John_Laroche 486 reads
posted
45 / 53

As for the OP's friend, it just depends on how vulnerable he thinks he is to retaliation.

souls_harbor 396 reads
posted
46 / 53

"Let's you and him fight."   Pretty easy to give advice on the Internet.   But is it coming from a hero or a chickenhawk

scoed 8 Reviews 553 reads
posted
47 / 53

Not an angry one, but honest. Sadly I don't think they allow you to talk about drug use though.

darmody 22 Reviews 505 reads
posted
48 / 53

"It's not about the legal status but other aspects"
-
What are the other aspects?

scoed 8 Reviews 373 reads
posted
49 / 53

Such reviews would attract LE trying to get a free drug bust with a prostitution bust. It would attract robbers wanting drugs. It would attract pimps and abusive clients given her self made vulnerable state.

Posted By: darmody
"It's not about the legal status but other aspects"  
 -  
 What are the other aspects?

bocabuster 19 Reviews 438 reads
posted
50 / 53

I'm single so I've got no concerns about my identity.  
And only one provider on this board has had a phone chat with me on my private cell.
I'd guess most hobbyists have a separate phone or number for the hobby.
So again, what's the OPs issue?

stethdoctor 16 Reviews 511 reads
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51 / 53
Bigben68 10 Reviews 336 reads
posted
52 / 53

He's worried that she could find him thru his phone #

And cause serious problems in his life.

I told him if she's that messed up, she probably won't even
remember him......  I think he's a little too worried about it.

Thx.

darmody 22 Reviews 506 reads
posted
53 / 53

I should think robbery would attract more attention than drugs. Those other things are her problem, in my mind.

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