just not used to body wash, with soap I have more control. Of course not keen on used soap so body wash works just fine if not a fresh bar.
I have read reviews where gals have all kinds of personalized things for their clients, from the typical refreshments, snacks to chocolates and extra fresh towels, and spa essentials etc
In your experiences, what kinds of amenities could a gal have that would really stand out for you? That you would walk away and say WOW, she thought of EVERYTHING?
Is this even a issue for some of you? DO you even notice?
Also what little things can the provider DO that really stand out to you? Not THINGS she offers but what she DOES?
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Had a great time when done she offered a shower and even had some non scented soap. Nice touch.
Do you like soap or the unscented body wash?
just not used to body wash, with soap I have more control. Of course not keen on used soap so body wash works just fine if not a fresh bar.
Here is a "top of my head" list of things that stand out:
I knew one provider (RIP Mikey) who knew I drove a long distance to see her, so she would always have an array of noshes for me when I arrived.
Another provider had a photographic memory about all the personal things I would discuss about my life (kids' names and what grade they are in,etc.) and ask me about them when I saw her. It made me feel very special.
Others treat me to little "I care about you" gifts; which could be anything from foods to toiletires to little bits of artwork.
Another provider whom I had seen for a very long time gave me a wonderful birthday gift: A leather overnight bag which is so high quality that I still use it (20+ years!) for hobbying - in fact it's sitting by the door right now as I prepare to depart for a session.
These things really make my day and are remembered long after the specifics of the session are forgotten.
1.) A provider that shows up freshly showered, it only takes about five minutes to shower.
2.) A provider that's nice enough to clean her client off with a washcloth after he blows his load. At least make the offer to do so, don't just take for granted that the client is suppose to clean himself.
3.) If im entering your in-call having a cold bottle of water available shows that you don't want us to dehydrate in this summer heat.
And lastly having a pet name us for whether its Daddy, Big guy, little guy, lover, handsome, pet names at least for me stroke my ego.
I agree with all three.
I'd say for me that the washing the spooge off with a warm wash cloth gets an extra point on the review.
I don't care about the pet name. I assume that every guy she fucks has the same pet name or it rotates between three different she has.
Growing up in '50s and '60s suburban environment, we knew a lot about our neighbors. One family had three daughters and no sons. The father called every young male visitor by the name of Sam. He always explained it to us whenever we went to visit one of the girls, and I got that lecture before my 7th birthday. It saved him immense work trying to remember all of the teen age boys who filtered through his family. He never once screwed up a relationship by blurting out the recent ex-boyfriend's name by mistake.
If I were a provider [of course I would starve in that event] I would highly recommend having one and only one "pet name" for all of your clients. Even if you are very good, you will eventually slip and call someone by another pet name. Just make sure your regulars never have the opportunity to bump into one another at your incall. Come to think of it, making sure that your monger friends never do bump into each other is another sign of service by the provider to ensure our privacy and safety.
Like refreshments. Take a guess? 
But what I dig is talking. Yeah, I know. Me? Talk? lol!
When we meet, especially if we've seen each other before, I dig you can talk and ask about anything. It's very relaxing, sitting there with a drink, sharing a smoke if you smoke, and talking about whatever. If it's the weather, your kids, your civvie job, talking shit about the mods*, I'm all for it.
I just want you to be as comfortable with me as I am with you. That's the most important thing. After that it just flows. Know what I mean?
*side-note. The pot-shot at the mods was purely intentional. I know this post has to fly by them first, and seeing as how I'm in a crazy mood today, thought I should include them in my shenanigans!
I started mongering in Thailand. Thank you Uncle Sugar for the best damned year of my life... Even in the AMPs there, at least the good ones, extra touches were prevalent. I always brought gifts for both the mama-san and the girls, even if it was somebody I wasn't planning to see that night. They liked fresh macintosh and golden delicious apples and bottles of PhysoHex, but a bottle of Johnny Walker that cost me miniscule bucks, was usually the key to the castle. Even mama-sans at some comped my sessions frequently.
Then I had the good fortune to come to Hawaii for the last 40 years, and my family is local chinese. I don't think I've ever seen anyone visit who didn't bring a gift who wasn't completely rude or was acting on an emergency. Omiyage is originally from our Japanese culture in Hawaii, and has become a significant part of our aloha spirit.
If I take over a bottle of champagne, red wine, white wine, or other beverages, I usually take along a small set of the correct glasses. I always make sure to take my own openers and leave them at the in-call after my date. If I take flowers, I make sure I have a vase or I take live orchids.
Yes, the ladies have nearly all been very demonstrative of their appreciation of my graciousness.
I wish that more ladies took the time to properly equip their kitchen/bar supply, and I would certainly notice and appreciate the provider. I've commented favorably in reviews on the ambiance of several providers' spaces. I see mostly asians, and I've rarely seen a poorly stocked bathroom.
I'm of Scots origin and some of my ancestors firmly believed that everyone should bathe exactly once a year. As a child of parents who grew up in the pre-war deptession, baths more than once a week were frowned on. In the tropics, this is a very poor idea, so cleanliness of an incall or AMP including the monger and zero tolerance for smoke, or heavily scented soaps or perfume. I consider those as a 'gift' I can't take home with me.
My best return on investment no longer incites freebies, but I've had a Thai AMP in Honolulu bring me a serving of my favorite curries. One Thai provider in LA took me out to dinner and wouldn't allow me to pay or even leave the tip. Better yet, she would make an extra effort to work me in to her schedule.
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What comes around, goes around...
In your experiences, what kinds of amenities could a gal have that would really stand out for you? That you would walk away and say WOW, she thought of EVERYTHING?
Is this even a issue for some of you? DO you even notice?
Also what little things can the provider DO that really stand out to you? Not THINGS she offers but what she DOES?
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I also tend to take notice when her incall is very neat and tidy, as well as her bathroom ...and yes, some of us do take notice of the personal details (fresh towels) and amenities (shower gel, mouthwash, breath mints, etc.) that are provided for us clients. It's also nice when I'm offered a shower either before, after or both without having to ask (and even nicer when she unexpectedly pops in and join me ...LOL).
Since I don't have an SO to worry about, one of my ATFs has a fragrance that she always puts on before I arrive that drives me totally crazy (in a good way, of course). I love that scent on her and it always reminds me of her and the great times we've spent together.
I've noticed this topic mostly discusses incalls however, what is appreciated on an outcall girl? other than the usual freshly showered. What would you like to see on an outcall?
For example, recently a gal brought some exfoliating gloves and scrubbed my back with them in the shower.
I thought that was the bomb.
I like mrfisher's suggestions and even if I don't request anything special in regards to amenities or toys, it's always nice getting surprised . Once, my ATF wanted to introduce me to something new, so she brought along one of those Aneros prostrate massagers as a gift.
Some providers that I've seen also like to set the "mood" for a GFE session by bringing candles, iPod w/mini-speakers, sensual massage oils, etc. They also make those flameless candles (battery powered), so you don't risk catching your hotel room on fire. LOL!
>Remember what I like to drink and have it on hand. One provider had it ice cold and waiting for me on the dresser in the bedroom.
>Not only offer the shower but get it started for me. Have towels and wash clothes laid out ready to use.
>While I'm showering before leaving lay my clothes out on the bed ready for me when I come out.
>Have mouthwash and other sundry items in the bathroom.
>Yes, have a warm cloth for cleanup after an orgasm.
All of these are things providers have done for me. I noticed and appreciated it very much. I did not go in expecting it.
>The unscented soap is a good thing. Body wash or soap, doesn't matter to me.
>Remember things we have talked about and ask how's it going.
For out calls seems to me many of the above things are what I need to do. What can she do in an out call situation is remember things from past meetings and talk about them. Wear something to the out call (appropriate of course) that she knows I like or bring an outfit to change into that is a favorite of mine. First time situations this would not be possible of course.
For example, one provider had some nice new age music going on her i-pod and I complimented her on her selections. She asked what new age composers I liked best and I mentioned that Brian Eno's ambiant music has always been a favortie of mine.
Sure enough some months later we meet and Brian Eno's Music for Airports was playing.
It is the thought that counts, often.
It is nice if they remember something unique about you. One I saw for the first time in two and a half years remembered the name of a favorite sports team. She noted how they were on a winning streak. I thought it was pretty cool that she remembered.
A major "little thing" is to ASK if I have preferences. I'm not shy about what i like, and i prefer to be in 'control.'
However, my experience has been that many women have certain methods they use with everyone thery are with. Nothing is more of a buzzkill than to have to say NO to a lady who just starts doing something.
One example is a lady who always grabs her bottle of baby oil and quirts it on before you can even tell her that baby oil not ok!
Respect goes beyond tone of voice and politeness. It cannot include presumption in my book.
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I discourage gifts because I can't really take them home with me. So what things are the best?
A little back & forth before the session, taking a little time to learn my music tastes, etc., and put a little effort into making me comfortable that way.
I realize that's not too easy in the context of a lady touring a city and having multiple sessions in a day.
Catherine Banning of Orlando was the best I've ever met at learning a little more about me, and then putting some effort into making me feel like I was a king.
The very best providers will do things to make you feel special. They'll flirt, tease, converse, act interested, seduce you; and set the mood with lighting, candles, music, their apparel etc... It's more than a "get comfortable and lets do it" scenario. All of this effort gets noticed and is appreciated.
Lagniappe.
A lagniappe ( /ˈlænjæp/ lan-yap) is a small gift given to a customer by a merchant at the time of a purchase (such as a 13th donut when buying a dozen), or more broadly, "something given or obtained gratuitously or by way of good measure."[1] The word is chiefly used in the Gulf Coast of the United States, especially Louisiana.[2]
The word entered English from Louisiana French, in turn derived from the American Spanish phrase la ñapa ('something that is added' ). The term has been traced back to the Quechua word yapay ('to increase; to add'). In Andean markets it is still customary to ask for a yapa when making a purchase. The seller usually responds by throwing in a little extra. Although this is an old custom, it is still widely practiced today in Louisiana. This custom is also widely practiced in southeast Asia. Street vendors, especially vegetable vendors, are expected to throw in a few green chillies or a small bunch of cilantro with a purchase
Here's a few things I thought of -
Her remembering at least some details from prior visits or communications (this has to be harder than it sounds even if a lady only sees a couple of people per day).
I know of an FBSM provider who always leaves a (packaged) mint at the head of the massage table for each client before they arrive. Even though I didn't use it because I had already freshened my breath, I thought it was a great and convenient way to gently remind everyone to have fresh breath.
Offering a cold bottle of water at the beginning, and again before I leave.
Nice relatively high thread count sheets.
Full massage head to toe including scalp, ears, face (gently on closed eye lids, if no contact lenses), feet, before coming back for the finish.
A couple drops of lube inside the tip of a condom (or a pea-sized dab if it's a thicker lube) to increase sensation.
Hot/warm towels used for things like wiping the massage oil off my back before flipping, and for cleanup (warm washcloth is good for cleanup too).
There was a woman who during cleanup would make sure her clients were "emptied" completely, by carefully but thoroughly pressing/sliding on their urethra with her alternating thumbs all the way from the "taint" to the opening to emit the last drop. Surprisingly pleasant and relaxing.
Starting the shower running for me before I get in.
Washing/scrubbing my back for me in the shower.
A large soft fluffy towel for drying off.
I do notice and appreciate the small details.