SD the girl is more likely to act like a gf sooner or later, could get clingy, could want more than you initially offered, or instead of being clingy she could just call you when she wants money or need something paid for. Good side you can be even pickier than you might be with the providers you pick, it's a good chance you're the only penis she's seeing.
escort you call her when you want, she won't blow your phone up like an SD might so you don't have to make a lot of effort keeping up a sort of relationship like with a sugar baby, might can do things with an escort that an SB might not let you do, etc.
They are almost the same imo but you imo have more control seeing an escort vs an getting a sugar baby, you know an escort is more interested in your money vs if you actually want to start out with something more like an actual relationship like you would with an sb. I've been the SB twice, it's alright for a while.
I am new to the Erotic Review, I am trying to debate whether to see an escort or become a sugar daddy. I don't know the pros and cons of each, so some expert advice is really appreciated. Which would you recommend? Has anyone had lucky with having a mutually beneficial arrangement with a woman, or have you had more luck seeing escorts?
I am new to the Erotic Review, I am trying to debate whether to see an escort or become a sugar daddy. I don't know the pros and cons of each, so some expert advice is really appreciated. Which would you recommend? Has anyone had lucky with having a mutually beneficial arrangement with a woman, or have you had more luck seeing escorts?
Let me know your thoughts gentlemen and ladies!
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There is no difference between a self proclaimed escort, and a sugar baby. Either way you look at it you are paying for her company. The biggest difference is the way society interprets what we do versus a sugar baby. What goes on here is illegal because we are honest about what our expectations are, what goes on with Sugar Babies and Sugar Daddies/Mommas is legal bc THEY ARE IN DENIAL.
Sugar Babies are being paid to be with you.....escorts are being paid to be with you.
See escorts. They're cheaper and in the esteemed words of Charlie Sheen, "you pay them to go away." Sugar Daddy is a euphemism for foolish old man. Of the two guys I know that did the SG route, one is now divorced because his sugar baby made his life hell. The other regrets his choice. Now you can also be a SG to an escort, but she'll charge you twice for being a damned fool.
Been there, done that with respect to being a sugar-daddy. I do not recommend that arrangement, but that is simply one person's opinion; however, I believe it is a well-informed position. Nevertheless, am sure there are others with a contrary opinion, a perspective that they consider also to be well-informed. Why do I not recommend? There was, unfortunately, never any real quid pro quo. The return on my financial and emotional investment did not provide a good return, at least for me the return was nominal. I was hoping for a little more than a mere commercial relationship (perhaps this was unrealistic), but I never really even got that, and I ended up paying a lot but receiving a meager return with respect to physical and emotional gratification. Should have drawn up a covenant that required both of us to make certain pledges to one another. That could have possibly done the trick. I have found that spending time with various escorts and spreading the wealth around, so to speak, to be more satisfying. By seeing escorts, I believe you are fairly certain that you will get a good return on your financial, emotional, and time investments; and when you do not, then you can quickly move on and find someone that gives back and is less likely to only be taking. My two cents. That and a few bucks will get you a cup of coffee at Starbucks. Wish there was and easy answer to your question; and if anyone tells you there is any answer to your question, then I think I would be hesitant to listen to his or her advice. The sugar-daddy arrangement can possibly work, but it did not work for me, and I tried it for about two years and came back to the world of hobbying. I am much more content now.
SD the girl is more likely to act like a gf sooner or later, could get clingy, could want more than you initially offered, or instead of being clingy she could just call you when she wants money or need something paid for. Good side you can be even pickier than you might be with the providers you pick, it's a good chance you're the only penis she's seeing.
escort you call her when you want, she won't blow your phone up like an SD might so you don't have to make a lot of effort keeping up a sort of relationship like with a sugar baby, might can do things with an escort that an SB might not let you do, etc.
They are almost the same imo but you imo have more control seeing an escort vs an getting a sugar baby, you know an escort is more interested in your money vs if you actually want to start out with something more like an actual relationship like you would with an sb. I've been the SB twice, it's alright for a while.
I am listed on a sugar daddy site. Just to try it out. Listed an ad yesterday and so far.. it seems a hassle.
Guess what? If you (or anyone) wants to have a great friend relationship with an escort.. you just build one. Find a fun lady you like and be her friend. See her needs before she asks you. You can dictate what you spend. it is so much more honest to not play some hustling guessing game.
If you are considerate to the lady of your choice she will be more open and considerate with you. Here is an example: I have a 'client' (for lack of a better word even tho I have to use 'client' since I feel I have relationships) who knows I'm doing some home improvement and hitting $ snags. HE is so so so fun, smart. I love to hang out with him. He prepaid for 3 dinnerdates so I'd have cash to do part of my project. and when my compressor went out on my air last week he emailed and told me if I needed some help to let him know. I didn't.. But his offering and me knowing I can depend on him to help means he gets extra time and extra consideration on all matters. We have the occasional email and phone calls between his visits to town... THAT is a type of sugar daddy to me. His is genuinely concerned with my well being. We talk about things and seem to vibe with each other.. do things together. He helps me out.
I have a friend I also stay in contact with who just spontaneously sends me a little cash now and then to be sweet. I love him. He is a type of sugar daddy to me. He has only seen me once but values the emails we exchange and being part of my life so he takes care of me in a small caring way.
But on the sugar daddy site men are approaching with alot of BS... wanting secret private meetings for a set time , like and hour or two.. and offering money or asking what 'support' a girl needs for say an hour or two..... WHY do those men use a sugar site..? I don't get it. If they are trying to get to know and have a friend with a lady they sure dont' seem like it.
I don't think there's a correct answer as far as "right" and "wrong", only preference. I prefer arrangements, and in fact being a provider has been a great way to meet people I can have fantastic arrangements with and they have often continued happy and healthy for years.
Part of what you have to consider in making the choice is financial commitment - what can you realistically afford to spend. If you can't afford to make significant contributions to someone's financial and lifestyle stability, you can't be a Sugar Daddy. To be honest you can't answer the question without really coming to a conclusion of what you want out of the relationship. If you just want to get laid and chill out a bit without much talk between dates - Escort. If you want someone you see steady that is all about fun - Sugar Daddy. If you want something a little more complex - Mistress.
Also keep in mind that Escorts can become Sugar Babe's and Mistresses. The truth is, if you want to find the right sugar babe, you're going to have to do some dating. Explore around, meet a few women, until you find someone that's right for you. The best instances I've known are men who really liked an escort they found after sharing a bunch of dates, and then suggested some kind of arrangement. And over time if the relationship is wonderful and healthy, the arrangement evolves.
And like any relationship, a sugar babe or mistress will require getting to know her, caring about her, being considerate towards the relationship you two develop and emotional investment. If you want none of that - stick to escorts.
As a Sugar Daddy, you are either buying her gifts, paying a few bills, or provide an allowance of some kind. The hazards here come with the fact that things are Undefined. There may not be X amount of dollars for obligation or time. So, she may feel taken advantage of because you see her a lot and don't give her enough to maintain a comfortable or luxurious lifestyle. You may feel taken advantage of because she takes too much and doesn't give enough back to you in the way of physical and emotional fulfillment.
If your going to take the Sugar Daddy route, I would suggest don't let things be totally left in the air. Make some kind of structure, let her know that you're only willing to do XYZ for her, and based on that you want to know what kind of relationship she'd like having. And that way if you want to and are in a position to do more, it's a bonus but not expected.
And please don't be naive enough to believe that she's only seeing you, even if she says so. There are cases where a woman may only have one Sugar Daddy, but it's pretty uncommon. Also be careful with shopping sprees unless you like and can afford them. If you do it once, it will become an expected standard.
I think it is a highly personal decision. I might be a bit prejudiced but I think escort is the way to go.
I do think the sugar thing can work, if there is great chemistry, rapport and general sense of unbridled fun and passion. I think that this is hard to find in the long-term.
If you do find it, it could prove to be a rewarding girl-friendly like experience. Do prepare yourself for lots of interviews. Just my 2 cents. Best of luck Jimmy
I'm new to the hobby also. But in the past I had a awsome sugar daddy. He passed away in November. I think a sugar daddy is better ! Because you get to know the person ! You know there like's and dislikes. And the sex just get's better as time's goes by., Trip's are a blast if you have alot in common with the lady you choose. It's alot better when you know the person instead of meeting a stranger. He was my security!!! I hope I find another man that will be as good to me as he was !
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but I think escort is the way to go.