San Francisco
Hey Everyone,
It was just brought to my attention that this is a place where we can discuss fun and sexual content...Yeahwhoo as a fairly new provider and one who is just "now" using TER for more then my personal gain.... I wanted to know why more people don't discuss fun topics?
I have one girls...."What is your idea of a good "oral lover"? I mean I find that most men don't DATY long enough...Yes, I do love this part of sexual foreplay but why don't men do it longer? Does their tongue get tired or are they more into getting their needs met? OR do most girls not like it that much so they're used to limited action? I am talking about the same issue even when I am with my boyfriends....
What is up with this....Any Idea GUYs???
Now you are all going to tell me how long you do it for...right? Well next time I want you to "time yourself" and then get back to me...... I would love to do a survey on this...any ideas?
I know... the crazy girl Porscha, but hey, she is just a good girl who really is genuine she just loves DATY 
oes anyone post other than for personal advertisement gain?
Yeah, I'm the same way. I haven't timed myself but I try to "got with the flow" and sense when she's ready for me to stop. There has been one case where I spent the entire session DATY so I guess you can say I really enjoy it.
I've also had this sort of "backfire" on me once. I helped a provider climax possibly a bit prematurely as she was too sensitive to allow me to continue and the rest of the session was somewhat restrictive (I was thinking "shop was closed" or maybe she just wanted to get things over with).
I really enjoying worshipping the female body as I find it to be a truly amazing artform.
Peace...
Hey gurl... the one session where I spent the entire session DATY was only a 1 hr session but that's something I enjoy doing as long as the lady is receptive to it.
I _really_ love doing it! I don't claim to be a "master" or anything and I try to learn the lady I'm with as quickly as possible and I follow her lead as best as I can. Sometimes I suffer from tongue fatigue but I've been trying to figure out a way I can condition my tongue and mouth a bit more so I can control that part better. Sometimes I spend so much time using my mouth that my tongue and jaws will be sore for a day or two afterward.
I've got a number of fantasies revolving completely (or mostly) around DATY.. we'll have to discuss them sometime... 
Peace...
Like Carlee said, it's really about communication. We guys can't "expect" the ladies to dig our the way we touch them or try to pleasure them orally or sexually unless we take the time to find out what THEY want or like, provided they are open to allowing you to "go there".
I've also been with providers who didn't allow DATY, or at least from me. I've been with providers who didn't allow DATY with others but DID with me and this was during our first meeting/encounter.
Talk to the lady, feel out her boundaries and most definitely respect them. Ask her how and where she likes to be touched and do that as best as you can. Try not to expect her to "pop" all night long but enjoy the moments you're spending with her and just have fun!
Peace...
By the way Carlee and Porscha, how long is the longest amount of time a guy has spent tasting your passion fruit and hopefully savoring the nectar?
Peace...
The direct contact methods I can see, to a degree, but the reviews I'm sort of leary of. They're far too subjective, there's too much embellishment that goes on, and there's definitely a question of accuracy at play. I don't consider the reviews to be totally useless but I don't base decisions on who to see on them either.
I'm glad you brought up the term "GFE" as I consider it to be quite the interesting term. Most use it to refer to types of services rendered. Others use it to refer to the overall experience. How can one tell what the meaning of "GFE" is from reading a review?
I've seen ladies who didn't DFK yet with whom I've had some intense "GFE" sessions. I've spent time with ladies who performed every service you can imagine that's classified as "GFE" and I've had an absolute blast with them but that's not to say the time we spent together was enjoyable to them on a personal level. Some ladies are masters at trying to fulfill our fantasies to the best of their abilities. They know what to do and what to say and how to make the time we spend together genuinely special. This isn't to say the experience is "bogus" or anything but only not necessarily what WE might think it is based on how things go.
I've met some wonderful ladies over the years and I've learned a LOT about myself, relationships, my expectations, and my sexuality and the most important thing I've learned is the way I "connect" or not "connect" with a lady is purely between us and I hope the time we spend together can be mutually enjoyed as much as possible. I know I'll have a great time but I hope she's able to have as much fun as she's open to having.
Peace...
Well, I can certainly respect how you use the reviews to do your research but I've found for me it's best to just see how we get along. There have been some instances where the "trend" in the reviews is nothing like the experience I might have with a lady.
As for the best "GFE" in our area? That's a hard question for me to answer since there are some many great ladies with whom I have many different kinds of experiences with. For example, I've had some very intense sessions with Lady Atria but most would NOT consider her to be a "GFE" at all given her very strict adherence to safety. However, based on the kind of feedback one expects to come to the conclusion a provider isn't in it *just* for the money, Atria is probably the *definitive* "GFE" since it is real and very personal to her. Tia Paybon and I always have a great time together as well as Asian Mellissa and I. The experiences I've had with all 3 ladies I would consider "GFE", except in the case of Mellissa since I can't imagine having a girlfriend with her energy, stamina, and libido.
Now that you've got me thinking about it (uh-oh ), the one girlfriend I *have* had wasn't really into pleasuring me, specifically, as much as making sure I was being pleased as she was. Maybe other girlfriends tend to focus more on the guy but I would think a real girlfriend/boyfriend relationship would be more of mutual thing than just a one-sided thing. If I'm with a provider who DFK me and performs other "GFE" services isn't in a headspace where she *wants* me to pleasure her vs her allowing me to try to do so, is that really a "GFE"? Personally, I think "GFE" as we know it today should be called "GFS", where 'S'=services. I think this would be much more clear. Not every girlfriend out there will be open to kissing or other oral activities as one would probably want.
With regard to local GFE providers, I guess I really haven't seen that many. Or I haven't seen many that most would consider to be "GFE" providers because of services they might not always provide.
Peace...